No as in in most cultures they would go through the process of an introduction before proposing and would of asked my father before asking me. So it's not a stupid question if you have the intellect to comprehend it!

I have been dating my my boyfriend for a year and 8 months. My boyfriend is Nigerian(born & raised) and Igbo. I was born in the UK, but raised the African way( Sierra Leone). When we met he told me that he loves me within a month or two. I didn't know why he had said it so fast. It scared me. He came here on a student visa but it ran out and he applied to stay for another few years but it runs out in November ths year. On New Year's Day he proposed to me and I said yes, but he didn't ask my fathers permission even though they have met (which is concerning me). My Igbo male friends who were born here have explained how traditional Igbo people are, so I was shocked. And before I caught him toasting babes in his fb messages and I threatened o leave n he begged me to stay. Also hes been insisting that we go to a registry before we even have a wedding. He has friends that are married non Nigerian girls who were Los born here. None of them have partners from their own country(Nigeria) and all have settled with uk women.



I speak with his brother on fb. When speaking he told me that "things are hard in lagos, no wonder Ikechukwu doesn't want to come back". But when I speak with him he's always telling me that he wants to go back to Nigeria to live and that this country is not for him. So I'm left confused.

My family are concerned that I'm being used & my instincts are telling me to leave him. I'm too ashamed to tell them he has asked me to go to a registry. Am I being crazy or is he with me for stay.