Women of opportunity and position rather than virtue should open doors to all women by breaking barriers that prevent others from moving on and doing better. Mrs. Dame Patient Goodluck has done well here to set an example for all Nigerian and African women to set goals for themselves. Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs ending with self actualization comes to terms with what this woman has done for all women in practical and symbolic way. I endorse it.     

@"No matter what they say, no man likes a chronic complainer."

I found this list informative but I pray to disagree with not telling a guy when he asks about sex lies, truths and life's experinces. Individuals vary and I am aware many modern guys like to even be carried away and turned on with fascinating sex life experiences. They consider it being matured and having knowledge and can do better. Tell your guys whe they ask. But also let your guys tell theirs. Encourage one another to share and sustain interest and trust. If you share, you are not cheating and living in guilts. Hide nothing from one another. That way, you are building fun lives and enjoying your moments. The reason you have to share sex life experiencs is clear. It is because it is a very sensitive part of every human relationship, if you are able to tell things as they happened, how you enjoyed your moments together, there is nothing both of you cannot nicely and proudly take into consideration. You will be able to discuss and share comfortably things that matter to each and both of you anytime and anywhere they occur.  Hiding is more dangerous than being open, confident and romantic. Be your own porns in your own lives with your partners. Build continuous sex life fascination for one another. You what? tell your guy or gal the preparatory leads to sex, turn him on. He or she will always remember the play ons and yern for you. Tell, Tell, Tell.   

In the first place, the masquerade institution is a closed sacred cult. The faces and bodies of masquerade performers are never seen in public let alone use their genitals in an inapproriate way. But something seemed to have gone awry in Opi community in Nsukka where masquerade is alleged to have serially raped someone. Going by the incident, one understands that masquerades in the modern day politics are misused. They can be rented to function as warriors and tugs at the same time. Away from the traditional good uses of masquerades to maintain peace, invoke discipline and twart dangers of bad life in society. That masquerade rapped someone is outrageous, hard to hear and believe. The incident should be understood as a misuse of the institutional sacred power of masquerade by evil persons in society. It has to be investigated and the real sponsors of the rape incident unveiled and dealt with for the sacrilege. Someone was behind the use of masquerade here to cause havoc in Opi community. Traditionally, masquerades are caused to protect women, intimidate them for the good of social order as well as discipline misbehaviours. It is not in theory and practice on the contrary to abuse women by way of public rape. It is sad that traditional institutions in Opi community have been polarized and demeaned in this way by kidnappers, tug moguls and evil carvers in that society. It is a bad omen and the dangers will face deeper sacred consequences in the masquerade and ancestral world.