My own opinion is quite simply. If you read Genesis 2 vs 21-24, you will get a clearer picture of what marriage is all about. Once a lady a married to a man of her choice or vice versa, which makes them one. the question raised is good, Can a lady pay the bride price. Once there is love among the two, what i think should be done is, since you the lady knowthat any shame you husband carries is yours because when you make is known publicly that you are the one who is going to provide the money for the pride price and all other things, you have succeeded in selling your husband to the world. Thou he may not be financially ok but since you know both of you have a prosperous future, you don't need to expose him. It should even be known to only both of you that you are the one providing the materials.
Think Twice ladies
Guys be faith and the world will be a better place.
Shalom
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