Naturally, his mother sees me as an obstacle, even though he pretends about it. Although she doesn’t shout at me but she has a way of making my life in that house hell on earth.

For instance, if my husband has the urge to eat a particular kind of food and I make attempt to cook what my husband wants, she would come to the kitchen to tell me that the particular food is forbidden in that house.

The worst thing is that when my husband comes and I tell him what his mother said, he won’t say anything. Although he is the breadwinner of the family, he cannot stand up to his people to defend me. The resultant effect is that I am on my own, begging them to like me a little bit but it seems the harder I try to please them, the more determined they are to make my life unbearable in their brother’s house.

I have been begging my husband to relocate, at least, a little far away from the family so that I can enjoy my very young marriage but he has refused to listen to me. His excuse is that I would soon be back in school which is six hours drive from home.

Anytime I raise the issue of the treatment I get from his family, he is instant in defending them. His mother is in charge of my less than a year old marriage.

It appears this is going to be the pattern of my marriage as my husband in his wisdom, built his personal house within the vicinity of the family house.

My sister-in-law who is also at home is over 30 years of age and she too is another source of my headache. I am dying slowly. Please help me. What should I do?

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Posted: at 8-04-2013 06:03 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming

Posted: at 8-04-2013 06:53 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

treat her the same way u will treat ur mother as of ur sister inlaw tell her to go and marry her own husband

Posted: at 8-04-2013 07:01 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

i think you should have patient, for better for worst

Posted: at 8-04-2013 07:21 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Be patient

Posted: at 8-04-2013 07:32 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

My dear if i tell u i understand d way u feel i'd be lying.....but one thing i know for sure: wen it gets too tough for u to stand go on ur KNEELS and call upon God for there is nothin impossible before Him.

Posted: at 8-04-2013 07:39 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

My dear if i tell u i understand d way u feel i'd be lying.....but one thing i know for sure: wen it gets too tough for u to stand go on ur KNEELS and call upon God for there is nothin impossible before Him.

Posted: at 8-04-2013 07:46 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

[Yes o, have patient and Pray to GOD because there is nothing God can not do?]

Yes o, have patient and Pray to GOD because there is nothing God can not do?

Posted: at 8-04-2013 08:03 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

sorry

Posted: at 8-04-2013 09:06 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Sometimes U need to take the bull by the horn. Your marriage is too young to have third parties. Your mother in law should understand that. She has enjoyed her own so she should give U some space to do same. Since your husband is still a baby, U need to call his family to order but in a polite way. But most importantly, prayer is the key.

Posted: at 8-04-2013 09:52 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

talk to his(your husband's) father if he is still in his life.
men sees their son's married life a lot differently.

Posted: at 8-04-2013 10:03 PM (11 years ago) | Hero

[I MEAN A WOMAN. YOU R NOT AN ANIMAL, USE UR BRAIN]

IF YOU THINK YOU EXPERIENCE HELL IN YOUR HUSBAND HOME, YOU SURELY HEARD RUBBISH STORIES, IN HELL PEOPLE SUFFER NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT ALLOWED TO COOK THEIR HUSBAND FAVOURITE MEAL. GROW THE phyukK UP. SUCK IT UP AND FACE IT LIKE MAN, MONKEY, I MEAN A WOMAN. YOU R NOT AN ANIMAL, USE UR BRAIN.    

Posted: at 8-04-2013 10:39 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Sometimes U need to take the bull by the horn. Your marriage is too young to have third parties. Your mother in law should understand that. She has enjoyed her own so she should give U some space to do same. Since your husband is still a baby, U need to call his family to order but in a polite way. But most importantly, prayer is the key.

I GREE

Posted: at 8-04-2013 10:41 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

Posted: at 8-04-2013 10:43 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Patience, perseverance and humility must be your watchwords.......Never lose hope....

Posted: at 8-04-2013 10:48 PM (11 years ago) | Hero

Posted: at 8-04-2013 11:50 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

No where is free from problems ok ,,always pray and leave the rest to God ..

Posted: at 9-04-2013 12:00 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Ok

Posted: at 9-04-2013 01:21 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Be wise

Posted: at 9-04-2013 02:12 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

when the mother de struggle to train her son, your husband where you de? these people have been with him all his life and you are just 1 yr with them and you want him to push them out all of a sudden. you must learn to live with them and don't see them as an obstacle. nothing is permanent in life, very soon they will all leave in search of their own destinies. if you are a good person it wont be difficult to live with them, just show them love and also try and see yourself as part of the family and not a stranger or the madam of the house. by showing them love and investing in them you will gradually gain the moral right and authority in the family. If you want your husband to pitch tent against his family then you are wicked. As for me no woman can come between me and my mother/sisters, if you cant live with them, you better be prepared to leave my house

Posted: at 9-04-2013 03:22 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

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