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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Plz help me, Should i leave dis girl or solutions |
on: 17-06-2009 02:49 AM
| Plz ladies & gentlemen help me 2 solve dis problem. I had a problem wit my former girl,i bought a fone 4 her later after 2 weeks of buying fone 4 her.she told me she is no more interested again. So we broke up like dat on december last year. So i said no problem.i was not in a haste 2 get a girl. But it happened dat last week wednesday i met a girl, the girl is beautiful,attractive. So as i was asking d girl about herself the girl told me dat her boy friend broke her heart so she told me the guy's name,can u believe dis dat i know d guy well and thats how d guy behaves. But i haven't told the girl about relationship cuz i want know how her life is but she has been telling me dat she loves me. I have been with the girl,calling d girl everyday. This sunday morning she told me 2 do her a favour by getting her perfume and spray 4 her,she has texted me thrice but she had never called me.but she flash always.But d problem is dat i don't want 2 fall victim again in my life.what should i do.Plz help me!!!.what are d solutions.should i forget about d girl.
When I was in Africa last year, I can't tell u the amount of the girls who tried to do something like this..."oh baby i love..ehhhhh...I need phone oh"...I'd just tell her to get the phuck outta here. Dude, The chicks hustle you because you let them. You stop letting them and you won't run into things like this | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: One thing I never understood about relationships... |
on: 11-06-2009 11:10 PM
| long-term relationships is not good if u want to have any relationship 1yrs is okey and get married but 3 to 6yrs relationship is bad
nah dude...that's not really true in my opinion or maybe its the way you phrased it. Being in a relationship for a long time is actually productive...it gives u an idea of how marriage would be like. There's actually nothing bad about being together for 3 years+...However, a relationship is always meant to grow...so if after 6 years, it hasn't evolved into marriage atleast...then yea, there's an issue there. is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
tired of each other? well...yea I can see how but that sucks....Again, truly, its not something they cant fix if they really want to...and Also, I hope that doesnt happen to me (never has...and hopefully never will). is called when the "SPARK" disappears. they start getting bored of each other, and they look for ways to get out of the relationship. and if that includes cheating, they do it Still doesn't add up to me....Relationships to me aren't simply about the "Spark"...the whole point of a relationship is creating a process that eventually leads to one thing--Marriage. That's how its always been...and thats why God created it. It's just nowadays that people abuse the point of relationships and now relationships have become a way for ppl to have regular sex with some1 and/or pass time. Now...this topic was about long-term relationships.. not 2 or 3 week relationships. why would someone stay in a relationship for 2 years if the "spark" isn't there. People have to understand that the whole "omg...ur the bestest boyfriend in the world blah blah" is not forever. That feeling comes and goes. There are good times when u feel like that....then there are horrible times where u feel like ur boyfriend is an A*#S. What Im trying to say is that people are suppose to DEAL with both times...not run away when the going gets too rough. and as for psychology...I took several psychology classes...as well as 3 Sociology classes including 1 Sex and Culture 3rd level Anthropology class. Currently a 3rd year junior in University. Remeber, that first person will not always be "IT"(the one). there are trials and errors in life, which includes in relationships. maybe u guys got together because of something about her /him u just couldn't resist. it fades away as time goes on, and u guys wanna just take a break. is called life. Ofcourse....I know that...but I'm not talking about the "first person" though...just because your in a long-term relationship doesn't mean that was the first people u decided to be with. Example...a girl could have had bullshit boyfriends...then eventually she finds 1 who is completely different from the rest and decides to embark on a real relationship with him. But I don't agree with what u said "it fades away as time goes on".. Thats Not true. The only time that happens, according to everything I have ever studied or seen with my own experience, is only if you guys were never in love at all. You can NOT...absolutely NOT be in love with someone and it just "fades"...that's B.S. Then again, its not people's fault because people in general don't even understand the meaning of love. They think love is thinking about someone everyday or wanting to be with that person...lol. Let me tell you something.... There are sooo many imitations of "love"....and almost 1/2 of the people who think they are in love are not. There is lust, there is infatuation, there is Affinity... There is Limerence...and then there is Love. People should study these and know which one there in before entering in a relationship. dude, what about those people married for 45 years, and then divorced after? what the hell do u call that? if u don't keep that young spark, it does fade away, because, there is now more into the relationship than just trying to get each other to notice ur self. is just the both of u. i have friends. i did researches. i had to do those researches. my friends tell me stuff. one was like(i've always wanted to kiss him but after a while, it all fades). Lol...if a couple has been married for 45 years..and they divorce, don't u think it has alot more to do than a "spark" problem? Think about it. If you were married to someone for almost 50 years, will u wake up morning and be like "hunney, the spark between us is dead, so I'm gonna have to continue on this journey alone"??What journey? Does that make one ounce of sense? If people are married, they don't divorce because they've lost their "spark" they divorce because of something called "irreconcilable differences". The whole spark theory is for highschoolers who think love is about wanting to kiss someone 1 day and not wanting to kiss someone the next week. Serious relationships and Marriage do not rely on a false sense of "spark". If people want a successful relationship (any kind)..they have to work at it. if you distance yourself from your partner and one day say "we've lost our spark"...who's fault is that? Instead of working towards your problem, u stayed there and watched as your relationship crumbled to the ground. When you meet someone and first begin to have deep feelings for them, you think about them 24/7, you smile alot...you want to kiss them every second of the day...BUT...this feeling will NOT last forever. This is only the beginning stages of a relationship and if you think that's what "spark" is all about than....wow. If by spark, you mean emotional/physical connection, then I can agree that if that is lost then its a problem. However...there isn't any problem, like I said before, that can not be fixed if people are willing to sacrifice pride/ego and fix it...rather than running away trying to find your next "spark" and when shit gets serious again...complain again and say "oh ive lost my sparrk"....how many times will someone say "i've lost my spark...off to the next one"? | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: One thing I never understood about relationships... |
on: 9-06-2009 06:48 PM
| long-term relationships is not good if u want to have any relationship 1yrs is okey and get married but 3 to 6yrs relationship is bad
nah dude...that's not really true in my opinion or maybe its the way you phrased it. Being in a relationship for a long time is actually productive...it gives u an idea of how marriage would be like. There's actually nothing bad about being together for 3 years+...However, a relationship is always meant to grow...so if after 6 years, it hasn't evolved into marriage atleast...then yea, there's an issue there. is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
tired of each other? well...yea I can see how but that sucks....Again, truly, its not something they cant fix if they really want to...and Also, I hope that doesnt happen to me (never has...and hopefully never will). is called when the "SPARK" disappears. they start getting bored of each other, and they look for ways to get out of the relationship. and if that includes cheating, they do it Still doesn't add up to me....Relationships to me aren't simply about the "Spark"...the whole point of a relationship is creating a process that eventually leads to one thing--Marriage. That's how its always been...and thats why God created it. It's just nowadays that people abuse the point of relationships and now relationships have become a way for ppl to have regular sex with some1 and/or pass time. Now...this topic was about long-term relationships.. not 2 or 3 week relationships. why would someone stay in a relationship for 2 years if the "spark" isn't there. People have to understand that the whole "omg...ur the bestest boyfriend in the world blah blah" is not forever. That feeling comes and goes. There are good times when u feel like that....then there are horrible times where u feel like ur boyfriend is an A*#S. What Im trying to say is that people are suppose to DEAL with both times...not run away when the going gets too rough. and as for psychology...I took several psychology classes...as well as 3 Sociology classes including 1 Sex and Culture 3rd level Anthropology class. Currently a 3rd year junior in University. Remeber, that first person will not always be "IT"(the one). there are trials and errors in life, which includes in relationships. maybe u guys got together because of something about her /him u just couldn't resist. it fades away as time goes on, and u guys wanna just take a break. is called life. Ofcourse....I know that...but I'm not talking about the "first person" though...just because your in a long-term relationship doesn't mean that was the first people u decided to be with. Example...a girl could have had bullshit boyfriends...then eventually she finds 1 who is completely different from the rest and decides to embark on a real relationship with him. But I don't agree with what u said "it fades away as time goes on".. Thats Not true. The only time that happens, according to everything I have ever studied or seen with my own experience, is only if you guys were never in love at all. You can NOT...absolutely NOT be in love with someone and it just "fades"...that's B.S. Then again, its not people's fault because people in general don't even understand the meaning of love. They think love is thinking about someone everyday or wanting to be with that person...lol. Let me tell you something.... There are sooo many imitations of "love"....and almost 1/2 of the people who think they are in love are not. There is lust, there is infatuation, there is Affinity... There is Limerence...and then there is Love. People should study these and know which one there in before entering in a relationship. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: One thing I never understood about relationships... |
on: 9-06-2009 06:32 PM
| long-term relationships is not good if u want to have any relationship 1yrs is okey and get married but 3 to 6yrs relationship is bad
nah dude...that's not really true in my opinion or maybe its the way you phrased it. Being in a relationship for a long time is actually productive...it gives u an idea of how marriage would be like. There's actually nothing bad about being together for 3 years+...However, a relationship is always meant to grow...so if after 6 years, it hasn't evolved into marriage atleast...then yea, there's an issue there. is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
tired of each other? well...yea I can see how but that sucks....Again, truly, its not something they cant fix if they really want to...and Also, I hope that doesnt happen to me (never has...and hopefully never will). is called when the "SPARK" disappears. they start getting bored of each other, and they look for ways to get out of the relationship. and if that includes cheating, they do it Still doesn't add up to me....Relationships to me aren't simply about the "Spark"...the whole point of a relationship is creating a process that eventually leads to one thing--Marriage. That's how its always been...and thats why God created it. It's just nowadays that people abuse the point of relationships and now relationships have become a way for ppl to have regular sex with some1 and/or pass time. Now...this topic was about long-term relationships.. not 2 or 3 week relationships. why would someone stay in a relationship for 2 years if the "spark" isn't there. People have to understand that the whole "omg...ur the bestest boyfriend in the world blah blah" is not forever. That feeling comes and goes. There are good times when u feel like that....then there are horrible times where u feel like ur boyfriend is an A*#S. What Im trying to say is that people are suppose to DEAL with both times...not run away when the going gets too rough. and as for psychology...I took several psychology classes...as well as 3 Sociology classes including 1 Sex and Culture 3rd level Anthropology class. Currently a 3rd year junior in University. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: One thing I never understood about relationships... |
on: 9-06-2009 06:15 PM
| long-term relationships is not good if u want to have any relationship 1yrs is okey and get married but 3 to 6yrs relationship is bad
nah dude...that's not really true in my opinion or maybe its the way you phrased it. Being in a relationship for a long time is actually productive...it gives u an idea of how marriage would be like. There's actually nothing bad about being together for 3 years+...However, a relationship is always meant to grow...so if after 6 years, it hasn't evolved into marriage atleast...then yea, there's an issue there. is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
tired of each other? well...yea I can see how but that sucks....Again, truly, its not something they cant fix if they really want to...and Also, I hope that doesnt happen to me (never has...and hopefully never will). | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: am i at fault? |
on: 9-06-2009 08:29 AM
| DIS IS ME I CANT CHANGE WHO I AM.
Thats the word of a selfish person. You can change that act in you if you want to.
To answer you, Why would you be picking his calls when you know you are not ready to accept him?
Why can't you just tell him from the on set, (i don't want you or im not ready for anything with you).
than allowing him spend his money on calls and you don't return back.
You better change before you loose someone that is meant for you.
Amen my brother...AMEN...lawd have mercy... sammy i said a frend not some 1 im dating yet...wen does commitment ave to set in is it b4 d relationship starts or ..
If he is a friend to you, why won't you return his calls? Most he have to be ur lover for you to return his calls? Commitment does not have specific period to start in the relationship. If he meets ur standard as a lady that knows the qualities you except from a man i think you don't need to waste more time thinking of when to be committed to him. DUDE...Yo..U are my homie man...that is REAL fckin TALK right there...u took the words out of my damn mouth............. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: i am lost. |
on: 9-06-2009 08:18 AM
| | everytime I think about quitting this site....shit like this makes me laugh to tears and remind me "damn...cant ever leave this place...too funny" | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: CELEBRITY MARRIAGES N SEX SCANDAL |
on: 9-06-2009 08:09 AM
| | The reason why many celebrity marriages end up in turmoil is because of how their marriage is publicized. Imagine yourself ina relationship where EVERYTHING is spread among television. Problems that could be easily solved won't be when the entire world's influence is injected into your relationships. When problems usually go public, its very tough for these problems to get fixed. The Media is bent on making stories...welll...by screwing up celebrity marriages...well there's their story
ex. A singer/rapper could be hanging out with a female friend. The media will exhibit this as "RAPPER/SINGER CHEATING ON HIS WIFE" or a celebrity could be going out by himself...the media will rewrite it as "CELEBRITY DUMPS HIS WIFE".
and if the couple's bond isn't strong enough and there is already a certain absence of trust/understanding...then this couple won't be strong enough to fight through the media's B.S...
which then now results in a failure of a marriage.
Thats Dr. J signing off....
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: meeting an internet friend only to discover he/she is serioulsy deformed. |
on: 7-06-2009 11:26 PM
| What will be your reaction drinking with friends in a public place while waiting to meet for the first time a friend you met on internet in real life only to discover he/she is seriously deformed?
Only a few ppl here are being honest. I see alot of ppl saying things like "oh i beg its in da heart that matters blah blah" lolllll TELL THE TRUTH OH Friend: Cool....but probably not. How am I gonna really hang out with a seriously deformed friend? Lol...what would we do together? only watch tv? More than Friend: If you know who George Lopez is and u watch his show...then picture me speaking in his accent...whatcha....HELL NO....again....HELL NO....wtf. You could be the sweetest person in the world...and still a hell no. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: One thing I never understood about relationships... |
on: 6-06-2009 11:34 PM
| some people re jst not satisfied with watevr dey ve dats jst how it is.
Ok...the keyword is now "Satisfaction" ...now... my question is how is one so sure that they won't end up in the same exact situation that they are running away from/leaving their current partner for? if you've been with someone for so long and u cant solve just 1 problem...what makes u think this new person is going to be problem free? I'm not saying that no matter how bad a relationship is...u should stay in it...I'm just saying that if its such a simple thing work at and fix...why not work at it? I understand that as time progresses people want to "try" new things...however, is it smart to do that and sacrifice what u already have (and especially if what u have is not so bad compared to the B.S. others go throgh)? Alot of people cry about not finding the "right" person but then when some people have the closest thing to it...they undervalue it and start looking elsewhere--that is what I don't get and never understood. | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: One thing I never understood about relationships... |
on: 6-06-2009 11:14 PM
| some people jst want to try new things bcos dey believe new is b8r than old.
hmm....then why bother getting into a relationship if thats da case..... someone cant be in a serious relationship and wake up one random morning and be like "hey i want to try something new" lol...like thats just pure fickleness. The type of ppl who usually change ppl like that r the ones who always end up heartbrokwn cuz they cant make up their minds | | | | |
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / One thing I never understood about relationships... |
on: 6-06-2009 10:01 PM
| | why do people in long-term relationships often begin looking for something new the minute a problem should arise? example....a guy could be in a relationship with a girl for like 2+ years then after an argument or an issue that could be SOLVED if they sacrifice their pride/ego to work together, he starts to have an emotional affair (as in begins start developing feelings) for another person INSTEAD of trying to make an already established relationship work??
Does it make sense to leave someone that you love for someone that you like? Seems like people like to live in the "omg hes everything i want..he calls me sweet names" stage of a relationship....as if the new person won't begin to change later down the road and end up even being worse than u could imagine...
in other words...why do people easily give up?
and basically why are people stupid?
smh
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Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: What wud u do |
on: 6-06-2009 09:52 PM
| U're in a relationship wit a girl who gave u life, a girl who risked her life 2 save urs, a girl who made u who u are, a girl who is ready 2 do anything 4 u and u later find urself in luv wit someone else, so much in luv dt u don't care what anybody says. What wud u do?
er.....just bear in mind that if a girl is ready to do all of that for you...its become obsession and she will be also ready to take your life should you choose to "find urself in luv wit someone else". At the end of the day it's up to you. But me personally...when u say that ur in a relationship with her...she didnt force u to join a relationship with her...u did it yourself and she loves u to death. It would make sense to try and make that work instead of looking for something new. What if this new girl ends up not giving a shit about u? u gonna run back to the old one? or the old one would probably murder you b4 u even have the chance to make a decision..... >_> | | | | |
