When it was used against me, I really didn't have any feelings for the girl. However when she decided to hook up with my cousin, it oddly gave me the urge to pursue her and if she had played her cards right, I would have fallen for her.

It's far from an exact science but......It worked on me....very well actually and I have seen it work on other people.

This might sound a bit cold hearted but I can assure you it works. Use jealousy. Make them think that they can lose you to someone more attractive than they are and a lot of the time, that fear of loss will make them do anything to get you back.

Use this one with care, it really is playing with fire. Make sure you actually care about the other person.

Bottom line: It works.

I think love is a choice.

I think that initial feeling where you're heart is beating, you can't stop thinking about them, you want to be around them always and do anything for them can be classified as either lust or infatuation.

But in my opinion love is a choice. If you are looking at the person you are supposed to be in a relationship with and all you can see is a stupid, disgusting, fat, son of a cow who you feel like you just want to......(you get the picture).....if in that moment, you chose that you will stay with that person, care for that person and put their feelings above yours. That's love....unconditional love.

You've probably heard it before but it can't hurt to say it one more time: Men chasing women.

Men from a very young age love to be the one who chases the girl and gets the girl. A lot of women take great pleasure in being thought of as beautiful enough to be chased by one (or two or three or 50 or whatever) different men.

Whereas most men don't mind being approached by women, they rarely respect these women as much as women who they chase and get for themselves. Interestingly enough, in most cases, women who approach men, are usually just approaching them for sex anyway. If the woman truly cares about a man, very few have the guts to put themselves on the line, it's just not something a lot of women are used to doing.

So in short, if you're a man and you want a woman, go after her, even if she plays hard to get until you get here (making sure you remain within the law). Women don't give it up too easy, the man will actually appreciate you more in many cases if you don't (not too much hard to get though, he may just give up and/or move on).

There's my humble two cents on the issue.