first of all ... Successful relationships take hard work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads.
1. Understand that men and women are very different... We're not from Mars or Venus; we're not even in the same solar system. Understanding and celebrating our differences will make living together more peaceful, interesting and fun.
2. Honor your man in some way every day... Every morning, you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by recommitting to your mate. Feeling respected and cherished by the one you love makes life much nicer.
3. Anger is a waste of time... Anger also is a relationship killer because it makes you self-absorbed and won't allow you to see the good. If you are annoyed with your man, give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss what's going on for you....
4. Get regular tune-ups... Go to a couples/bf n gf (if any) workshop, talk with a counselor or read a relationship book together at least once a year. Even if you don't think that you need ideas, and the process alone will strengthen your connection.
5. Find a way to become and stay best friends. For some, this sounds unromantic, but for those who live it, most say it's the best part of their time together.
6. Be responsible for your own happiness..no other person can make you happy..It's something that you have to do on your own. If you feel that it's your partner's fault, think again, and look within to find out what piece may be missing for you.
7. Give what you want to get..... Our needs change with time. If you'd like to feel understood, try being more understanding. If you want to feel more love, try giving more. It's a simple program that really works....
8. All arguments stem from our own fear or pain. When upset occurs, check out what's going on inside you rather than getting angry with your partner. Truth is that we usually aren't upset for the reasons we think we are.
sis, if i tell u i do virtually all these will u bliv? dey ar just not genuine. its only d genuine ones and those dat want to b in a r/s dat dis is applicable to. i cant be understandin when i know he's playing games na..for e.g on vals day, my by (now ex) didnt call nor sent text whereas i did both, wen i asked y, he said dia was network prblm, d next day i saw him, a gurl was used as his screen saver...so tellme, how understandin can u be in this case??