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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Nine (9) Marital Mannerisms That Are Actually Good For Your Relationship |
on: 5-06-2013 08:42 AM
| Every marriage has its uh-oh moments that leave you questioning your compatibility as a couple. While some behaviors, like cheating, are obvious deal-breakers, other seeming threats can actually have a positive impact on your relationship.(watch out for these things and don’t go too far.) Learn how these marital issues can boost your bond, add romance and more1.You both fantasize about other people: "A vivid imagination allows you to open up to your partner physically and emotionally." So thinking about a sexy neighbor, for example, can improve your marriage as long as those racy visions stay in your mind. That means leave it out of pillow talk; neither of you needs to know exactly who or what the other is thinking about. And don’t let daydreams jeopardize the intimacy you feel with your spouse, “The danger is when fantasy becomes an obsession that overshadows a real relationship.
2. He/She goes out with the guys/Ladies: Happily married couples have an active life together and dynamic life apart, Interests and hobbies outside of marriage feed a person’s spirit and help break up routine
3. You argue a lot: Fighting isn’t necessarily a sign of a broken relationship, “It means you trust each other enough to share your feelings, The key is arguing without attacking your spouse’s character. And when you hear him out out and solve misunderstandings, you're strengthening your bond. Even recurring fights aren’t cause for concern. "Couples tend to recycle arguments, “Identify what you keep arguing about when you're not in the heart of a fight. Try, ‘I know you don't like the way I clean the kitchen, but it looks clean to me when I'm done. How can I make you feel better about it?’ Listen, and then mention what triggers you and why it's important to you. If you're constantly arguing about things that you can’t change about each other, like personality traits, you have to decide whether or not you can live with them.
4. He spends a lot of money on his hobbies: if the bills are paid and the kids are taken care of, let your husband get new golf clubs or go on a fishing trip.” Couples need to feel like they’re growing as individuals, and occasional splurges can enhance personal fulfillment. “When two people are happy separately, they have a better shot of going the distance together,
5. He/She uses bad:[/b] bad is a slippery slope, but it doesn’t have to mean disaster, . Couples who are honest about their interest in bad may be able to incorporate it into their sex lives. “Consider using it as a lead-up to the act or to enhance your routine, It only becomes problematic when bad is used in secret or instead of interaction with a partner. But if he or you use it occasionally when the other’s not around, that’s okay.
6. He works all the time: If your man is a workhorse, think back to when you first started dating, Chances are, his drive and passion for his job are qualities that initially attracted you to him. But it could be a problem if “work always comes first ahead of your kid’s school play or your anniversary.
7. You both flirt with other people online: Between Facebook, Twitter and more, it’s easier than ever to reconnect with old flames, But flirty friendships can be healthy as long as they don’t get physical, “It’s a self-esteem boost when men you don’t live with find you smart, inspiring and beautiful, When women feel good, they make better moms and wives. But be careful: Virtual relationships lose their innocence when a married person becomes infatuated with someone else. And that obsession can cause someone to mislead their online love interest. "Avoid giving off vibes like you might get a divorce,“Bashing your husband because you’re having a bad day isn’t okay. Sending provocative photos is also a bad idea.
8. You’re too tired for sex: “We’re all overscheduled" It’s hard to find time for anything, let alone making love." But the less you do it, the less you’ll want to do it: A lack of intercourse causes testosterone levels to drop in both sexes, Instead of waiting for inspiration to strike, schedule sex. It gives you something to anticipate, And have fun with it! e.g...Designate Tuesday night as date night then, send playful texts during the day to fuel the fire.
[b]9. He’s close with a female colleague: Acknowledge that your husband’s success on the job may be a direct result of his ability to work well with others. In fact, your financial stability and social status may depend on this specific office relationship, While the potential exists for segxwal feelings to arise when a man and woman work together, couples can beat the threat by talking openly about their fears. If your man is getting too chummy with his office wife "per say", ask him to keep conversations work-specific, stick to public places and avoid alcohol, which can lead to inappropriate behavior.[/color] | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: IS IT PROPER TO TELL A BOYFRIEND ABOUT YOUR EARNINGS/SALARY? |
on: 5-06-2013 08:02 AM
| Thank God u said "INVEST WISELY". Dat alone tells u dat in issues lyk dese, U need to be cautious. When u put in all ur efforts in a rlatnshp, d question u nid to ask urself is, "IS MY PARTNER DOING THE SAME"? IS HE OR SHE DOING HEAVEN AND EARTH FOR ME DAT I TRULY DESERVE?? If ure putting all ur efforts and ur partner isnt appreciative of it or doesnt seem to put any effort as well, wat will u do??? Have it mind dat wen someone seems to do almost everytin in a rlatnshp to make it work, d oda partner tends to relax. somtyms, wen we arent sure of d future, we shud give a chance for d oda partner to show wat he or she has in store for u. if u decide to do all d work in a rlatnshp, ur partner will relax. D equation here isnt balanced. its only a balanced rlatnshp dat can go far. Not every man is d same.Not every man has d mentality of balancing a rlatnshp. some men wud just watch u do evrytin for dem and yet fantasize about anoda lady dat does absolutely nofin for dem. and dats y u nid to be cautious n watch ur man more dan playing the role of a mother too soon. A saying says "if u want to be treated lyk a Queen, den act lyk One". A Queen allows pple to do tins for her n if a man treats her so, she wud treat him lyk a King. Caution is d word here. well, U cud throw away the caution n come back and tell us how it worked for u.
u dey spik too much grama.. even if it turns out to be foolish.. u dont expect a reward wen showing love, do u? | | |
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Forum / Naijapals Base (Metro life) / Ten (10) Commandments For a Youth To be Successful |
on: 4-06-2013 02:30 PM
| 1. Do not depend on your parents' wealth. Someone may come tomorrow to dupe you and you will lose everything. Learn to do things on your own.
2. God has given everyone a talent. Pray about yours, discover it, and work on it. Then it will work out for you.
3. Do not just sit down and ping, tweet, facebook while others are making money with their talents. Be wise for once, the owners of these social networks are using you to make money.
4. It is good to appreciate good things, but learn to appreciate it wisely and stop arguing unnecessarily about football and players. When will people argue about you also? Think about!
5. Don't feel like a Don for sleeping with too many ladies, they won't make your destiny fulfilled as some are filled with bad luck.
6. Learn to get a lady close to you to be successful as they say: without a woman, a man cannot be successful. (note a lady not just some girl)
7. Learn to solve problem on your own, it is a good way of making it in life. Don't copy others, tap little from them and modify it.
8.Stop drinking and smoking too much as it may damage your life too much. Do it socially.
9. Learn to have a good heart, help people around you if you have the power as they'll use their heart to bless you.
10. Think about impossible things, try to make it possible. Bigger people started from somewhere | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: IS IT PROPER TO TELL A BOYFRIEND ABOUT YOUR EARNINGS/SALARY? |
on: 4-06-2013 10:00 AM
| yes. Ure ryt. He may be tempted to start making demands but dis can only happen if he's jobless n ure d one dat decided to foot his bills. Somtyms, men dnt make d demands,its we d stupid women dat take it upon ourselvs to be luk desperate n spend 4 d men. In ur case, he's open abt his.so derefore u shud be open abt urs. Its ur choice at d end of d day.
even when he is jobless and makes no demand from her.. My dear not every woman who spend on her man is Stupid/foolish...money offcourse they say is the root of all evil.. if you dont spend on ur man as your spouse, or ur kids, who then will you spend it on, ur friends? even if you spend on him as ur bf whom u love,cherish and even worship the ground he walks on...and at the end of the day, it didnt work out so well like you taught, den it was never his fault.. but yours...Besides money has nvr made man(humans) happy...nor will it.. theres nothing in its nature to produce happiness.. cos the more of it one has, the more one wants..Margaret Thatcher said.. it is not the creation of wealth that is wrong.. but the love of money for its own sake.. besides a rltnshp or Marriage that makes nothing but money is a poor marriage or rltnshp... | | | |