hmm the guy lied to u, so i would ask him what the reason was for that..
Then i would just have a good conversation with him, make him realise that u don't like/want all this when ur married
and everything...But he didn't go fysical with the gurl, so i wouldn't do crazy/nasty things... Show the other gurl that ur his woman, and she's nothing !!

But when they dont live in Naija, and they are not giving anything, they are also not taking cuz they don't live there..

And 9/10 Nigerians who live abroad send money to their family every month...so they still bring something to their
home country...

What kind of bullsh*t is that ??!

So if 1 lies, everybody does...that is crazy

and call me a country that doesn't...

@ dolphinkate, u are so right !
If i see all the people suffer in my country to get papers, work, education, a family life,... it makes me very sad.
U are talking about work, but people without those papers can not work, not even to go pluck tomatoes...the only thing they can do is crime.. selling drugs, human trafficing, prostitution, ...

So NO it's not worth it at all, i think my bf would agree !

i understand when everybody is saying that is not mature to fight and everything
and yes ur bf/gf gotta make their own choice to stay or take somebody else

but with my exbf i had a problem like this, and then it was a real close friend of mine who wanted to take him away from me
she just played real evil tricks to brake us up, it took me a long time before i figured it out...but when i did, i was ready to fight her uh just cuz i couldnt believe what happened...

Anyway, i didnt fight, the guy and me are history...but am just saying,that moment i realy felt like beating her

i always think fights dont solve anything, it shows ur not strong enough with ur mouth...
But if my relationship is realy serious, and the guy is realy MY man, then i can do anything for him...
so yes also fight

But the first thing that would come up in my mind is, the other girl cant force him to be with her, so why should i worry
if he realy loves me, he will stay by my side..

Yes i can... An other job i can find, or an other business i can start later
but finding a good man/having a good marriage is priceless !!

@ BD, i know u don't mean like they are gay, but i think it's a stupid thing to say
just cuz they use sweet pet names for their gf...that's all

tsss...if they would be gay they don't have gf to give pet name

wauw  if u see all the answers, men can be soooo sweet 

he calls me sweetie, baby, love, mommy
i call him, baby, sweetie, monkey, daddy, ...

true...
But sometimes when i see things that go on around here just for papers,
i think it would be better not to try...people realy suffer here without papers (Belgium)

As somebody that lives in EU, i can tell u
that Nigerians don't have a bad reputation....
Comparing to people that live here (Belgium) from other African country's...

How can u have sex with no strings attached and there is no protection??

Maybe not more then men, but we do think/talk about it
I think we talk about diff things then men i guess