Real there are some point there. Noted ...

This has killed many real Love in most family, all in the name of tradition, some say we can''t change tradition, if two of them agree to be come one family why not aloud them to be.. Not all the old life style or tradition is working in our generation today while because things has change... And the wast part of it is that, the right person from them will come and destroy the Home, there have studied them self fro a long time, which there will be hope for peace in that family, and traditional matter will come and destroy the peace in the family.... i urge the traditional controller to aloud this if there is no other reasons for it...
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Very good you shear this out so others can lean from it as well, wedding is not all about big money, like as one Bros says earlier, you can do it either morning mass or evening mass and you will see that your wedding is don, while i was reading your case, i thought the Guy want to take another direction, 5 years in a relationship, Talk to your mum as you set her down on this she will understand with you then you go on with your Life dear, what you can carry is what is your measure... God will help you out.