that's a good news!at least you now have a
reason to settle down and stop flirting around.
[/quote i dont think it would make him settle down,he never did so why he should now?!

I NEED A SERIOUS  DATING WITH A PRETTY AND MATURED LADY BETWEEN 19 T0 26YEARS OLD LADY.HERE IS MY NUMBER 08065519376.MID NIGHT CALL IS ALLOWED............

My friend's girl friend jus text me this morning, saying how she wish she has a man like me after settling their dispute yesterday. Pals does she want me to indicate interest or I should consider this message as an appreciation from her?

Sometimes I thinking if you people even went to school at all, so does it mean one cannot seek advice in this forum any more? If I were that kind of man you are talking about then I will do just do what pleases me rather than bringing it to this forum, but I brought this issue into this forum just to seek your humble opinion and you people are there interpreting it different ways. 

broda for posting this stuff here shows you are responsible...i understand you very well but my advice is stay calm and be ur self with time u will know her intention .....

LADIES >>> You pretty much know when you're being blatantly rude, mean, or crazy around your guy. It's those moments when you use seemingly innocent but actually harmful lines that you can cause the worst injury to your relationship. "He may not consciously realize how much they bother him, but they can cause a guy to shut down..Insulting his mom or screaming out the name of an ex in bed? Yeah, those are bad. But the most damaging mistake you can make with your man is to drop loaded phrases that you don't even realize are harmful...I suggest you eliminate them from your vocabulary...like, now.



1. You're so much better than all the other jerks I've dated.

Absolutely, it seems like you're paying him a nice compliment. But when a guy hears this, alarms start going off. "It sounds like something a girl who's had terrible luck in relationships would say, And since guys tend to be pretty rational, he'll figure out that the one constant in all those awful relationships was you...so you must be the problem. That's not all. He'll also assume that since you think everyone you've ever dated is a jerk, you will eventually think he's a jerk too, which provides very little motivation to try to build on your bond.

How do you let him know you value your relationship above all others? Simple. "Don't mention your exes, "Most men don't want to be reminded of the other men in your life, even  or especially  if they were all jerks." Instead, keep the focus on the present relationship by saying something like "I've never met anyone like you before. I'm having such a wonderful time." That way, you come off as empowered.

2. Can you really afford that?''

If he's blowing money he doesn't have on cutting-edge electronics, an expensive car, or pricey gifts for you  well, a couple of those are okay it would seem only natural that you should point out the error of his ways. But most guys tie up a huge part of their self-worth in their finances, so criticizing his money-handling abilities is, to him, the same as calling him a loser. Furthermore, it'll make him associate you with the least sexy, least desirable woman in his life: Mom. "When you communicate a maternal 'I know what's best for you' attitude for long enough, he may even start treating you like his mother.

He could react by morphing into a clueless man-child  And if that happens, you'll find yourself trapped in a vicious cycle in which you annoy each other endlessly: He'll act out, which will make you nag, which will make him act out, which will make you nag some more, etc. So if you're engaged, married, or involved in a large joint purchase, pick a neutral time to discuss money with him  in other words, not when you're seething about the wedding gown or kiddies wear you just spotted on a credit-card statement. Then sit down together, and make a budget. If, however, you're just dating, what he spends on himself is generally none of your business. Unless, of course, he then proceeds to mooch off you, in which case, you need to question why the hell you're with him in the first place.

3. So we're running a little late. Relax."

It's almost never good to keep people waiting, but as far as he's concerned, that's not the point. The real issue is that it sounds like you don't care about a pet peeve of his. "It's as if you're telling him he doesn't have a right to be annoyed, which makes him feel like you're rejecting or ignoring his feelings,

A better way to handle his pet peeves whether it's tardiness, slovenliness, or driving too slowly in the left lane is to make sure that he knows you heard what he's saying. Tell him, "I'm sorry I know this is important to you. I'll try to be more aware of it next time." Not only will it disarm him enough to avoid a fight, but it'll also reassure him that his feelings are important to you, making him far less likely to feel defensive or hold a grudge.

4. He's a great guy ...you should be friends with him."

Your intentions may be totally innocent: You met someone you thought was cool, you think your guy is cool, so you figure they should be cool together over a beer. But trying to direct his social network will not only make him wonder if there's even more commandeering to come but also instantly make his mind race with jealousy.

After all, why do you care if he's friends with some dude? If it's because the friendship will aid in your own social machinations , the guy is the boyfriend of your best friend; imagine the double dates! you're being selfish and trying to engineer something that should happen naturally. And if it's just a guy you work with or met while you were out, he'll wonder if you have another agenda. "It can be threatening for him to hear you praise another guy,"It's like you're saying that it's actually you who wants to be close to him."

5. She made me promise not to tell, but..."

Sharing a secret with a guy feels like building intimacy, "It's a way of letting him know that you trust him so much, you're willing to divulge delicate information." But to him, it may sound more like gossip.

Okay, if it involves sex, he may find it interesting. But you'll still sound like you take a certain amount of mischievous glee in betraying a friend. She asked you not to tell, and here you are calling attention to the fact that you can't be trusted. Even if you and your guy, like most couples, assume that telling you something is basically the same as telling you and your boyfriend something, you still sound like you're betraying a confidence. And if you can do that to your friend, what's to say you won't do it to him? The result could be his feeling a relationship-killing inclination to be far less open with you in the future. Of course, there are some secrets you simply have to tell someone. So when you do, pay him a compliment first. Saying "I'm only telling you this because I trust you to keep a secret" will both show him that you care about respecting your friend's wishes and make him feel like he's part of the secret instead of an outlet for it.  

6. Don't be silly ... I haven't done that in ages."

What, just because you're coupled up, you can't dance until 4 a.m....or use that weird Dutch sex toy that you think might be illegal? Yes, i understand that you may want to downshift some of your wild ways once you're in a long-term, committed relationship. But telling your guy that something is behind you forever is basically like saying, "I used to be fun. Now I'm not." He'll immediately envision a future filled with nothing but egg whites, the missionary position, and weekend nights spent at home in front of the TV. ... He may have seen you get wild and crazy when you first started dating...or at least heard stories from your friends. So if you suddenly become a homebody, he'll wonder why you were willing to be wild during your single days  even if you weren't  and assume that there's something about him that makes you dispassionate and tame. "A lot of people fall into what I call checklist thinking, They think they should behave a certain way to match where they are in life, so to them, doing keg stands is not committed-relationship behavior. And that type of black-and-white, 'that was then, this is now' thinking lays the groundwork for a dull relationship." Even if you do tend to stay home on Friday nights watching DVDs together, guys want to think that you're night-clubbing, prank-pulling sex monsters who are simply choosing to take it easy. So a better way to talk about your desire to "grow up" is to discuss what you're into now without mentioning the past. Excitedly talk about a dinner party you want to plan or a museum exhibit you'd love to see  . Just never forget how much fun it is to make the occasional prank call.

between ladies and guys, who stands in a better position to recover quick after a heart break?

guys do tht whn they are nt ready to get committed. i.e whn they still wnt to explore all possibilities... only few lucky guys ended up with nice girls after dumping all the good ones while exploring.

firstly, you asked that question as if you were about to give us a lecture.
secondly, i like you choice of the word "most" but i think it will be interesting to know why
any man would consider any relationship "parasitic".
"he" asked her out, he was aware of what he was getting into or he should atleast be knowlegeable of her ways
besides! he got himself into it!! so if its no longer comfortable...he should kiss the door!!! or enjoy his parasitic love
it can actually be fun you know!
peace!!

This was posted by a freaky Bitch....
why always use "He" "Him" why not use "Her" "She"


A BITCH... that's what defines u.
And for that am Publicly dumping ur Bitchy Ass coz I have had enough already...

Ending a relationship is never easy, even when you’ve truly had enough and you’re ready for freedom. Break up with others as you would like to be broken up with. Other than that, here are 6 of our best break-up methods.



1. Be honest

Whether he ends up believing you or not, being honest with whomever you’re breaking up with is the best way to go. Tell him why you need to move on and answer any questions he may throw at you as honestly as you can. Think about the times you were dumped with no reason. How did you feel? It probably frustrated you wondering why, when things appeared to be going so well, he decided to end it. Be fair and be honest with him.

2. Pick the right time

Some poor choices include at a party or any other social gathering, in the car or doing a mundane yet domestic task together such as grocery shopping. Chances are, he’ll be caught off guard no matter when you break the bad news, but if you do it in the frozen food section, he may have a much stronger reaction that if you do it at a café or in your neighborhood park. There is never going to be a perfect time to break up with someone, but try to have as much control over the time as you can, rather than blurting it out over brunch with friends.

3. Do it in a public place

This minimizes the chances for chaos. If you’re in a restaurant and there are people around, he will be less likely to fly off the handle and cause a scene. If you’re alone and he freaks out, you might be more likely to cave and call the whole thing off. Being in a public place may give you the confidence you need to follow through. Plus, when it’s over you can just walk away, rather than trying to get him to leave you place.

4. Do it in person

Do not be that person who ends a relationship electronically. Breaking up with someone via text, email or even over the phone is totally disrespectful. Even if you can’t wait to be rid of him, at least have the courage to look him in the eye as you dump him.



5. Make sure you are absolutely ready to do it

Not being totally sure of your feelings when you go to end a relationship can mess with your heart and his. If you’re not completely certain that it’s the right thing to do, you’ll confuse him and make him feel like he still has a chance, or worse, you’ll lose him when you still have feelings for him. Be totally ready to cut the ties or risk more heartache than necessary.

6. Take the high road

Chances are if he doesn’t see it coming, he won’t be happy with being dumped. He will curse at you, call you every name in the book, and make you feel like hauling off and punching him in the face. Restrain yourself. You’re leaving anyway, so just take a deep breath, nod politely and then walk away. You won’t gain anything by goading him on or giving him the satisfaction of knowing he upset you.

hmmm, not to start anything, but, oliver twist is not only dbanj's it belongs to donjazzy and people like wande that helped write the lyrics. Now is we are saying oliver twist produce by donjazzy and written by wande coal, performed by dbanj then that is correct. until dbanj does something that has no donjazzy or mohits  influence then ill congratulate him alone, until then congrats to mohits record .

Don Jazzy revealed why he busted working in New york with the G.O.O.D Music boss;



That is better Don Jazzy, a one eyed man is a king in the city of the blind!

How many girls had break up with u in past,you're talking from experience