the bible alredy has a standard for the kind of person u should marry.the standard is not for a particular lady but any lady that meet that standard is God will for u.thats d reason its not just a particular lady cos God has substitute but there is a sure standard.(2 peter 5-7).its so unfortunate that som pastors dont know d truth hence they just say their own xperience.we also need to study to really know the truth.