How do you know this is not original.....this was done in 1994....I thought I just share....you don't have to read it or comment on it.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make
plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where
he fits.

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.

Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends.

I am so disappointed in you....

I think men won't read it...but it's mainly for the women.
Sorry Men, I will not shorten anything for you. 

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you,
nothing can make him stay.

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him
alone.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

6. Don't force an attraction.

7. Slower is better.

8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.

9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a
friend.

10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make
you stupid. God does things decent and in order.

11. Don't settle.

12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG
sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?

14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole
lot of mess.

16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any
differently?

19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.

20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.

21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,
speak up.

23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't
that interested.

24. Be honest and upfront.

25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.

26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the
situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).

27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he
treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If
he causes any of them...flee.

29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow
himself -- double-standard.

31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he
has more education or in a better job.

32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing
less.

33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!

34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to
what they see.

35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and
if you feel he's lying, let him go.

36. Actions speak louder than words.

37. Never let a man define who you are.

38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.

39. Never borrow someone else's man.

40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you
and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.

42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.

43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1
person in your life.

44. Love is a verb ...

45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone
unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.

46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

47. All men are NOT dogs.

48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two
way street.

49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.

50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.

51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not
supplementary.

53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.

55. Never become your man's "therapist".

56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the
actions.

57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it -
but it takes two to make it work.

58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you
there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.

59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and
you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.

60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to
spend time with you, You canâ€(tm)t force a man to hang out with you.

61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.

62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

63. Never move into his mother's house.

64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.

65. Never co-sign for a man.

66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.

67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.

68. Never let a man mess up your credit.

69. When it's time to let go; let go.

70. Good men should be treated like good men.

71. Don't play games.

72. You can't make a wh*re into a housewife - or husband.

73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you
need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs,
personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.

75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.

BONUS - A man who doesn't love his mother can never really truly love a
woman!!!!

I like that...
I was always thought it's better when you get engaged.

You still haven't answered the question.

You should leave them both alone.....you starting seeing the second girl while still with the first, you're a cheater...you should think long and hard about marriage....I can just see how your marriage is going to be.

Wow...is this question that difficult??

When do you think is a good time to cohabitate with your SO if you're unmarried but exclusively dating?

Is it based off length of time together? How you feel? Married/unmarried? Convenience?

bwahahahahahahahahahaha

It depends on the age. I went to my OB/GYN not too long ago and she told me that the average for a women of 26 is 7.

To me I think 5 is too many.

This in the romance/relationship forum??

Why would you date your best friend's ex?? That's a rule between woman.
You are nasty if you even think about being with him.

I actually would not; that is too much baggage for him to handle. Even if he says he can, he shouldn't...not at 25.

I don't see a problem...
Are they dating?

The only think I can think of with her being 32, is that her life and career should be very clear as to what she wants; whereas with him being just 25, he is probably just starting his life and career. But if they are dating exclusively (meaning neither one has a husband/wife/bf/gf), than that's okay.

No if he is stalking her and she is not paying him any attention, that's a problem....I would advise him to find a woman who is interested in him.

Wow...that's a tough one; I can't tell you where to start.
I do suggest that you don't marry him or continue with the relationship. Let your parents and close family and friends know, b/c you are going to need all the love, support and money you can get. Definitely finish school.
If you decide to have the baby, some sort of an agreement should be reached b/w you and him. Don't fight with the girl over this man; don't call her girl for anything....she owes you nothing and you owe her nothing.
I think that's all I can give you....I'm sorry for what you are going through. Good luck. 

2 yrs....if after that time, you don't start thinking about marriage, you are wasting your time.

Why are you friends with a rapist?

@Topic....rape has nothing to do with sex.

Right??  Craziness....