blisses after lows happens

Rubbish. all the above has no clear and dangerous life threatening scenarios -which is the only real bases to walk. If u're in a relationship long enough, you will feel all the 20 listed at some point. But believe me, it wouldn't mean you would not look at your partner one day later and feel contended even immensely lucky. 

yep. which is why some folks can date each other  forever but cant stand marrying each other for long.

raising kids & managing a complete home is more than  a full time job, its a 6am-10pm job.

Dear Bunmi,

When I met my current girlfriend, I already had a relationshipj,0ing. But this other girl just up and went with one of my friends, leaving me with this new one who isn’t a -match on my ex as beauty goes. But she is kind, is a good cook and the sex with her is better than my ex. She washes my clothes and even my car!

The problem with her is her plain looks. My ex always has sneer on her face whenever we run into her and my friends say I could do better. This girl has grown on me. She has a good job and comes from a good background. Should I just ignore what others think of her and settle down with her?

Chima,

By E-mail

Dear Chima,

You should really listen to your argument against your settling with this girl and see how vain you are. With all these attributes, You should be rushing her to the altar. What happened to the beauty you once dated-she ran off with your friend at the slightest opportunity! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and, at the end of the day, you’ll be the one living with your future wife-not your friends. You’-re currently impressed by her attributes and in case you want to know, there is nothing like ugly. Even in the beast, says the adage, there is some beauty.

mostly right. dont let the things u cant control or see determine yr happinness. he's- not abusive, willin to be there, provide, and father yr kids & even cries- u have more than  most Nigerian women uses for a lifetime eventful marriage .

i think most of the bb craze is attached to facebook etc posing so the next phone would have to tap into that mentality  

sorry,  but  the whole world including she left simple about 20yrs ago. there is not much df  b\w email, yahoomsg & facebook etc, and bb and regular phone.

so he will not easily tire of her

you are already friends with the guy, fate would do only so much.  you would have to take the rest yourself.
know exactly what u want from this guy, a lover, a confidant, a husband. also ask yourself which u want- the school or the course, the experience or the appearance.
Now,  have u ever asked to be invited to his house? friends do visit each other, and when invited can you stoop to sweep, clean, wash clothes, cook. if he demands for sex, never go all the way because its against your principle, but give something so he's relaxed  after u leave. also provide for him occasionally from your own resources and don't be too much liability. have other friends and interest so u won't be needy and clingy. It would start by him  calling you more... good luck.

they no wetin dey want -them dey always yarn that- which is why e dey useless to ask them or take the yarns too serious. . its up to u  to figure what they really want. play play well, u fit find out

every lady that wants to get married  one day should learn to propose. just like u must learn to ask a guy questions about his  HIV status\test for instant. u can atleast propose jokingly- subsequent resolution would help show u quickly where u truly stand in the relationship. its just that girls would mostly always be girls- with their subtle death wishes and carefree attitudes .  

Ps note well-this is the bases and frame reference of any worthwhile future revolution that would dare salvage this country.

the thing is that u must have thought through such scenarios and be sure of why u would not indulge in it if the occasion presents itself before it actually occurs . that is why i prefer that  people who think or  intellectuals be handling big or public affairs. 

there would be memories, and the guy would know himself. which  is why i think nature should accomodate men who never went raw (always wore the rubber) as virgins too with whatever its benefits. like someone said virgin girls  have boyfriends too, but sorry girls, for the benefits here, there must be no penetration with or without rubber.

who will amend what? the National Assembly (NA)  gave a vote of confidence on prof Iwu. the NA increased their budgetary allocation to extra tens of millions of naira each. the executive refused to adopt the Uwais electoral reforms recommendation for free and fair election . the PDP has insisted on staying in power for the next 60 years. the EFCC have left the former govs alone. so who will amend the constitution for u?

political revolution would be very easy in Nigeria bcos no one has ever tried that b4- but it would require a lot of hard work and sacrifice but im sure of one thing- u would get helpers and the masses will follow u. bloody revolution might work too but with any minor lapse like in the Nzeogwu case it could backfire to very bad consequences.
there must be some basic elements in a political revolution that would work in Nigeria.
im sure if one is sincere with oneself about the Nigeria situation one would figure out this basic elements for themselves.

i sure hope not, data show 100% men and 55% women had masurbated anyway

there are things one should carry by themselves bcos the fault is all theirs. see this from the angle that certain experience/knowledge will dehumanize u. telling her husband will dehumanize him too to an extent. he doesnt really need that. unless the lady sincerely thinks that somehow he should also be blamed for her infidelity, i dont think she has a right to do that to him or any good man for that matter. telling the man to me would be double second selfishness not a virtue

have u ever tried to buy goats or cattle in the west or south? who did you buy theses stuffs from?have you also tried to buy electronics or building materials in the north ?, my uncle is from the east but he is a multi billionaire in kano. personally i would not give up the beaches of lagos for any unrealistic regionalism fool.
the convenience of  nigeria's unity does not derive basically or solely from oil. oil, coupled with unfortunate leadership  fanfare in mega corruption just makes the unity passionately inflamable and highly politicised. without oil we would be laid back and easy going politically as Ghana for instance.