it simply means she is seeing another guy

Posted: at 23-02-2011 11:48 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Please help a friend out with this problem..

"the problem am having currently  now with my babe is that she don't allow me touch her phone, she always insist that i should not go through her phone which kept me wondering.


please what could be the cause because right now i feel insecure, she started this since she came back from where she was serving.
please i need your candid advice on how to deal with this, because i love her so much and we are planing to get married by August, but this new attitude left me thinking, i have try several ways to talk it over with her to tell me the reason why i should not touch phone, but she don't say anything reasonable. "u are right there is nothing wrong with two lover sharing phones.

thnxs

if she allows u b4 and currently she's doing otherwise..mehn something is wrong somewhere.. be wise & goodluck

Posted: at 24-02-2011 12:21 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

poster a phone is supposed to be private......

Not for married couples...Eh eh!!!

Posted: at 24-02-2011 01:49 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

@Poster... I will tell you this from experience... So long as you two are engaged to be married in a couple of weeks, Legally you have no right to check her phone UNTIL you are married to her. But technically, since you two are engaged and she is not bulging out from the marriage, there shouldn't be any privacy between you two... There is no Privacy in marriage... even if you want to sit right next to her while she is in the toilet, that is absolutely fine. Now on the phone issue, it is either she is hiding something (if she is, you better do something real quick and call of the marriage) OR she just wants to establish herself as an alpha dog in the marriage by telling you what you can and/or cannot do. Step in, be the Man, i believe that's what you are, and lay down the rules... You do not even need to ask her for her phone...just walk straight to the phone and take it... when you are done with it, just put it back and you do not have to be sneaky about this... She can whine all she wants, but she'll get tired and use to you taking and looking through her phone whenever you want... Just make sure she can do same with your phone without you complaining. There is absolutely no PRIVACY in marriage...whatsoever. Again be the man and stop asking her before you do stuff... if she doesn't like it, she can go and find another puppy she could control.

Posted: at 24-02-2011 02:02 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

[The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die]

The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die

Posted: at 24-02-2011 06:11 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Love shared is love made double, if truly d luv each oda their is nothing wrong in seeing each odas phone except if one of them have a hiding agenda lik d gal. 

Posted: at 24-02-2011 07:29 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

You no get phone  wey dey browse..... Lol. If she has nothin to hide it should not be a big deal since from what you said you do touch her phone before. 

Posted: at 24-02-2011 08:09 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

[you the one that having bad attitude in this case...first of all...if u really love her like you said and trust her...you wouldn't be demanding to touch or go through her phone..for what?if her heart is committed to yu..i don't think shee will have anything to do with other guys....when she is in love with sumone else.....you need you stop this your bad self poster and concentrate on the relationship..so its will work out..damn...man...even though she is cheating on you....the phone would not tell you...she can delete alll the messages out...go get a life man.]

you the one that having bad attitude in this case...first of all...if u really love her like you said and trust her...you wouldn't be demanding to touch or go through her phone..for what?if her heart is committed to yu..i don't think shee will have anything to do with other guys....when she is in love with sumone else.....you need you stop this your bad self poster and concentrate on the relationship..so its will work out..damn...man...even though she is cheating on you....the phone would not tell you...she can delete alll the messages out...go get a life man.

sounds familiar... insistingly protective of her privacy but when it comes to that of the guy, all the sermons on openness will be preached... she wants to feel secure with a plan B should this one pack up... but will ensure that the guy is all out for her.

NYSC times have seen very few lovebirds still faithful, in the real sense of it, to their partners. Many had made very romantic relationships only in some cases stopping short of outright sex...

Tell ya guy make him shine him eye o... before soap go enter am!

Posted: at 24-02-2011 08:47 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

[well in this case i belive theres a reason for everything, we dont have to blame the girl only, the thing is that the situation is not yet cleared here! mr poster,,have u ever have a kind of conversation abt rights or privacy? she might or might not be hiding a thing but like u said,,ever since she came bk from sv,, ok that means she wasnt doing it b4? well i guess there re ways to fight it,start t from today, anytime ur fon rings, pick it up and look at the incall number with a kind of shock like wow! then leave the room,grumble and dont even let her hear u,sometimes ring urself and run out as usual,thats something she cant stand either, if she ask then tell her straight that its none of her bizz,i belive after 5 times she will def try to find out whats goin on with u, thats the only time she might calm down cos she wanna see whats goin on,, and make sure u lock ur handy with a code that she couldnt get thru it, mind u that girls do what they want and guys do what they can!! if after all ur wayo ways of gettin her attention and didnt still work then diss her,simple]

well in this case i belive theres a reason for everything, we dont have to blame the girl only, the thing is that the situation is not yet cleared here! mr poster,,have u ever have a kind of conversation abt rights or privacy? she might or might not be hiding a thing but  like u said,,ever since she came bk from sv,, ok that means she wasnt doing it b4? well i guess there re ways to fight it,start t from today, anytime ur fon rings, pick it up and look at the incall number with a kind of shock like wow! then leave the room,grumble and dont even let her hear u,sometimes ring urself and run out as usual,thats something she cant stand either, if she ask then tell her straight that its none of her bizz,i belive after 5 times she will def try to find out whats goin on with u, thats the only time she might calm down cos she wanna see whats goin on,, and make sure u lock ur handy with a code that she couldnt get thru it, mind u that girls do what they want and guys do what they can!!  if after all ur wayo ways of gettin her attention and   didnt still work then diss her,simple

Posted: at 24-02-2011 08:53 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

[The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die]

The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die

damn you read my mind.......................I'll give him my phone day or night

Posted: at 24-02-2011 09:00 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

@Poster... I will tell you this from experience... So long as you two are engaged to be married in a couple of weeks, Legally you have no right to check her phone UNTIL you are married to her. But technically, since you two are engaged and she is not bulging out from the marriage, there shouldn't be any privacy between you two... There is no Privacy in marriage... even if you want to sit right next to her while she is in the toilet, that is absolutely fine. Now on the phone issue, it is either she is hiding something (if she is, you better do something real quick and call of the marriage) OR she just wants to establish herself as an alpha dog in the marriage by telling you what you can and/or cannot do. Step in, be the Man, i believe that's what you are, and lay down the rules... You do not even need to ask her for her phone...just walk straight to the phone and take it... when you are done with it, just put it back and you do not have to be sneaky about this... She can whine all she wants, but she'll get tired and use to you taking and looking through her phone whenever you want... Just make sure she can do same with your phone without you complaining. There is absolutely no PRIVACY in marriage...whatsoever. Again be the man and stop asking her before you do stuff... if she doesn't like it, she can go and find another puppy she could control.

Absolutely, this is how REAL men talk and act. I seriously like this, not to insipidly whine because some babe intends to use you to achieve some God-knows-what silhouette of a marriage / relationship. If she feels she can't cope or considers your stance bullshit, then she can go find some idiot to crap in her callous mumbo-jumbo... Maintain no tolerance for girlish absurdities... be da man!

Posted: at 24-02-2011 09:50 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

whether she aloud u b4 or not, something is wrong! pastor said, couple who has nothing to hide from each order pick up each order fon kol. so, ask her if she really want to marry u and stay wit u 4 live. listing to her mine not her voice 4 the answer

Posted: at 24-02-2011 09:53 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

To hell with her...............

Posted: at 24-02-2011 09:58 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Any girl that hides her phone has a plan B and its not healthy for a relationship i am living witness to that! i saw some girls here surpoting   Birds of the same feather

Posted: at 24-02-2011 10:25 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

[The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die]

The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die

See toasting wit style, I get the guy fone number sha.

Posted: at 24-02-2011 10:26 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

[The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die]

The guy for that pic take 1 side fine & sexy 4 body die

See toasting wit style, I get the guy fone number sha.

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Posted: at 24-02-2011 10:29 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Poster, U sef, phone na personal property now,
na your wife...or na you buy her the phone, abeg free the gurl jorr!

Posted: at 24-02-2011 10:36 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

There is no problem here sonny?

U are supposed to get married by august huh?


Ok, I believe she musta been sleeping at ur place huh?...


Wheneva she wants to sleep at ur place f.ck d hell out of her, she would have a deep sleep u can check everything u want then even maybe still her money sef

some peeps wicked ooo.....see advice naaa
u for kukuma tell am make e drug d guy na
so that im go get access to d phone.........

Posted: at 24-02-2011 10:41 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Any girl that hides her phone has a plan B and its not healthy for a relationship i am living witness to that! i saw some girls here surpoting   Birds of the same feather

Wetin you wan see for the fone fit hurt you so why hurt yoursef if you suspect your babe then, think of where your lapses are, if she really loves you she won't get another guy and if you treat her well she won't get another guy.

Posted: at 24-02-2011 10:43 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

the wicked runs when no one pursues...

Posted: at 24-02-2011 10:51 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

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