Still in the celebration of the internet’s 25 years existence, we weigh the merits of the internet over its demerits on relationships. Has the internet destroyed basic human relations? Has it fostered it? Here I chat with a friend who carefully cased the plus and minuses.

As we all know, online communications like email and social media have greatly changed the way we communicate with friends and family, Edu Prada lays a carefully analysis.

“It’s a blessing and a curse, on the minus side it has taken away basic human physical communication, I know people who can’t even express themselves in person, and do not even bother to work on improving on it; after all they have an easy way out (online communication). For me, the effect of the internet on relationships is a case of weighing plus against minus and not a case of whether it’s a plus or a minus and the truth be told, the minus far outweighs the plus.”

“On the plus side, given the epileptic economy and financial power of the common man, it has reduced the sky high call expenses; one can say more for less now.” On the minus side again, it makes relationships more boring, couples who chat continually get to say many things but end up having nothing to talk about upon meeting physically, and this eventually creates spaces and dull moments, eventually ruining the relationships.

Edu says that back in the days there were no worries with how many times you had to call your lady because the phone was inexistent and the web was nowhere and upon a meet up which both parties anticipate greatly, there is excitement and energy bursts because they have so much to talk about.

He cites another case; “Imagine when your lady wants to greet you in the morning on BBM or Whatsapp, she says ‘gm’ due to the online shorthand form of writing. But how can an adult greet another in such a manner? So thanks to the web, basic morals and etiquette have been lost. This has become the norm and may cause ripples in a relationship upon when pointed out to a lady who may have been faulted and is unrepentant.”

Edu says that now, thanks to the web more men have access to one’s girlfriend or lover due to the social media platforms, hence the increase in possibility of another man stealing away your partner or cheating with her. One’s partner can be in contact with ten new persons while in d lecture hall before which was fair enough, but with the web, its thousands of people, thousands of men. “Imagine how many men send your woman lewd pictures, raunchy messages or even promise-make of providing them with certain craves or gifts that even you may not be able to afford, now thanks to the web, it is said that your woman is only yours when she is with you and it takes more than a woman to look beyond these temptations to remain faithful and loyal. The web has created a vortex for unfaithfulness and promiscuity and this is a BIG minus.

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“Have you not noticed that breakups occurring due to a 3rd party has increased since the arrival of the social network platforms Facebook and 2go in Nigeria? You can set your 2go or Badoo location to ‘Lagos’ while you are actually in ‘Abuja’, thus your girlfriend who schools in the University of Lagos may have her location set to Lagos State so you would think she’s in school whereas she’s having some sexcapedes somewhere in Nasarawa State.”
When asked whether people met online were more or less kind than when met offline, here’s what he had to say; “There’s a difference between being polite and kind. For many, kindness comes after likeness. Most are rude when they meet you online…in Nigeria specifically.” Edu says he has met a few ladies from the western world who tend to be polite unlike our Nigierian girls who mistake rudeness for ‘standards’. They act all high and mighty, being rude along the way so as to not look ‘cheap’, ‘desperate’ or ‘low-class’.

He sees this as a case of inferiority complex and defensive mechanism, something to shield the complex and put up a façade of more high-class and confident appearance, whereas those who are truly high-class and knowledgeable are quite polite & kind towards strangers.

“In a social gathering of people with higher social status, IQ or information the ladies who fake high standards collapse like a house of cards. There are some with high egos who turn rude or insulting upon the slightest correction of information that they previously feigned vestment. The internet & online communication masks a lot of deficiencies. Just as the confession box is… we can easily confess our sins because the priest cannot see our faces. It’s the same with online communication. Imagine if u had to confess your sins looking the priest eyeball to eyeball, many of us would cower and rather risk eternal damnation.”

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“People are more confident when they aren’t looking others in the eyeball, take ‘twit-fighting’ for example, this is an easier mode of fighting, cue it face to face and many will cower. More people in relationships find it easier now to say ‘I can’t do this anymore’ online and via instant messaging rather than face to face. The web has fostered a false belief, many women hear stories and see pictures of celebrity couples and think it’s all uhuru for them, not knowing the real work those folks put in behind the scenes to keep their marriages standing. Thus many breakups happen online on a daily basis because many expect it to be a walk-in-the park and refuse to try and fix issues, after all there are a thousand men waiting and craving their attention in their inbox or DMs and that they think they have how a perfect relationship ought to look like all figured out”.

In summary, save the financial and economic benefits, the internet has done more harm than good says Edu.

- Source: www.thebusinessaim.com.ng
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Being successful in this egoistic, cold, unfair & sometimes nerve frustrating world is really the hardest nut any man can crack. Please do your research, ask your mentors who are successful in their individual fields/trades. They’ll give you the best account of how tough it is to break in. But I bring you good news. The harder the nut is to crack, the harder & stronger you’ll become after you finally crack open it’s shell & triumphantly feed on its produce.

You have to do the hard things.

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1. You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.

2. You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.

3. You have to give more than you get in return right away.

4. You have to care more about others than they care about you.

5. You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.

6. You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing it safe seems smarter.

7. You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.

8. You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.

9. You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.

10. You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.

11. You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

12. You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts.”

13. You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.

14. You have to try and fail and try again.

15. You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.

16. You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.

17. You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.

18. You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.

19. You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

You have to do the hard things. The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you.

The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on.

Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

The hard things are the easiest things to avoid. To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you.

The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do.

Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

- See more at: http://thebusinessaim.com.ng/19-hard-things-you-need-to-do-to-be-successful/#sthash.fdKvgjcw.dpuf

Blogs are always a good topic. You know you should have one, because everyone tells you so. You know you should write blog posts on a fairly consistent basis. And you know you should publish regularly too. But you do and suddenly you don’t because you have lost the flair.

You’re not alone. A lot of business owners feel the same way, and for three good reasons:

They don’t know what to write about — maybe you don’t either? You think of ideas, but they all seem lame. It becomes stressful, and you start to dread writing for your blog. You might even stop blogging completely, hoping no one notices you haven’t updated your blog in weeks. (Maybe months.)
They can’t get past the first few paragraphs before quitting — sound familiar? When you do have a good idea and try to write a great post, it doesn’t take long before your motivation ebbs. You start thinking maybe it wasn’t such a hot idea after all. And now that you reread what you wrote, you feel your post sounds dumb, so you give up completely.
They aren’t confident about what they wrote — are you? Sometimes you dohave a good idea and write about it, but when you’re done and read your post over, you don’t feel confident about it anymore. You think the writing’s terrible, or the post isn’t “good enough” to publish, or you feel nervous about what your readers might think of you when they read it.
These are huge blogging roadblocks, and they’re the reason that most business owners slowly find themselves beginning to dislike their blog.

A serious dilemma
More blog posts hit the trash can than business owners hit the “publish” button on. The result? The blog doesn’t get updated for weeks … sometimes months. And when a post finally does get finished and that “publish” button gets clicked? The blog owner often suffers a sudden spike of fear the second after it happens, followed by an immediate wave of worry about what readers will think when they read the post.

It doesn’t surprise me. I don’t know many business owners who shout, “Yeah! I LOVE blogging!”

But that’s exactly what you should be shouting, because blogging creates attention, credibility, traffic, sales, and revenues for any type of business. Blogging means money, and I don’t know any business owner who wouldn’t cheer about that.

It’s a serious dilemma, and something has to be done.

A simple solution
Thankfully, there’s an easy, pleasant, pain-free solution for those who dread blogging, feel guilty about putting it off, or spend hours trying to write something while hating the obligation to post. Here’s what to do:

Don’t blog. At all.

When blogging becomes an activity that makes you feel tense, stressed out, frustrated and fed up, it’s time to call it quits. No joke — this is important.

Go on a blogging holiday, and allow yourself full, unadulterated permission to notwrite a damn thing. Walk away from your blog. Not permanently, of course. That’d be silly. (After all, there’s money involved.) You’ll come back to writing for your blog in a few weeks or so — and when you do, you’ll feel very differently about it.

But right now, you’re burnt out and stressed to the max. You need to step back and get some distance between you and that blog you hate. Your sanity and health matter far more than churning out content.

Don’t worry; your blog’s not going to suffer. After all, how long has it been since you’ve written a blog post anyway? And your readers won’t yell at you for not posting something new. (They may not even notice you’re gone.)

Your traffic won’t disappear overnight either — this isn’t the apocalypse. Your Google Analytics numbers may drop a touch, but not immediately and not much. It’s a temporary dip you can recover from later on when you feel better.

The world won’t end. This isn’t complete abandonment of your blog. It’s just a break, a holiday from writing blog posts, and everyone deserves that.

But what about all those ideas that will start flooding in?
Of course, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be proactive or productive during your blogging holiday. You can stop writing, but you should still focus on something that benefits you and your blog in the meantime.

What should you do instead of stressing over blogging or trying to slog through writing yet another post you hate? Try this during your holidays:

Don’t write at all. Just capture your ideas. That’s all. Jot down the ideas that come to mind on their own, as they come to you. Don’t try to force it to squeeze out ideas. Don’t attempt any brainstorming sessions. Forget about blogging and just let new blog post ideas come to you of their own accord.

Start carrying around a notepad. When those ideas start popping into your head (and they will), you’ll want to jot them down. Write a brief note or a sentence or two. You can use the Notes feature of your smartphone, a voice memo app, or send yourself emails, like I do.

It’ll take some time. At first, you might not have many ideas at all. (Perhaps even none). If you do have ideas, they might not be very good ones. Jot them down anyway.

As your stress eases away the longer you’re on holiday, you’ll find yourself having more ideas, and better ideas … usually when you least expect them.

Standing in line and suddenly think of something interesting? Jot it down.
In the shower and something comes to you? Stick a hand out, dry it off, then write yourself a quick note. (Or buy some shower markers!)
Driving along and something comes to mind? Pull over and make a quick voice memo. Send yourself a text message. Scribble notes on the back of a receipt.
A few easy things you should do while you’re taking time away
You don’t want to completely slack off. Capturing ideas is nice, but you can still be proactive about your blog, even while on holidays.

Do the smart thing first: enjoy your time off.

Take advantage of it; you need it. Play. Rest. Do fun activities. Reward yourself. Screw off. You need this to recharge your batteries.

But every day, before you go play, schedule in a short half hour to hang out on social media.

Here’s why this is crucial to your rehabilitation: It’s very easy to forget that your blog posts are read by actual human beings, individual people with names and faces and feelings. It’s far, far too easy to start to think of them as “audience” — a vague, shapeless, faceless mass.

You need to reconnect with your audience as individuals.

So go hang out on Facebook or Twitter or G+. Chat with your audience, those loyal fans and followers. Restore friendships, rebuild neglected connections, see some old “friends,” joke around and laugh a bit. Remember who these people are.

While you’re hanging out …

Look back through your archives and revisit old posts.

You’ll certainly find some you don’t like so much or that weren’t very well written. That’s cool — you’ve come a long way since then, and now you can make a list of which posts to rework into better ones that you can republish. (Reduce, reuse, recycle, after all.)

Keep an eye out for old posts you really enjoyed or that had a great response.

Remember what you liked about them in the first place, and share them with your social media fans — slip in a quick, “Here’s an oldie but a goodie,” and link to that old post you found.

Ask for commentary from your followers, and pay attention to what they say.

Find out what readers liked most, or which points really struck a chord.

Ask them what they would love more of and would like less of, or whether there are new topics they’d love to hear about. You’ll gather great feedback you can put to good use when your blogging holidays are over.

Here’s an extra perk you probably haven’t considered yet, but it’s important: Your followers will get to reconnect with YOU, now that you’re paying attention to them again.

They’ll remember why they became fans in the first place.

Hey, you’re someone they liked! And not only are you chatting with them, you’re sharing good posts they either enjoyed before, or that they hadn’t yet read, or that they’d forgotten about but sure could put to good use now.

It’s a win-win-win, all around.

Want to know why this entire blogging holiday experiment will work?
You may be doubtful that not writing at all and just hanging around on social media for half an hour a day will eventually bring you back to writing.

After all, a lot of the advice out there tells you to build a daily writing routine, and to write every day at the same time, even if you’re not producing good work.

Even if you hate it.

Even if it’s painful.

Truthfully, that’s stupid advice. It’s akin to banging your finger with a hammer every day thinking that one morning, you’ll like the feeling and want to bang it harder.

It’s true that writing every day at the same time is an excellent idea because it does train your brain to write on demand. But forcing yourself to write when you’re in a hugely negative emotional state only reinforces that you hate every second of it.

Your brain makes the association: writing = bad.

And since your brain’s job is to help you avoid bad stuff, it’ll do whatever it can to get you to stop writing. Usually, the self-sabotage it creates is so effective you eventually can’t write at all.

Instead of fighting your brain, humor it. Listen to it.

Stop writing now before your brain heaps a bunch more sabotage and roadblocks onto your blog-writing efforts.

Your brain will heave a sigh of relief that you’ve finally paid attention, and it’ll be quite happy to let you just jot down your ideas instead.

After all, your brain sends you those ideas in the first place. It’ll approve of your decision!

By taking a break from writing and focusing on capturing ideas instead, you’ll accomplish several beneficial goals in one fell swoop:

You won’t stress over forgetting any good ideas that come along, and you can keep them handy for later.
You’ll put distance between you and the psychological traps holding you back from writing, so that you can examine them from a more objective perspective.
You won’t feel like you’re slacking off completely, because you’re actually being proactive about your blog (even if you’re not writing).
You won’t feel guilty anymore about not updating your blog with new content. Blame me, if you need to: “James TOLD me not to write!” The pressure’s off.
You’ll rest, recharge your batteries, and rejuvenate your creativity back up to optimal levels — it’s probably stretched to the max right now.
But you have to commit fully
At first, it might be tough to not write.

You might feel guilty you’re not giving it a shot or feel like you have an obligation to your readers.

You might think the situation isn’t as bad as it really is. You might think, “Okay, I’ll try writing this post,” after a few days.

For the love of Pete, don’t do it.

Go on immediate, full-time leave.

You don’t even need to write an “I’m taking a break” announcement for your readers. No one needs to know what’s up. It’s none of their business. And in the grand scheme of life, it’s not important.

What is important is getting you back to feeling better.

Once you’ve been on your blogging holiday for a while, you’ll start to realize you feel more relaxed. You’ll be able to look at the situation more objectively, and even positively.

You’ll start to feel differently about this whole blogging thing.

One of four things will happen
It may take two weeks; it may take two months. Maybe more.

No matter how long it takes, there are only four possible outcomes to this blog holiday experiment:

You’re itching to write and excited to get back to it full force. You’ll want to snatch ideas from your list and draft them out like a crazy content machine. (Don’t go overboard, of course. You don’t want to gorge after you’ve been starving. No good comes of that.)
You still hate blogging and are plagued by a swift return of writer’s block, stress, guilt, and self-doubt. The experiment didn’t work. That’s excellent! You’ve learned that you need some help getting past these roadblocks, and you can contact a coach who’ll help you smash through them, once and for all.
You feel better about writing and don’t have any stress, but you realize this blogging thing takes too much time to create a post. That’s excellent as well! This usually signals a lack of skills, and anyone can improve those. Take a writing course to learn how to speed up your writing process, and you’ll be off to the races.
You have no issues anymore, but you’re still just not feeling the love.Fantastic! You’ve just realized that you probably shouldn’t be writing your own posts in the first place. Hire a professional blogger (I hear these guys are great), and hand over the ideas you’ve collected. Your new writer can dive straight in and write on your behalf.
Regardless of which of the four outcomes occur, you’ve won the blogging game.

You’ve shed stagnant, negative stress that dragged you down. You’ve rested and are back to good mental health.

And you’ve made some discoveries about yourself and your blog.

You have options at hand, and every single one is a better alternative than what you’d been doing … which was likely slogging it out, hating every minute, or silently dreading writing for your blog.

Your blogging holiday created positive change.

And change is always a good thing, don’t you think?

- See more at: http://thebusinessaim.com.ng/are-you-sick-of-your-blog-heres-what-to-do/#sthash.r9V0TUj5.dpuf

In a country suffering series of irregularities in government and its policies, harsh state of living, unemployment, the citizens have decided to look beyond what the government can do for them and more of what they can do for themselves. This new thought form has unleashed an onslaught of  entrepreneurs in different spheres, all trying to get it done, get it right and GET IT.

Yet upon looking at these new crop of startup(ers), not many are going to survive this steamroller ride they have hitched for it is not a joy one. Many have folded, and many still will. Say, they have the stuff, the ideas, the know-how, but these things have never been know to be enough. A clever look upon a similar sphere ‘music’, one sees more stuff these entrepreneurs could borrow from their musical neighbors so as to make headway to the top.

What can they, indeed? How can two such diverse fields require common traits?  There are abundance of virtues that young entrepreneurs could learn from the experienced musicians in Nigeria today. On closer analysis of these two seemingly worlds-apart spheres, parallels emerge. Musicians are, in essence, entrepreneurs; instead of offering products or services, they entertain with their talent.

The similarities between these two fields are, in truth, boundless, possibly because being a successful musician is a subset of being an entrepreneur. Famous musicians receive so much visibility and attention that they are easy to observe and emulate. Thus, there are a number of nuances and techniques entrepreneurs can imbibe from these famous personalities, to incorporate into their own methods of entrepreneurship.

There are quite a few key qualities that successful musicians embody, which every entrepreneur should possess which is most important in ensuring the success of a startup. If a trait listed is not among your virtues, or something you’ve never thought of before, work on consciously integrating it into your way of life for these qualities are important ingredients in the recipe for success!

1. Passion:

All famous musicians have, at some point, really, really wanted to make it big. Music is their passion, their calling, and they are truly dedicated to the art. This drive shows up as that special something in their compositions, and is what subconsciously appeals to the masses that eventually make them famous.
If you’ve thrown away a ‘safe’ career to pursue starting up, you’re probably very passionate about your company. Take for example Lanre Dabiri, better known by his stage name Eldee namee who studied Architecture at the University of Lagos.  What you could learn from musicians is to channel this passion into indications that are telling of your enthusiasm. All the energy that musicians possess at concerts and live shows stems from their passion. Making your enthusiasm obvious in a way that fits in with your personality is very important.

2. Tenacity:

Three words: Never give up.
Every single musician out there who is successful today has faced his/her fair share of rejection, but hasn’t let it get to them. The never-say-die attitude and initiative possessed by famous artists, some of whom were rejected by many major record labels before striking oil, is something every young entrepreneur should aim to emulate.
Letting rejection or lack of recognition get to you is the worst thing possible, because it throws you off your game; and that pretty much ensures that you will never be appreciated and successful.

3. Ability to collaborate:

Being the boss doesn’t mean all the responsibility is on you. To spearhead a successful startup, you need a team you can depend on, preferably one that comprises people whose opinions you value. This takes some of the pressure off you and your co-founders. A lot of bands work because of this. When there is mutual trust, this inevitably takes pressure of the team.
In turn, you’ve got to take your team’s ideas seriously. If the team does consist of people whose judgment you value, this shouldn’t be hard. Sometimes, the desire to dominate the venture that is your brainchild might overpower all reason, and could lead to an irreconcilable argument. So many bands have gone through ugly split-ups because of power struggles between the lead vocalist and another, less prominent but equally important member. Others because of money issues.
Band members have to be able to rely on each other to hold up their own ends, as well as cover up for one another’s errors. They also have to be able to work together, to produce beautiful harmonies that are distinct, unique. It’s quite the same with an entrepreneurial venture. The ability to collaborate is a beautiful one, and very necessary indeed.

4. Willingness to take risks:

Artists, in order to grow, need to challenge themselves, stretch their range and capabilities, branch out; basically, take risks.Taking calculated, small risks can lead to greater success than any other kind of move. For example, take the late Fela Anikulapokuti’s focus on enlightening the Nigerian people on government’s misdemeanors, he took great risks and this  is the reason he is world-famous today.
It seems to me that entrepreneurs need to do the same. A shift in focus is an established move in entrepreneurship, called a ‘pivot’. If you have conclusive proof that your company can do better with emphasis on a slightly different wing, then try it out in the least damaging way possible. Small risks can’t hurt too much, and if they don’t work out, you could always return to your old focus. So many artists try out new sounds on a whole album; whether or not it works out, at least they stop thinking about ‘what-ifs’.

- See more at: http://thebusinessaim.com.ng/6-things-nigerian-musicians-can-teach-entrepreneurs/#sthash.RPq50uBJ.dpuf

Many of us are aware of this old adage “Even a broken clock is right twice a day”, if this is correct, then I will not be making much mistake if I say there’s no completely bad person.

Yahoo boys are like the rejects in our society from the perspective of a moral Nigerian. They are seen as the bad eggs. These guys have given us a bad name in the international community, they scam and defraud unsuspecting persons of their resources mostly money. Most online shopping websites have blacklisted Nigeria. Our corporate image has been soiled probably beyond repair. No one wants to deal with a Nigerian… so pathetic.

However, there are lots of positives and lessons that we can learn from them. They are not as bad as some of us think, provided we try to view their actions with an open mind. If you read the following, learn from it. Remember “He that has no sin, should throw the first stone (an account in the bible)”

Passion – Someone said “passion is the fuel that drives our vision”, if that is correct, then anything we do without passion will soon wear us out. A yahoo boy has the drive and passion for his trade. He wants to get rich or die trying. His carriage, words, and actions all portray his trade. Little wonder, they can be easily identified in our society. He prides himself in his business and no one can stop him. In some cases he avoids his family members and anyone that decides to talk him out of this dreadful path instantly become an enemy of progress.

Dedication – According to Bishop David Oyedepo, dedication is deadly commitment to a cause.  From vocabulary.com dedication was defined as committing yourself to something,” like your dedication to marathon training that had you running every single morning for four months. This is what yahoo boys are known for. They are very dedicated individuals, they understand the nature of their business, considering the fact they try to reap where they have not sown; and as such they have to bury themselves into what they do.

Networking – In my opinion, this is the greatest strength of Yahoo boys. They don’t work or strategize in isolation. They have pubs, clubs and places where they hang out regularly to have fun but ultimately network.  Sometimes his networks extend to law enforcement agencies especially the police. When a Yahoo boy identifies a new opportunity (a potential victim to be coned or scammed), in other words, when he catches a new maga, he immediately looks inward to see if he has handled similar scenario before. If yes, his experience will make it easier, else, he looks in his network for more experienced person(s), if the deal is successful, every stakeholder shares the proceeds according to agreed terms. In most cases, Yahoo boys live together, eat together, flock together and even trade together.

Hard work – These guys work extremely very hard. They sometimes sit on their computers for as long as 18hrs at a stretch. In most cases these computers must never go off. They labor repeatedly, strategizing and thinking about lies to be told, reading case studies etc. to ensure maga must pay. Much of the time on his computer is also used to communicate with magas, business associates and sourcing for other business leads.

If a maga becomes too tough or gets smart after so much hard work, he quickly moves on to the next. No emotion, no extra attachment, strictly business. He understands that for him to survive, he needs to be up and running.   He is in constant motion, and never mixes business with pleasure.

Wasteful – This is rather the most pathetic part of a Yahoo boy’s life. Sometimes it may take him months to make say 10,000 USD but in 24 hrs after making such an amount of money, he might be back to nothing. Greater percentage of whatever he makes is squandered on girls, gadgets, holidays, cars and other stuffs to enhance his swag. He is confident that maga will pay but if for some reason maga gets smarter or refuses to pay, this then takes him to our next discussion.

Consulting – Just like in the business world, Yahoo boys consult. Some consult with veterans of the trade and the very desperate ones consult herbalists and “fake pastors or alfas”. This is also known as Yahoo plus. Sometimes he runs out of ideas, tricks and strategies, this prompts him to source for a way out. In some cases, he repents of his trade, asks for forgiveness and sources for other legitimate means of livelihood; else he consults an herbalist or people believed to have some spiritual powers to enhance his business. Every form of consulting comes with a cost and the costs are always very harsh, the devil does not have any good gift.

Disclaimer: The above are my basic observations of a Yahoo boy. As someone who thinks with an open mind, I don’t think there anything wrong in looking at the brighter side of seemingly dark things. Life is a matter of choice, the decisions we make are products of our choices. Every man will account for his life. If you are into this trade, Please desist and spend your time and energy on something enviable.

Source: http://thebusinessaim.com/akinsanmi-simi-the-life-of-a-yahoo-boy-lessons-and-insights/#sthash.2RakGOco.dpuf

The above statement was an utterance of an angry bus conductor (a local commercial bus driver’s apprentice) in Lagos, Nigeria and it instantly went viral.

The norm is that when passengers board commercial buses in Lagos, they pay conductors with higher denominations and sometimes it is done intentionally. This in turn triggers a lot of frustration on the part of these conductors and drivers as they struggle hard to return the difference after subtracting the fare back to the passengers.

Sometimes these guys will buy some lower denominations from people who sell; this comes at an extra cost of 10 percent deficit.  For instance if a conductor carries 20 passengers at 100 naira per person, Assuming about 3 of the passengers hand him 500 naira notes, 4 others hand him 1000 naira notes,  wahala don start be that. He has to figure out how to return the change to these very impatient and naggy passengers. I believe this was a similar scenario to Kola’s. Out of frustration he screamed “EVERY DAY YOU ASK FOR CHANGE, YOU SEF BRING CHANGE! ”

Kola’s statement went viral, my guess is one of the passengers twitted it. However, there are some positives we can learn from this.  Kola had unconsciously stated the obvious. The average Nigerian is full of criticism for our government we ask for change like tomorrow no de, I am also guilty of this. In fact, I nag more than anyone else. How do you explain/justify the level of decadence in the society? Everything seem to be crumbling, the government has repeatedly showed us that they are clueless, Just this morning, I read online that the FG(federal government) has ordered 53 gold plated Apple Iphones at about almost 400M Naira (source withheld).

Mehn I was furious, some months back, the FG ordered Phones for 6000 farmers, till date I cannot see any sense in that. That said, in every adversity there are the exemptions. Some governors are working very hard to ensure they turn the destinies of their states around.

If we think deeply about Kola’s statement, Instead of asking for change, why not initiate the change. Instead of condemning these leaders why not strategize and form focus groups in our locality to probably volunteer and solve specific problems, soon the ripple effect of these changes will be felt everywhere.

Remember, leaders were once followers, every person at any level of leadership were from the masses. The truth is nothing will change until we are ready for this change. Maybe the problem is that we don’t prepare for leadership and when the opportunity presents itself either by merit or otherwise, our lack of vision and preparation forms the bedrock of our inability to leave a positive mark. It’s easier to sit and do nothing and criticize, try and influence those on your street before you criticize anyone in leadership.

Every major change throughout history comes with a cost. One of my philosophies of life is that “the task master will not let you go until you are ready to fight back”.  I read of a particular area in Ibadan on nairaland.com where the youths asked PHCN to do away with power supply until there’s stable electricity. This just a simple way of fighting back… In short we won’t pay for your service, don’t give it to us… Simple!

I am not asking for a revolution or war, NO; I am only admonishing us to fight back and get set for leadership. My grandfathers and parents sang the same song I am singing … “I know one day e go better” but the truth is we have to create the future we want now. I don’t want to sing same song to my unborn kids. Let’s all make it a point of duty to be the change, let’s take an advantage of our powers and disallow a privileged few loot what is more than enough to go round.

Soon, we will go to the polls to probably elect the same set of people, those who have the vision and will don’t have the resources, those who have the resources are clueless, what a vicious cycle. Imagine if we refuse to give or accept bribes, Imagine if all employers decide to employ based on merit, Imagine if churches and religious bodies rise to the challenge and say enough, Imagine if we decide to curb the excesses of our government and ask for a change politely, or you think we can’t get there? Let me quote Adidas “impossible is nothing”. We had our chance though, we lost it. We were to occupy Nigeria till we see some changes but I guess no one wants to die.

Just last night I read via Easynet sms that an 8 year old child bride bled to death on her wedding night in one of the northern states. I remembered me commenting on change.org that every professional woman should down tools until the law is reversed, however our selfish nature deprives us of our unity of purpose. Even the blind can see Nigeria’s sicknesses, but if we decide to be the change, then we have a hope.

Unfortunately, things have gotten so bad that one will have to wear some binoculars to see if there’s any light at the end tunnel for our dear country. However, if we all decide to be the change, gradually things will improve.

God bless Nigeria plus happy belated birthday to our dear country.

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ehem...........see them yanning like say na all of the una go make heaven......see pple wen holy pass... i tire....

Let me quote the verse in the book of Matthew 22:30: "For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the sons of God."



It is a factual statement to say that the Bible is very complicated and open to discussion and debate, with regards to interpretation. On the other religious hand it is true that in this world we have people who are called Gnostics (those who claim to know God) and Agnostics (those who claim ignorance about deity and do not dispute its existence since they can't prove neither claim).

In the verse Jesus Christ, the speaker there, never mentioned that there would be no sex for resurrected saints, but he only stated that there'd be no marriage, and by this I do not mean there will be promiscuity in heaven.

Would it really be hard for God to help us achieve an orgasm in a segxwal way? I mean according to Jesus Christ there will be food and wine in heaven, although I'm quite sure we won't have to say any prayer to bless the food. We will be living in the mezzanine of blessings themselves. Rationally, there will be no need to invoke blessings as in traditional matrimonial ceremonies before a couple can made love. If God created sex according to the Holy Book, why would sex suddenly become vexatious in the place from which God created it? This is senseless.

Another point is the line found in the entrails of the Lord's Prayer: "Let thine will be done on earth as it is in heaven."

Now comparing the facts, the will is done on earth only as it is in heaven. It shows that earth, on its holy turf, is a reflection of heavenly affairs.

Moreover, Jesus says, in the verse preceding the no-marriage at resurrection, "ye err for ye know not the scriptures."

There clearly is nothing unbiblical about what I'm saying, and this brings me to my simple conclusion: there will be a whole lot of sex in heaven. The only time that I am at peace and not thinking of my earthly problems is when I'm having sex, and we all know there will be no crying in heaven, unless of course those are tears of joy.

To make this article end amicably, I will quote a sex pastor "one of the enriching experiences in life is to get people who are bold enough to ask questions that are meant to test the contours of orthodoxy to its very limits.

"Intellectual sparring with someone can be both challenging and horizon-widening. Without it people will not be able to come up with fresh and creative ideas."
Amen!

by THERRON ESENG of the City Press

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He is a man of God, and prophesies as he sees it... hypocritical mofo....... go and do your own naaaa

badt guy

but ahem, na to use this one know the ways when pple dey use cheat naa, so as to soji

Hi guys, I’m not trying to make ‘cheating’ out as a nice thing, but rather to show you the things or ways cheaters go about their sexcapedes. Sit back relax..let me take you or a ride.

#15 Make Yourself an Alibi

Provided you don’t keep regular meetings with your lover, you should always think of a good reason to lie to your official partner. Something which is truthful, realistic, and fits in the norms of your everyday life. Don’t say something like I need to go fix a friend’s computer or my boss just got hit by a car. Not gonna work.

#14 Travel Far Far Away

If your desire to cheat suddenly erupts in you and you can’t handle it, the safest thing to do for an immediate meeting will be for you two to go somewhere away from the city, where there will be no possible chance to get caught. Since those are merely occasional, you need to sound occasional. Missed buss, driver heart attack or something more believable.

#13 Don’t be Brave Enough To Bring The Lover Home

This is far too risky. She or he may forget something, she/he may leave a smell of some sort, a mark, anything which will spark off jealousy in a suspicious wife faster than she/ he can say “Get out of my House!” Well, provided it is her/his house.

#12 Don’t Be Stupid Enough To Go To The Other Lover’s Home

The opposite action is just as ridiculously inappropriate since you can just as easily get caught by your lover’s real partner. And be absolutely sure-if he or she finds out, your wife/ husband, boyfriend/ girlfriend will find out as well. They don’t make sure this happens just because to help your partner, they do it to make you pay. The Dark Side of the Force…

#11 Remember! DON’T call from your home number!

A particularly stupid thing to do is to call your lover from your phone number. There is about ten billion million zillion reasons to get caught this way-if your partner pays the bills for your phone and sees the calls, if you have a messenger, if she is on another phone in the house and overhears your conversation…The most frequent mistakes are the most obvious ones.

#10 Remember! DON’T give your home number!

This is probably one of the most foolishly stupid mistakes to do. It is so easy to get caught that you will perform a direct face-palm when you see your actual partner’s pissed off face while she/he is holding the phone on speaker and makes you listen your lover’s seducing words.

#9 Avoid Obvious Places

You will be very surprised to learn how many gazes a passionately kissing couple would attract and how many people you get in contact every day. It is obvious-do not got with your lover to obvious places-go to tiny corners, or to restaurant bathrooms, or to Mall closed phone cabins, just try to avoid people and rumors.

#8 The Gym Trick

The first and quickest hint to your real partner that you are cheating is the smell of your clothes. Now, to make sure that you have removed any smelly evidence, buy a gym card and spray or change (worse option) your clothes so that they do not give away anything. It takes a lot of work but that is the path of the Unrighteous Ones.

#7 Nickname Disguise

Now, more or less, it is almost impossible to avoid visible contact with your lover in front of others. So act, disguise your actual intentions for one another. Make appropriate nicknames-like she/he can call you Fatty, you can call him/her Stinky. Okay, maybe something more believable but let others know, especially your real partner that you are not on good terms.

#6 Do Not Use Facebook

We will repeat that twice. Do not use Facebook. Do not use Facebook. Nowadays, any sort of comment, like, post, messages, with the existence of total lack of privacy is a credible danger for the ruining of the secret.

#5 Evidence: Eliminate

A perfect cheater leaves no evidence: like a perfect criminal. Ow, yeah, you got how there is no need for “like” huh? Well, you need to take care of every possible little hint that can spark off in your beloved official partner jealousy in terms of time, appearance and behavior. Take off all doubts and the affair might be over without he or she ever learns. Thumbs up!

#4 Match Cheating With Expectation

It may sound a little bit out of place but good cheating requires a lot of discipline. Yes. my dear fellows, you need to be completely devoted to cheating on your partner, to dedicate your entire being on accurately altering your daily life so that cheating can occur without suspicion. A good cheater is a faithful and accurate cheater! For instance: Tell your lover-”I want to meet you in Thursday and Friday night” because it is then that your actual partner believes you to be working up to late.

#3 Throw Away Trust

Yes, it may be difficult to bear, but this is the price every cheater needs to pay and frankly spoken the less people know the more safe you will be. If you can hold out, tell no one. Anyway, if you have cheated on your actual partner, you are supposed to be saying bye bye to trust in general already.

#2 Never Promise to Your Lover Something That You Can’t Give

“Let’s go to the Hawaii, we’ll buy a house there!” or “Let’s make lots and lots of cheating babies!” or “I promise I will kill him/her, just give me some time!” NO! You need to follow strict regulations without overestimating yourselves. If you feel prepared to play hero cheater well, good luck with the getting caught part.

#1 Forget Overconfidence

Never allow yourself to believe that you owe complete control over the situation. Remember-you are doing something wrong and luck is unlikely to be on your side. If you want to cheat on your partner the right way, you must not satisfy yourself with the necessities-you need to also be prepared for the unexpected surprises. Do it properly, people!

The poster of this thread foolish shaaaaa,,, whts d shame in that??? oponu eda./..

keeps me updated as e de go.... i'll love to be on the charity ishh...

just like Kanyechukwukelu from Anambra state who went to America and became Kanye West

well...for those who say its too long are just too lazy to read...simple...no.. hard feelings..this an issue ..that is important..i'm sure most peeps are interested in reading topics abt men sucking Bosom s at clubs, condom tins, sex..bla bla bla....no matter how lengthy..well of course, sex sells.....

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Women? i know little as much as any man,
but so disposed i am to say what i really can.
about this i will say with all my heart, i wont rebel
against your pleasure, i have a story to tell.
have me excused if i do speak a’miss,
my will is good and look, my tale is thus, this;

On my bed lay I, wondering, "women, oh! What a woman be?"
i think, i ponder, an answer can find not i for she.
of 'em i know too well, that’s how it goes with me.
I’ve had one, two, many, the worst there could ever be.
I’ve seen men weeping and wailing, without care, with sorrow,
I know them well enough, even by eve or morrow.

punishments, these are for our crave for bodily delight
of women, such as an edifice to gratify our appetite.
By them, from day to day have we been made silly,
We mind not that as 'barter' for our amorous dealings.
Still I ponder, “Women, are they worth it?”
My mind says; “there’s thirty ‘no’ in every forty”.
Sorry I concur, but in my mouth still there’s distaste.
Not two, or three, so many can remember i till date.

Bluntly, women are the most outstanding of all God’s creatures,
I vow, this is true, recalling days of drooling over their juicy features,
They are life, they illuminate, they are irreplaceable,
I tell no lies, believe me they are irrefragably lovable.
but beware I say, what makes you, breaks you , “What is sweet could kill,
I have benignly watched as many had been demoted to the pill
because of emotions, 'love' which is but childish vanity.
They’ve been rattled; their hearts are left with zero degree serenity.
love! i see no reason why we indulge in such madness with much alacrity,
am so perplexed, majority have been drowned in the sea of insanity.

For a woman they’ve professed love, fore-played from eve till full moon,
and just a few minutes past, they now both hum different tunes,
the man is pleading, asking for reason, running for cover,
and the woman? She becomes the female version of Adolph Hitler.
Her snow white heart is turned black as "half past midnight",
and the man, is left in an irrepressible despond and fright.
like an aversive hawk, the subject is so quick to claw and hate,
their ferocity in a sec,'from zero to hundred' escalates.
so vicious they remain , you wonder where all the love had gone to,
most men remain shell-shocked and refuse to pull through,
"they say they love us, they care, shout, "DECEIT!",
we are so so gullibe even to detect the lies in it.

i refuse to detail what cunning tricks and subtleties
there are in a woman, like infallible "busy bees",
they have swindled silly men and wise alike without remorse,
silppery, sliding, they are always evading us, thus;
were i to reckon their vices, all, one by one,
i had be only but a garrulous fool when i am done,

but we must not despair, we may still go to glory,
for perhaps, some may prove our hell, some our purgatory,
some, God's means of grace, and as some might say, "God's whip"
to send our souls to heaven or more so damn us to hell with a skip.
and thus; swifter than an arrow from the bow,
surely, i hope to God that "you" will shortly know.


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 Penning this write-up was a challenge to me at the inception. Why? Why not? Should I waste my ink on a query every Mulika, Chike and Wale has got an answer for? To the question above, the dudes would echo in base we of course and the babes would equally sing the same in ever sweet melancholies thus putting me in a dilemma, a Scylla and charybdis.. I am then thus; pitched to choose how to die, to be killed either by a monster with a hundred eyes or a whirlwind of which the fate of both are the same. I would have loved to sit this one out on the fence, but shall I be faulted if I side the ladies? Shall I be Mutallabed if I say that they should be allowed to dominate? Heres the case; enough is enough, we dudes ought to stop showing off our small selves like sey we too much, like sey dominance na our birth right. God made man first, then so what? Did he not create woman out of man being the raw material? Do you not know that woman is a pure and refined product form its ore,man?
       The word man we all know stands for both MAN and woMAN. Do not call me a conspiracy theorist but have you ever considered the fact that God might have created woman before man? What if man, due to his build and strength had conspired ab-initio to rewrite history thereby terming woman the weaker vessels? I keep pondering and with these I still ask, should ladies not dominate in a relationship? Now I am talking about dominance, not partial but total dominance over everything; loyalty, respect, love, care, major excesses; gift giving, buying movie and show tickets, recharge cards, paying for hair dos, pedicure and manicure et al, paying for shopping sprees, eatery stake-outs, e.t.c, the list is endless. With great power comes great responsibility, of which in this case, being the cash cow is added to it. So ladies do you still think you should dominate? Then I suggest you all shave up your hair and glue them to your jaws and chin to show that you have a beard and now you are ready to dominate, now you are the man.
       
     You have mans total respect and loyalty (as in, you are made his superior by all laws; in air, land, sea and water). You have the last word in every argument, your opinions are above his, and you enforce his kind of friends, his hair and beard style, you ban him from smoking or drinking alcohol just because you dont like it or you want to, but neglecting the fact that he finds pleasure, happiness and highness there. It becomes his duty to wash your clothes, panties, pantyhose, catapults. He may not do so at all times, but when required, he has got to, by force. Its his duty to go to the market, get the food stuffs and the food done. Its his duty to do the house chores. He makes sure your home is in good order whenever around. At times he leaves his own crib solely for this aim. And what of  'bedmatics'? Aha, you thought I'll leave that out eh? I guess you'll love to have him lie back and receive all the hammering and thonging. Once youre done, not caring if hes satisfied or not, you roll over and die until morning. While in other cases, you just kip throbbing none stop until he begs for mercy. My dear lovely ladies, this is just a case, but I wont be wrong to have stated it as the kind of dominance you all have in mind. Since you ladies are now superior, he will tend to agitate, revolt, engage in all manner of (man) gender equality bullshit, but yet his status remains the same, why? Like I said before, the woman had been made his superior by all powers beyond him.
           
    But ladies, will I be hanged if I make some wide guesses or assumptions? That during your supreme reign of dominance, that you won't be man enough, pardon me, I meant 'woman enough' to prove your mettle in the top priorities of your new status, the top responsibility of being the cash cow. That even as you dominate, as he goes to the market to procure food stuffs, groceries, domestics under your command, that he solely gets all these with his own cash. That even as you dominate, you still veto him into paying for hair your dos, and all manner of beauty treatments of which the reverse should be the case. That he still has to take you shopping, to fast food places and movie marathons. Take you partying in pubs, clubs, beaches and all manner of sprees and spending exigencies all with his money. That he still pays for your house rent or at least gives you part of it, but wait a minute....I thought you were the superior of the sexes, the dominant one!
         What of the festivities? He takes care of them. And the Birthday? He takes care of his own and yours too even though thats your job. And then here comes the almighty St. Valentines day, you are still the superior, so its normal if you get him an expensive wristwatch, may be Chris Aire, with a 24c yellow or white gold chain and ring to match. Its also normal for you to get him a clean cut diamond stud, a Zara Tux with it, a Tom Ford stunner and a Nike Air- force one snickers 2010 edition to match. You shouldn't also forget that he has to be strong for you, so he'll love it if you also get him  power drinks; of course you know he burns lots of energy during Sunday-sports (sex).
     
   Now, i am not Sinatra but allow me to be frank, I suppose you won't even get him any of these, rather you'll buy him just a singlet and a boxer short and with your domination, still veto him into buying you boxes of chocolates, teddy bears as big and beautiful as the Taj mahal, Carvela, Gucci, Prada or Louis Vouitton kits comprising of a bag, a wristwatch, a purse, a slipper, a pair of shoes, a necklace or chain, and of course a perfume all by the same designer, all to match. Lunch or dinner at Mc donalds, Tanties, TFC, Mr Biggs, e.t.c must not be left out as she will want to show everyone who cares that she is "pon the game" unless you dont want the 'lem' indoors. And finally after all this madness and anarchy, the dude will go to his friends and boast; "ol boi, no see this boxers and singlet wey my Barbie by for me", and then he'll lie, "imagine, she even bought me a perfume". I'll stop here because I believe that by now, you are all asking for my head, but I will ask and beg you to excuse or pardon me if have spoken amiss,all i have written are but presumptions, for my will is good and still yet the question remains thus, this; BOYFRIENDS OR GIRLFRIENDS, WHO SHOULD DOMINATE?

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