There is a saying that nothing is impossible. I hear actor RMD used to be a member of Pastor Chris Okotie's church and as such he's very close with Stephanie Henshaw. But since they was spotted together at an event in Lagos last weekend, different stories have been flying around. Are their substances to these stories?
#GoFigureThingsOut

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From a female OBB reader

    I married this man in an elaborate wedding that cost both our parents a fortune less than a year ago. I can't stand him anymore. And he's told me on numerous occasions that he can't stand me either. At the time I married him everyone told me he was the ideal guy and comes from a good, wealthy family. We dated for less than a year before getting married but the marriage was over before it even started. He's spoilt, egocentric and with him there's no middle ground. It's his way or the high way. These things I only noticed after I married him. I sincerely can't see myself spending the rest of my life with this man. The last time he touched me was just five months into our marriage. I'm sure he's getting it somewhere else but who cares? We are still keeping up appearances and still live in the same house but I want out. Thing is, my parents will be so disappointed in me because they have invested so much in us. I don't want to disappoint them because I am the first daughter but I'm tired of this sham of a marriage. Apart from my parents I don't want my friends to laugh at me because they are all happily married. What should I do?

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 The Lady Fuji musician Obesere allegedly raped has cried put. The 29-Year old business woman says ever since the press published her story yesterday, she has been receiving life threatening calls from them. I am highly frightened, she said.
There were indications, yesterday, that the case involving popular Fuji musician, Alhaji Abass Akande, also known as Obesere, arrested for allegedly molesting a 29-year-old business woman, Miss Olanike Olaiya, in his Okota residence may have been  transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department, SCID.
Sources told Vanguard, yesterday, that the embattled musician preferred the SCID to the  Isolo Police division because the DPO had insisted on the matter going to court.

Normally, it is  the Divisional Police Officer at Isolo Division, Aminu Ibrahim, that should have ordered the transfer of the case to SCID for further investigations.
But Obesere was alleged to have used his contacts in the police to have the case transferred to SCID.
A police source also disclosed that Obesere found it difficult to pressurize the DPO at Isolo into striking out the matter or persuade the victim to accept a settlement.
The source, who craved anonymity, also said Obesere contacted some top citizens to wade into the matter by persuading the DPO to soft-pedal on the  matter but they backed down when they discovered that the police have incriminating evidence against the musician.
Victim relocates to Sagamu for treatment
Meantime, the victim, Olaiya, told Vanguard yesterday that she had relocated to her home town, Sagamu in Ogun State, where she is currently receiving treatment for the rape incident.
Olaiya, who spoke with Vanguard on the telephone, said: “As I speak with you, I am in Sagamu, my home town, where I have been  receiving traditional treatment since the incident occurred.
I bled for more than two weeks —Victim
“I bled for more than two weeks after Alhaji Obesere raped me and inserted his ring into my private part. The incident occurred on February 12, 2013 and I have spent a lot of money treating myself.
“The DPO, Isolo Police division, took pity on me and refused to give in to Obesere’s pressure to  strike out the case and God will bless him for that.
“But last week I was informed that the case had been transferred to the SCID and my Investigating Police Office, IPO, at Isolo asked me to come to the station on Tuesday for the transfer.
“But when I got to the SCID, I discovered the IPO, who took over the case, one Mr. Jacob, I don’t know his rank, became hostile to me.
“You need to see how this man treated me. He started by asking me to write a new statement and when I tried to explain that I had written a statement at Isolo division, he rebuffed my explanation and insisted I wrote a new one.
They threatened to kill me
“Afterwards, they started threatening me. The IPO, Alhaji Obesere, and some of his brothers, who were present there, asked me to stop the journalists from publishing my story and if I don’t, I will be a dead person.
“I was so frightened when they said this and each time my phone rang someone would pick it up to know who was calling.
“Later, they discovered  I wasn’t going to break, then they started begging me and promised to take care of me. Alhaji Obesere even said he was going to take me to the best hospital for treatment.
“At the end, I rose to leave and they offered to drop me in my place. The IPO also insisted that I should follow them. Instead of taking me to my area, they took me to Obesere’s house and the woman who introduced me to him was also there.
“While I was with them I alerted the police at Isolo and told them where I was.
“But yesterday, they called after they saw the publication and started threatening again to kill me.
“I am highly terrified, that was why I travelled back  to my home to get some treatment.”

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/03/obesere-rape-update-they-are.html

IIham Anas is a 40-year old Indonesian photographer who bears a striking resemblance to the US president. According to reports this has made him a tv star in his country.


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I am 28 years and i have fallen in love with two sisters.I had sex with both of them but the younger one later discovered,asking me to make a choice between the two.Though i chose the younger sister,the elder still call me.What do i do?

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Dear Olokunbola Blessing,

I am 32,my husband is 45 and we got married six years ago.I am employed and at the same time a student.The problem is that my husband womanizes a lot..Currently,he is said to have over ix girlfriends.Whenever i ask him about the girls,he gets angry but i have chosen to keep my eyes on him.He has become so selfish,shops for himself alone and whenever i want some money from him,he refuses giving me despite his fat salary.My love for him dwindles daily and i am thinking of leaving him.

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Dear Olokunbola,

I dated a girl for about two years but all of a sudden,she changed her behavior towards me.Whenever i asked what went wrong,she had excuses.I discovered she was no longer interested and i left her alone.Initially,she told me she was a virgin and we decided not have sex.She even promised that if i don't meet her as a virgin i should do anything to her.Now,she wants me back and told me she has lost her virginity to a man she dated after me.When i heard this,i was very sad but she asked for forgiveness.though i still love her,i do not know if she will be faithful again.

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/03/my-girlfriend-was-disflowered-by.html

From a female OBB reader

    While I was in school, I was 22 when I dated a 52 year old very rich man because I needed his money. He made sure we were as discreet as possible and I never got to know anything about him or his family, I only knew his name.

    Fast-forward to seven years later, I met this gorgeous gentleman who has shown interest in taking me as his wife. Now he took me home to his mum and I discovered his late dad was my former sugar lover.

    Do I tell him the truth as regards my relationship with his dad since love has no secrets or forget about it since the man is dead?

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/03/dear-obb-reader-should-i-tell-him-or-not.html

Watch this videoEven in the Bible Belt, coroners don't use the word "miracle" lightly.

But Holmes County, Mississippi, Coroner Dexter Howard has no qualms using the word for the resurrection, as it were, of Walter Williams, who was declared dead Wednesday night.

Howard received the call from Williams' hospice nurse, who told Howard that the 78-year-old had passed away. A family member called as well, saying the same, Howard said.

Howard and Byron Porter from Porter & Sons Funeral Home in Lexington, Mississippi, drove to Williams' home to collect the body for funeral preparations. Howard checked Williams' pulse about 9 p.m. and pronounced him dead.

"There was no pulse. He was lifeless," Howard said.

The coroner completed his paperwork, placed Williams in a body bag and transported him to the funeral home, he said. There, something strange happened: The body bag moved.

"We got him into the embalming room and we noticed his legs beginning to move, like kicking," Howard said. "He also began to do a little breathing."

They immediately called an ambulance. Paramedics arrived and hooked Williams up to monitors. Sure enough, he had a heartbeat, so they transported him to the Holmes County Hospital and Clinics.

"They were in shock. I was in shock. I think everybody at the hospital was in shock," Howard said.

Howard is an elected official and not a doctor. More than 1,500 counties in the United States elect coroners and most don't require medical degrees.

Neither in his 12 years as county coroner nor during his decade as deputy coroner has Howard seen anything like it. Howard was absolutely certain Williams was dead.

The only reasonable explanation he could think of, Howard said, is that Williams' defibrillator, implanted beneath the skin on his chest, jump-started his heart after he was placed in the body bag.

"It could've kicked in, started his heart back," Howard said. "The bottom line is it's a miracle."

Overjoyed family members are thanking God for saving the life of the longtime farmer they call "Snowball."

"So it was not my daddy's time," daughter Martha Lewis told CNN affiliate WJTV. "I don't know how much longer he's going to grace us and bless us with his presence, but hallelujah, we thank Him right now!"

Nephew Eddie Hester told Olokunbolablessing affiliate WAPT he was at Williams' Lexington home when Howard and Porter zipped up the body bag, so he was more than a little stunned when his cousin called at 2:30 a.m. Thursday and told him, "Not yet."

"What you mean not yet?" Hester recalled asking his cousin. "He said, 'Daddy's still here.' "

"I don't know how long he's going to be here, but I know he's back right now. That's all that matters," Hester told WAPT.

Howard visited Williams on Thursday at the hospital and said he was still "a little weak" but was surrounded by family members and talking.

Mike Murphy, the coroner for Clark County, Nevada, and past president of the International Association of Coroners and Medical Examiners, said he couldn't comment on this specific case without knowing all the details, but he's read news reports of people returning to life at funeral homes "from time to time."

Asked if he'd ever heard of a case in which a defibrillator played a role in bringing someone back to life, Murphy said he hadn't, "but just because I haven't heard it doesn't mean it hasn't happened."

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/03/resurrection-man.html

Yemi, Eyemaro and Lyna

The well being of a family is usually dependent on income from both partners in a marriage relationship. That is one of the reasons people in a relationship tend to consider the employment status of the person they hope to get married to before taking a decision. would you marry a partner who is not employed.

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From a female OBB reader

    I have been married for 3years with a child, love my husband, he is the kind of man any woman can hope for, spoils and pampers me like a guy asking a girl out for the first time (we are happy). But I think I love my ex more, we broke up because he lies too much to me and any guy that lies to you is not serious or doesn't love you (my theory), but we remained friends, the kind of friend that you can tell anything no matter how weird. We were chatting about 2 days ago and we got emotional that he sent me a picture of his penis and I almost jumped out of my skin. Since then I have not been able to sleep, work or do anything without seeing that image and longing for it, I so much want to be with him but I am married. What should I do? Please don't insult me, I need honest answer cause I can't talk to anybody about it.

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/03/dear-obb-readers-cant-get-image-of-my.html

I'm just 21 years but its like I've loved him for 91 years.I feel like running away with him:Should I ?

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I'm Sabina,21 years Old but this guy so so take my breathe away".I feel like i should get married in 3 months but my folk say i'm too young.WHAT DO I DO ?

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/02/what-should-i-do_27.html

From a frustrated male OBB readers

    My wife and I  hardly ever have sex. We've been married for a year and the most we have sex is twice a month. I see her naked body everyday and I get urges, but she always gives an excuse. We had amazing sex when were dating, but now we don't even kiss. I just want to have sex. I don't mind even if it's horrible sex. That's why I've been cheating on her. 

    For me, my wife's job is to have good sex with me. Simple. I can pay someone to cook for me and clean the house, but if I hire a prostitute to do what my wife doesn't want to do, then I am a bad man?

    So why are women so selfish? Even if she is not in the mood, can't she try? Even if she is on her period, what happened to blow jobs or hand jobs? I need segxwal release. My wife doesn't see this. Women just don't understand.

A study said that married couples have sex on average of 58 times a year. That's rounds off to a little more than once a week. This is very sad. You know the worst part? Married couples lie about their sex lives, and the actual numbers are much lower. It's the women's fault! We men are always good to go.
All I have to say is shame on all you women! Shame! You complain that men are dogs and they will always step out! Why wouldn't they step out Ehn? When you wouldn't let YOUR OWN HUSBAND STEP IN! why wouldn't they step out?
Do you even know  the worst part Linda? SHE KNOWS!!! she knows how much I love sex. Yet she deliberately, knowingly denies me. I can't tell you how many times I've laid in bed and I try to touch her and she immediately starts making excuses. So so so so so many times that I can't even count.
Then she will say "It's not easy to be a woman. I work so hard. I have to go to work and still come back to take care of the kids. I have to make dinner, wash the dishes, do the laundry, and I still have to wake up early to get the kids ready for school before I go to work." You see, If she didn't stop my segxwal advances every night, then maybe I would actually get up and help her.
Women need to try this- Wear something sexy, ride your man like a cowgirl, and give him a blowjob like you're trying to suck out diamonds from his tube, then what will you ask him+ for that he will say no? Maybe for her sex doesn't matter, but it matters to me.
Then she will complain when I go out to get it from Nnenna, then she starts disturbing my life that who is Nnenna? Nnenna is the woman who is doing what she is too lazy to do.
I love my wife and kids, and I will never leave them. .But for me, Nnenna is the assistant wife, she will have sex with me so that I don't have to be shamelessly begging my wife everyday for what she is supposed to give that she keeps denying me"
 
This is how men think. I didn't know it until my marital sex life died, but from now, this is how I will start thinking too.  Please help me ask...am I a bad man?

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/02/dear-obb-readers-i-cant-stop-cheating.html

Yes, it is midweek and the average worker is gradually preparing for weekend, which commences on Friday evening. Weekends are those glorious times of the week when we take care of those things we have pushed off — including, ahem, séx — during the week because of the pressure of work and also because of the need to wake up early and sleep late.

Now that the weekend stares each of us in the face, it’s also necessary to have a rough idea of what we will do in order to stay focused, healthy and totally revved up to meet the demands of the new week.

    One physical activity that can help in this regard, researchers say, is getting down to the real ‘business,’ not necessarily to make babies, but really to unwind and let your partner feel your presence the right way all over.

Many long-married couples seem to miss out on the benefits of sex, which they, more often than not, push to the back of family agenda, especially when they are no longer trying for babies. Yet, scientists insist that séx has so many advantages that affect our health psychologically, mentally, physiologically... name it, and there you are. This part of our social life is so necessary to our overall wellbeing that researchers counsel us to indulge in it for up to three times in a week.

Scientists caution, though, that too much séx can also be detrimental to health. They warn that having séx more than thrice a week can weaken the immune system and make us susceptible to infections.

Again, researchers warn that only those in healthy, loving monogamous relationships could hope to reap all the health benefits of séx. They say having risky séx with lots of partners will definitely do more harm than good.

Now, what are the advantages derivable from this physical gratification? Here…

Boosts circulation, brain power
Scientists at the Royal Australasian College of Physicians note that more blood moves through the blood vessels when you have séx, expressly cutting your risk of heart attack or stroke as a result. The researchers enthuse that sex releases certain feel-good hormones such as dehydroepiandrosterone and oxytocin, both of which play a huge role in pair bonding. In fact, because of its importance in love-making, oxytocin is variously referred to as the “love hormone,” or “cuddle hormone” because it is released when people snuggle up or bond socially.

Cuts blood pressure and stress
For some of us, the time of stress is also the period we refrain from séx. Yet, a study by some scholars at the School of Sciences, University of Paisley, Scotland, reveals that séx not only lowers blood pressure, it also reduces stress.

The scientists argue that séx can improve mood and combat anxiety by reducing stress signals in the brain. They counsel that when you have séx, it lowers the levels of cortisol — the hormone that indicates high stress levels.

Relieves pain
A séxuality researcher at Rutgers University, Professor Emeritus Beverly Whipple, assures that good coition can relieve physical pain. The magic hormone, again, is oxytocin, which she describes as a natural chemical in the body that surges before and during climax. Again, she says, “the endorphins released during climax block pain signals from reaching the nervous system and thus are critical to maintaining optimum health.”

Goodbye to colds!
A bout of colds can make you miserable for days. Not to worry though, researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania, United States of America, found that “having séx once or twice a week increased the production of the immune-boosting antibody — immunoglobulin — by a third. Again, German scientists say copulation increases the white blood cells. The white blood cells are the cells of the immune system that are involved in defending the body against infectious diseases and foreign materials.

Heart attack? No more!
In 2002, British scientists carried out a study of large population of men, and concluded that frequent séxual intercourse can “shield you from fatal coronary events.”

Researchers say men who have regular séx are about “45 per cent less likely to develop life-threatening heart conditions than men who have séx once a month or less.”

Another research by scientists at the New England Research Institute in Massachusetts and published in the American Journal of Cardiology, shows that “men who made love at least twice a week were much less likely to have heart disease than those whose séxual encounters were limited to once a month or less.”

So, in addition to healthy eating, rev up your health with this other therapy and you are good to go!

Banish prostate cancer
Experts at the America-based National Cancer Institute counsel that men who successfully conclude a séxual activity at least five times a week were much less likely to get prostate cancer.

A reproductive endocrinologist, Prof. Oladapo Ashiru, says prostate cancer is the single most common cancer in men; while urologists warn that it’s also the second deadliest cancer, next only to lung cancer. Yet, experts say a simple act of regular séxual intercourse can serve as a preventive measure.

According to a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association, men who have séx at least thrice a week reduce by 15 per cent their prostate cancer risk.

Takes care of headaches
It’s not all about men, as women also stand to benefit from this benevolent act. Researchers enthuse that the endorphins and corticosteroids released during séx have analgesic effects on the body, relieving the pain of headaches, arthritis, cramps and body aches.

“Endorphins are a natural painkiller,” the researchers say; while “the production of oestrogen (which is also released during séx) in women may also ward off period pain.”

Improves sleep
Those who find it difficult to sleep may also try this therapy, as experts say séx induces sleep as a result of the oxytocin that is released during the act. Of course, when you are able to obtain a restful sleep, your mental and physical health will improve.

No more incontinence
Incontinence is the inability to control urination. And although urinary incontinence affects both men and women, physicians say women are twice as likely as men to develop incontinence.

But then, you can guard against this embarrassing phenomenon by having séx. Scientists say this is achievable because the muscles that regulate the bladder receive a “workout” whenever you have séx, as the entire pelvic floor muscles contract while the exercise lasts.

Again, experts advise post-menopausal women to guard against honeypotl atrophy by having regular séx. It will prevent likely complications and urinary tract infections, we are told.

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Seven months after suspending his son, John Kumuyi, for staging what is considered 'an extravagant wedding' in Deeper Life doctrine, Pastor W.F. Kumuyi has re-instated him as a pastor in the church after he and elders of the church forgave John and his wife, who were jointly suspended.

It would be recalled that John had allowed the society to influence him and thus ignored his father's teachings in the preparations for his wedding and the wedding proper. His wife had put on make-up and a séxy wedding dress. They even hired an executive limousine for the wedding that took place in Jamaica. 

Some members of Deeper Life church in Nigeria were outraged by the pictures from the wedding which they aptly described as flamboyant, when compared to what other members of the church are permitted to wear for their own wedding in the same church. Below is one of such bitter comparison and complains...


Anyway, Pastor John has apologized and the church elders have all forgiven him. So, it's now case closed!

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I didn't know that ugly girls are very fertile until this shit happened to me. I'm just pissed with myself for making this big mistake. But I blame my original babe who is very stingy when it comes to séx. She hardly satisfy me, she is always telling me to waiting untill we are fully married before I can do it everyday.

Can you imagine that my original babe allows me only once or twice in a month? Imagine a matured guy like me to sleep with a my own babe only two times in a whole month. Is that not wickedness? I can't cope!

That is why I decided to have this girl on the side to be helping me whenever I need the thing since my babe is doing her shakara. But the girl is ugly, I can't be seen with her in public, she is not my class. If not just to cure tension I'm not suppose to be having séx with somebody like her. But now she is pregnant...

My man Olu Famous, I can't marry this girl. No way! And I don't want to start having children with all kinds of girls. I already have a lady I love and I want to get married to her later this year. Her parents love me.

Please what is the best way for me to discharge this Edo girl and her unwanted pregnancy? I'm beginning to feel that she has a bad plan, like she want to trap me with the pregnancy. I even lied to her that I may travel out of Nigeria for some months but she say that she will still keep the baby, I should be sending her money.

Abeg, I just need to end this wahala. Please what can I do? -- Chuks

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Majority of the time ladies tend to date bad guys, probably because bad guys have sweet mouth and know in clear terms how to say the lovely things ladies want to hear. This lady, her name is Gabriella, fell into the hands of a bad guy and this is the result. Her boyfriend almost killed her:

    "This might be a little graphic but I just want to let everyone know that I am okay. I am a survivor of domestic violence with a boy I dated for 8 months.

    "I really thought everything was fine but he constantly questioned me about cheating and flirting. Non sense. I never looked at someone the way he looked at me. Thought I loved this boy. How can someone that 'loves' me do this to me? The scars on my chest are way worse and extend down to my right Bosom ...

"Completely scarred. The skin on my shoulder has been completely skinned. And I have bruising on my rib cage, neck, and my muscles. I was kicked out of a moving vehicle, then beaten and dragged, as I blacked out and was left lying there in my own puddle of blood.

"Doctors said I could have died if I had not made it when I did. I am so blessed and beyond lucky to be alive and have so much support from friends, family, and strangers. As I try to recover, I ask you to please keep me in your prayers. I have to wear a neck brace for 3-4 weeks, an arm cast and I can barely walk for now. Thank you for all the love. I hope to be an inspiration to women and anyone involved in domestic violence."

Ladies, hope those of you who love to associate with and romance so called 'tough' guys will learn from this?

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/02/can-you-do-this-to-your-girlfriendno.html

Dear readers am confused and losing it. I have been married for 3yrs now to the best man. Before marriage, sex with him was great...then I looked forward to every moment with him. Few years down the lane my husband seems to have lost interest so bad that we can stay two months without sex. Recently I noticed he couldn't even get an erection with me. I suspect there is a side chick and I really don’t know what to do.

sourcehttp://olokunbolablessing.blogspot.com/2014/02/i-think-my-husband-has-side-chick-what.html