u are just a green pig.i wont decend so low as to anter words with an uneducated fool like you.People are talking of a credible consensus carried out by intellectuals and you impotent goat is calling me brainless?i laugh at your ignorance.

sorry to say but, ladies like you are the cause of our problems.You are satisfied with your wam bam slam thank you maam kind of men.You should have enough confidence to expect the best.....

Nigerian guys..just accept ur flawssss.......thats why they say u guys are so unromantic.........

Nigerian men have been termed the most unromantic men in the world by a consensus carried out by a credible romance website because of their inability to perform oral sex.French men are the most romantic because they love to....hmmnnn.......

communication...romance...be best friends..hmmnn..i have to think BRB.

hahahahahha..clown

this is harsh...A FAST DESTINY DESTROYER AND KILLER?Hmmn dear take it easy when advising people.Saying "sex before marriage"  would have been preferable. Thank you.

WTF..LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL.U are so funny.abeg dont kill her oh...

Anyways,thanks to all those who share my veiw.For those who don't , i also respect ur opinion but, men are already complicated beings,why make it more complicated by playing all those games.Juleshotluv, i agree with you but,We African ladies are the cause of most of this men wahala we complain about.You can show ur worth or decency in other ways.Whats the point twisting and turning when u can just go directly and still achieve the same results.@ Kenee, i hail you.Brightossy thanks too.hope ur cool?

hmmmnn..is that legal?Anyways,thanks to all those who share my veiw.For those who don't , i also respect ur opinion but, men are already complicated beings,why make it more complicated by playing all those games.We African ladies are the cause of most of this men wahala we complain about.You can show ur worth or decency in other ways.Whats the point twisting and turning when u can just go directly and still achive the same results.@ Kenee, i hail you.hope ur cool?

u and beer!!lol...u promised me 5 bottles of beer too,,na wah oh

Ok, now you got him where you want him to be (attracted to you).What next? The questions.. Should I give in to keep him? Or should I play hard to get? Call me stupid but, getting down in ten years time is no different to men than getting down tonight? Wait!!!Before you start calling me names, here is the scenario. No girl wants to be called a cheap slut? No girl wants to be used and dumped. But why do some of us who play hard to get still get dumped when we give in at the end? That's why you have to know when to stop playing hard to get. A true fact is, the fact that a guy toasts you for 4 years doesn't mean he loves you. He could be doing it for one of several reasons:


-He sees you as an unhealthy challenge:
OMG, you don't want too be considered an unhealthy challenge by any man) Here is why! Have you ever played a particular game for so long, gosh, boringggggggg! Let's take PS for example; you have been playing PS with someone you just met. He's been winning all along. First, you are not bothered because you know you would catch up, then the game stretches and he's given you a wide goal margin, he is still leading. It's now a challenge, you must meet up, and still you don't. You are getting tired, frustrated, probably bored. But your ego is now bruised for you to back out. You keep going from one stage to the next believing you would win. Two things might happen: you finally win, or you don't. If the former is the case, you kept on playing not because you loved the game as was the case when u started, but because you needed to prove to your friend that you could win. After that victory, what happens, you don't want to play that game any more. It wore you out.
Simple logic playing hard to get for a very long time is plain boring. (At least to the guy). It is therefore appalling when I hear ladies boasting that a guy chased them for 2 -3 -4 -5 even 10 years (lol, is that possible) before they gave in. Damn, they don't know that while this guy was chasing them for years, he had other girlfriends on the side. You had become a challenge to him which he needed to conquer in order to soothe his male ego (they all have big egos).So, when he finally gets you, he realizes there was nothing really special (even if there are a million things special about you) but coz you had over exalted yourself and some how made yourself invincible, when you eventually have sex with him, he is like "so that's it? Like duh!
So when should we as ladies draw the line between playing hard to get and actually being a thorn in the flesh? Let me put it this way; it is so difficult to know when to give in or keep him chasing you.



MEN LOVE THE THRILL OF THE CHASE
Yes they do, so it makes it harder for us ladies to know when they are loving it, or not. Ok I love examples. Have you seen a lioness chase a deer before? I bet you haven't paid close attention. The more the deer runs, the more the lioness chases. The more turns and bends the deer takes, the more exciting. Imagine if the deer didn't run? Just stood and watched the lioness, the lioness will say (na wetin sef? You no go run make I chase you?)That's the same scenario with humans, men love the thrill of the chase ONLY WHEN IT IS EXCITING, when you are an active player and when he knows you like him but your just spicing things up .They don't enjoy it when you just sit down like a dummy expecting him to keep chasing you. What does this mean, ring him up once in a blue moon. It would actually blow his mind away. Then, the next time, act like you weren't the same person. You get the hint? Good. That's why I laugh when the same girl who has been playing hard to get starts crying when the guy stops calling or, when he moves on to the next chick.



- INTUITION
- All women are blessed with the wonderful gift of intuition. The truth is when something or someone isn't right for us, we know at once. Our spirit tells us this is bad, or this is good. We know a man who is out to play us when we see him; we just ignore our female intuition. We all know when we see a genuine guy. We just don't want those who are true and genuine (that's a topic for another day) But, exploit your female intuition and you wont be led astray.
- Timing doesn't make a difference. A man knows if he wants to keep you or not from the first time he sees you(that's the male hormones speaking, not his heart) men usually know if they would keep you or not the immediate second they finish having sex with you.(YES)That's when the scales fall off their eyes. So if you go to bed with them today, or next 20 years (when u obviously have grey hairs..lol) if he wants to dump you, he still will.
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- KEEP THE GAME LIVELY
- You could keep the chase exciting, fun for him. Sometimes, let him win.(Or feel he is about to win)Its just like gambling, most often, the owners of these casinos actually stage a win for you(oh I'm so dead this is a top secret)if you guys don't hear from me again, know I've been kidnapped by these mafias....ok, no shaking, back to us....These gamblers know that, to keep you spending, they have to make you believe you are capable of winning first. So, you win the first one, what happens next, you want to play more games and win more. Then you stop winning, you see your money being drained. It occurs to you that you should take what's left and bolt. Suddenly, you win again. A normal thinking human being would take the last winnings and take a walk, but we all aren't normal(when we are winning) the greed in us wont let us go so we say, why not double this winnings? That's exactly how the mindset works. If the guy keeps chasing without any sign of getting there (you) he gets pissed AND LOOKS FOR REVENGE (ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU DON CHOP HIN MONEY). So, let him win.


SAY NO...
This is my favorite part, why do ladies keep giving a man false hopes when you are never going to say yes? It's disgusting to toy with people's emotions like that. If you aren't interested, say NO, don't eat his MONEY. There is nothing wrong with going out to the cinema and accepting gifts while he woos you. But, know when to stop collecting (long throat).When you rip him off and don't give in, what do you expect? Of course he would keep chasing you for 50 years (even when you are using a walking stick) To get back at you for eating his hard earned cash. Please, ladies though it's so hard to resist the freebies, you cant eat your cake and have it. Say No. and do it politely.
Abstinence is the best prevention against AIDS AND STD'S, but Remember always use a condom.(Make love the right way and stay faithful)
Till you read from me again...lots of love...ciao

lol kenee, should i be answering that?

u shouldnt be here ok!my writeups arent meant for the uneducated

These replies are so inspiring...lol..i think i would write on why some people dont discover their comic talents early enough...lol
Re: WHY MEN AND SEX GO HAND IN HAND!
« posted : October 28, 2010, 09:11:45 PM »
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i will be back for this latter....................

    
Re: WHY MEN AND SEX GO HAND IN HAND!
« posted : October 28, 2010, 09:21:14 PM »
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Ohh God of marcy another war with men, God are you to be blame for making us what we are?


    
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« posted : October 28, 2010, 10:48:36 PM »
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Oh shit!
This is too long.
Slept off while reading

        
I copied and pasted these comments to my post because they made me laugh and roll on the floor.some people really have a good sense of humour..hahahahah

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I DON READ TILL I ALMOST WEE WEE 4 PANT. SHUOOOOO WHICH KIND WRITEE WRITEE BE DIS ONE NOW? LET ME GET MY SUN GLASS

    
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« posted : October 28, 2010, 08:51:07 AM »
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plz can some1 summarise this stuff?


(kennee)

Abeg Come Take One Hour Kiss Jare, yu know Book  Cool Cool Kiss Kiss Kiss.

 Re: WHY MEN AND SEX GO HAND IN HAND!
« posted : October 28, 2010, 09:49:13 AM »
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Who wan read all that? Me? You are joking................Infact am offline

thanks to all those who understood what point im getting across.And to those who find it boring? The walk to heaven is never a smooth and jolly ride(winks)if u know know what i mean.Please, do read this.i'm tired of ladies crying and making teh same mistakes i did and maybe still do at times.As for the guys,i have a great package for you pple.lol

YOU MIGHT NOT AGREE WITH ME...

When i was younger.I had this idea that if a man says he loves me, he shouldn't be thinking of sex.But, as I've grown more matured, I've come to realize this isn't the case.Men are visual beings.What they see is what they love.What you give is what they give back.If you give boredom, they give you boredom in return.If you give fun, excitement, they return it back to you.Is isn't possible for a man to love a lady without wanting to have sex with her? Yes it is!(that's when the man is either cheating on her,or is a catholic priest).
Women, think with their hearts,they love what they don't see.Its in our nature and trust me, we cant change that.We are ever trusting, ready to make excuses when he cheats, when he hits us, when he,s out all night, when he doesn't show care and concern.Here is a typical excuse a woman would give for her mans actions(I think he;s just busy. Or, he,s been under some stress lately, Or maybe I'm not doing something right.) Yea right! Ever watched the movie, He,s Not Just Into You? If you haven,t ,please go get a copy ladies.When a man doesn't love you, he doesn't and wouldn't love you.If that physical attraction isn't there to pull him to you in the first place, I'm sorry, but you are on an aimless journey.With men, first comes the attraction, then comes the need to look at your inner qualities.This is a perfect scenario..a man browses through your profile on Naijapals, the first thing he sees is the physical you,oh nice face, or nice a***....he doesn't say, oh nice heart.May be a few would read through your profile and like what they read,but that rarely happens. Judging from your physical attributes, he then decides whether to contact you or not.Then, gradually, he starts to discover you are just more than a pretty face or sexy body.

WHEN HE LEAPS FROM ATTRACTION TO SATISFACTION
 Don,t get me wrong,being attracted to you doesn't mean he wants to keep you.These two are worlds apart and most ladies often misunderstand the difference between a man being attracted to you and wanting to be with none other than you.A man can be greatly attracted to you without having that feeling of wanting to be with you.This occurs when you don't help him take you to the next level in his world.Why do i have to help him ? You may ask...Yes, its a man,s world.At least in this sphere of life.We do the teasing, the cooking, the petting, the raising...its our duty to make that man see more in us than that beautiful face or sexy body ...by being genuine, homely, romantic,hardworking, sexy(always)caring..Look at it this way,the fact that he is attracted to you in the first place gives you an edge over all other ladies.An edge to get closer to him,to get into his world,but if you feel there,s nothing more to do,your having a wrong notion because ,he,ll not see you beyond the attraction level.And of course, when that withers away(it eventually does), there would be nothing to hold onto.No foundation to stand on during the stormy weathers.You and your attractive self would come crumbling like a pack of cards.Its sad when some ladies actually think they can keep a man by giving him just good sex.Dear, that works during your honeymoon stage(when you just meet and are having butterflies in your stomachs) Good sex draws him nearer, nothing more to offer sends him running away at with the speed of lightening.Ask yourselves, why would a man have sex with you, tell you your the best in bed, yet, never leaves the girl he,s been dating for a longtime or that girl who is not as attractive as you are? Because, she gives him something concrete to hold onto.He can have your sex outside, he can actually buy good sex,but, he cannot buy what she gives him,that satisfaction ,that deep attraction(no more physical),his live revolves around her, his penis revolves around you(lol).So it is a fallacy to think you can take over a man with mere physical attraction.

BEAUTY
Beauty , beauty..has made many and broken many.Our quest and efforts and being beautiful or staying beautiful is sometimes appalling.But, we cant blame ourselves.Beauty has some what been considered as being part of an elite group.This is where some get it wrong. For sure, is good to be beautiful.But how many beautiful ladies actually feel beautiful.There is a huge difference between being beautiful and feeling beautiful.The most beautiful ladies are the most insecure ladies world(I'm talking from experience)You want to always maintain it and get weary when you step out and man don't go falling at your feet.You look at the mirror a thousand times to see whats wrong.Meanwhile, a girl who people classify as less beautiful, having to high expectations is just being her self.She doesn't pay much attention to how she looks(i don't mean don't have your bath or look clean ,smart and attractive) she has this smile on her face (just like mine lol) she accepts the way she is, she is at peace with herself,she is confident( men find this undeniably sexy and attractive) so, imagine you are truly beautiful by our societies classifications and embrace the traits of that girl who they call less beautiful?You would be a walking goddess.
Most men pray to have a girlfriend or wife who is physically beautiful, what they don't bargain for is the terror that comes along with most of it.So, that is why beautiful girls get dumped more often than somewhat plain girls.That's why if you look critically at the wives of most successful and handsome  men,they aren't really what society would term beautiful and you wonder if he didn't see all the bevvy of beauties parading the streets.Yes he did, he even loved some,but,there was something they all thought could keep him,their beauty which of course FADES.so if a lady happens to be blessed by mother nature, and is also blessed with a character and carriage to die for,she becomes every man,s dream.she becomes a treasure.But, where she is an empty can without contents, she is quickly discarded.Don't forget there are a million beautiful girls out there too.But only a handful who have that rare combination of beauty,brains, character, confidence, poise and carriage..BEAUTY GETS YOU INTO DOORS,GOOD CHARACTER KEEPS YOU FROM BEING THROWN OUT...its your choice..........

I,ll drop my pen for now..got to get back to work...till you read from me soon,its ciao...