Everyone wants a totally honest relationship where there are no secrets. In theory, it does not happen that way. A lot of Men, not just Nigerian men, have mountains of secrets they never tell the people they love the most. You need to keep an open mind about your man. At the same time, set the limits. You have to be open and honest about what you would take from him and what you won't take from. Peeking into his Yahoo or Facebook account will only show that he's no Angel of Fidelity (none of us are angels anyway). So, if you go peeking into his phone expecting to catch him cheating on you, don't be surprised when you get what you're looking for. There needs to be a range to decide when cheating is going too far. Besides, I would bet you would find him boring if he didn't have one or two suspicious emails from a woman. The limit is when those messages are about a pregnancy or he wants to divorce you and marry another woman. Don't hold on to him too tightly not to give him his space or not to want to let him go when its obvious the relationship isn't working anymore |