Why Dating a Broke Man Can Frustrate a Relationship, A Lady Shares Her Experience

Date: 26-04-2016 4:01 pm (7 years ago) | Author: Bayo Nelson
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- at 26-04-2016 04:01 PM (7 years ago)
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I just don’t know why broke guys want to have a girlfriend too, and before you start complaining let me quickly tell you I’m actually dating one. Guys jump into conclusion that girls don’t want to date a broke guy simply because he has nothing to offer financially, but this is not true in all cases, a girl that loves you sees you in her future like her husband. She wants the best for you because she sees you in her future. A girl can date a broke guy but no girl will intentionally marry a broke man. I love my broke boyfriend because firstly I’m not dating him for financial reasons, and secondly because I see a bright future in him. But one thing remains: I can’t marry him if he continues being broke.
I have stopped condemning girls that don’t settle for less. There are so many disadvantages of dating a broke guy namely:

(1) Talk about a boring relationship: when your female friends are going places with their rich boyfriend, you are just there lying on his bed staring at each other’s faces in his heated room.
(2) Your friends will not respect him: By the time your female friends get to know about his brokeness the respect will just not be there anymore. Girls love each other and they want the best for each other.
(3) He will always disgrace you: Yes! This is most annoying. A little amount of money will cause fight between you two. Imagine: asking your broke boyfriend to at least present himself in a wealthy way to impress your female friends, by buying provision or something for them, will make him tear you apart.
(4) He demands too much respect: This is funny, even rich guys that can afford to buy expensive things for their woman don’t demand as much respect as he does. I guess this is done so you won’t disregard him.
(5) He will naturally look stingy to you: Imagine asking your broke boyfriend to help you with N500 when he himself already has a plan for the only N1, 000 left with him. This is ridiculous because by the time he decides to impress you with N2, 000 you won’t just be feeling him anymore.
This is just a few of what I can remember now. Guys should note that their being financially okay brings a kind of happiness to their girlfriends/ fiancees not only because of what they will enjoy from you, but because they see their dream being fulfilled through you: you live in the best house, drive the best car and all; tell me if your partner won’t be proud to show you off.
I love my baby very much but as little as N100 can cause a misunderstanding between us. God knows the kind of joy that will fill my heart the day he will be financially okay.
“It takes a real woman to date a broke guy and help him fulfill his dream.”
All this is written from the sadness of my heart. I guess some guys don’t understand me, I am only asking the guys to be rich for their own good, not because of a leech girlfriend/fiancee. Nigerian men are quick to insult any girl that comes here to talk about money in a relationship. I am not after my boyfriend’s money or anything, his happiness is mine also and I know he will be happy by the time he is financially okay to cater for all his own needs and beyond.
 If you become financially successful it is your name that will be known not your wife’s name talk less of a girlfriend. That is why I use Dangote and Adenuga as examples: how often do you guys hear of Mrs Dangote or Mrs Adenuga? Is it as often as both men? NO! And in case the woman is as successful as the likes of Omotola Jalade and Ngozi Iweala, their man is as successful as them.


Posted: at 26-04-2016 04:01 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- Doweller at 26-04-2016 04:24 PM (7 years ago)
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*Hiss*
Posted: at 26-04-2016 04:24 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- kenosas at 26-04-2016 04:39 PM (7 years ago)
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Well,no one want to live such a broken life,but been broke today it does not make someone life conclusion tomorrow,what important mostly is how determines and goal setting one is pursuing, and again ,life is like standing fan it blows one side and then the other side,some might get down today tomorrow they will rise vice visa,if ladies begin to think this way,that means they are not serious about life.
Make una take am easy.
Posted: at 26-04-2016 04:39 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- DemmyBlack at 26-04-2016 04:41 PM (7 years ago)
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I just think ur demands are high, no one is broke, even Poeple who live with poverty still have wife... I guess u find yourself in a wrong place. One last question, Agreed he's broke right! Are you rich?
Posted: at 26-04-2016 04:41 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Mykie010 at 26-04-2016 05:02 PM (7 years ago)
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U can make him rich ,then u can get all d pleasure
Posted: at 26-04-2016 05:02 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- gogoman at 26-04-2016 07:12 PM (7 years ago)
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theif see her mouth ewww
Posted: at 26-04-2016 07:12 PM (7 years ago) | Grande Master
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- CHRISETTE at 26-04-2016 07:37 PM (7 years ago)
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Rubbish talk. How about getting ur own money and don't ask any nigga
Posted: at 26-04-2016 07:37 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- CHRISETTE at 26-04-2016 07:37 PM (7 years ago)
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Quote from: kennedy igbinoba on 26-04-2016 04:39 PM
Well,no one want to live such a broken life,but been broke today it does not make someone life conclusion tomorrow,what important mostly is how determines and goal setting one is pursuing, and again ,life is like standing fan it blows one side and then the other side,some might get down today tomorrow they will rise vice visa,if ladies begin to think this way,that means they are not serious about life.
Make una take am easy.
Is that not what she's talking about?
Posted: at 26-04-2016 07:37 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- Passion8Soul at 26-04-2016 08:17 PM (7 years ago)
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Dats ur own opinion so pocket it
Posted: at 26-04-2016 08:17 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Nottingham at 26-04-2016 08:20 PM (7 years ago)
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Same with broke girlfriend
Posted: at 26-04-2016 08:20 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- AmazingMarie at 26-04-2016 09:12 PM (7 years ago)
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Quote from: kings age on 26-04-2016 08:20 PM
Same with broke girlfriend
is there any word like that? girls are never broke. they may not be rich but never broke. one way or the other bal must show
Posted: at 26-04-2016 09:12 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- AmazingMarie at 26-04-2016 09:13 PM (7 years ago)
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this is different stroke for different folks (girl)
Posted: at 26-04-2016 09:13 PM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- youngrashy at 26-04-2016 10:10 PM (7 years ago)
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I need to see dis girl,If she go fit give her bf part of her body to take do money ritual e no bad oo,Shebi she need money she wan show her sef?Make she make some sacrifice too na..
Posted: at 26-04-2016 10:10 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Sparky12 at 26-04-2016 10:18 PM (7 years ago)
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kk... lyf goes on
Posted: at 26-04-2016 10:18 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- delight222 at 26-04-2016 10:29 PM (7 years ago)
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my own b say,guyz keep d hustling spirit alive there is no dignity in begging
Posted: at 26-04-2016 10:29 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- frank741 at 26-04-2016 10:55 PM (7 years ago)
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This is African mentality of dating. Dating a girl doesn't mean of inheriting her problem or carrying her cross.
One will support other, if there is any need of doing so.
Must a girl chose the wrong boyfriend, simply because the one he love doesn't have money. Capital NO.
Both of you will work things out and build something different, if you truly love he\her.
Everybody will never be Dangote or Adenuga.
Sometime it's depends on girls demands. How can you think of receiving expensive gifts or cars, when your boyfriend  can't afford that.
Some guy maybe broke in your eye, because of your demand of expensive gifts from him.
Most times you will read about actress or this yeye celeb saying not ready to marry a broken husband or dating broken guys.
What makes you poor is your thinking or not having any plans for future.
African girls always depends on a man or guy to carry all there problem.
Build your life and be independent.
Posted: at 26-04-2016 10:55 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- EDDYPRINCE at 26-04-2016 11:00 PM (7 years ago)
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Infact i see nothing wrong in her writeup, she is just advicing guys to be hard working. In fact wetin who nor get mny dey use woman do self abeg she spoke well. Guys come to think of it, ao many of u will allow ur sister to date guy when nor dey try or represent let alone marry him. Abeg the truth dem say its bitter. My sister u talk well. Who nor get mny rest for woman matter period.
Posted: at 26-04-2016 11:00 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- beneno at 26-04-2016 11:23 PM (7 years ago)
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Ni those type of guys full this Naijapals I swear.truth is always bitter.how can a full grown men be fighting to win just 10k (less than 40 euros )in a month and end up sleeping on line 24hours while their mates are out there making good cash.and Ni inside the same money them dey hope to take care of their babe,and this kind guys if u see the kind first class babe wey them dey put hand,you wey ur ATM dey overflow fear no go even gree u stop the babe for road  Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 26-04-2016 11:23 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- luckingto50 at 26-04-2016 11:49 PM (7 years ago)
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In as far girls continue supporting this article the more u continue staying in yourvfathers house and grow old while d Bosom  is sweeping d floor. U re saying u cannot friend or even marry broke guy, remember dat everybody can't be rich. That is how so many of u jumped into marriage bc of wealth at end is problem upon problem after someone will tell me marriage is not all about money, what else if not money? Nothing like true luv again in Nigeria if don have money ur name is sorry
Posted: at 26-04-2016 11:49 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Harrybeatzz at 27-04-2016 02:03 AM (7 years ago)
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Then i will use you for money ritual...........and take another girl to enjoy the money with me.............all na still money making......
Posted: at 27-04-2016 02:03 AM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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