Though am sad about the fact that a fellow African is death and moreover bearing in mind what she might have gone through to have been where she was, her soul won't rest in Peace because she was a Prostitute. How do you want her Soul to rest in Peace when she sinned and went against God's rules?stop all these man made ways of talking and behaving..If she didn't repent before her untimely death, She will be punished by God and that is far from her soul resting in Peace..I do sympathize for the loses however,..

Just in case you don't know pastor..God hates divorce..you are divorcing with your second wife?check urself and repent..

Hi Sandra,

Your case is quite sad and I do understand you. Most of all that you don't want to leave the guy because you love him. Love is a complicated thing which we can't just handle easily. Feelings are uncontrollable as well as the emotions surrounding it. However, sometime we need to give up something precious to get something more precious. As a follower of the Messiah, I will hence advice you as such.

The fact of already committing abortion is already a sin against God, who despite that is a loving and kind God of which am sure he can forgive when you ask sincerely ask him to. But three abortion is no more  mistake but a pre-meditating sin."Should we keep on sining so that God should continue to forgive us?" I don't think so. So please NO MORE ABORTION.

You love the guy, that's for sure but does he loves you? A loving husband or boyfriend understands, cherishes, loves, cares, pets etc his wife or girlfriend. Should be recieving all the above from him then I suggest you go down on your knees and ask God to talk to him and certainly HE will hear you. If however, you experience but the opposite of it then Sandra leave him. You might be trying to protect a diamond and in the course loose your own life and God will not spare you on that day. Try to talk with him and if there is no change then you have to go. You are spiritually married to him (through SEX, I know many people would not understand that but it's another topic) And since you know that God hates Divorce, you can't divorce him.The only option you have it to leave him and live a seperate life. In your situation now Sandra, you need God more than ever, you need prayers more than over, you need patience more than ever, you need statefast and self control more than ever. In short you need GOD Period.So go down and listen to what HE has to tell you. Be careful because what WE/YOU usually want is NOT what God usually wants for us. He created us and best knows what is fit for us.So you better follow the advice(from the holy spirit) which you might be like or agree with..(that's always what God wants for us and which is best)I speak out of experience.

Sandra, the choice is yours.Leaving that boy should not be hating him, forgive him, cherish him, like him (as a human) and respect him as well. Vegeance is God's own. YOu need to think about yourself..letting go would be difficulty at the beginning but with time the pains shall heal and a brigher sun will shine on you..But you will have to make the first step.

If you decide to stay with him, your decision I/WE will respect, but you have been warned. Go into the Bible and get your inspirations there. God laid everything for us so don't be afraid to open and read.

Prayers, Word of God and Patience is needed now.

I hope for the moment I could help..feel free to ask should more questions arise.

Shalom!!

Charles