WHY DO COURTS RESOLVE WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER FOR BETTER OR WORSE

Date: 18-04-2012 10:03 pm (10 years ago) | Author: ruth azundah
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- at 18-04-2012 10:03 PM (10 years ago)
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IT'S SHOCKING NOWADAYS THE RATE AT WHICH MARRIED COUPLES GET DIVORCED.
AND MY QUESTIONS ARE:
1.WHAT DOES THOSE SPOKEN VOWS STANDS FOR?
2. IS IT RIGHT FOR THE COURTS TO RESOLVE WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER?
3. THE VOWS THAT WAS MADE BEFORE GOD AND MEN ON THAT FATEFUL DAY, WHY DO COUPLES THINK IS BROKEN AFTER DIVORCE?
4. FOR BETTER OR WORSE, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, FOR RICHER FOR POORER TILL DEATH DO US PATH.....DO COUPLES REALLY UNDERSTAND THAT IS ONLY DEATH  THAT CAN PART A MARRIAGE?
5. IS THE WORSE OMITTED FROM THE VOWS BEFORE CONSIDERING DIVORCE?

WITH THESE AND MANY MORE QUESTIONS TO BE ASKED I WONDER WHAT MARRIAGE (WEDDING PRECISELY) IS ALL ABOUT.

FEEL FREE TO CONTRIBUTE..............

Posted: at 18-04-2012 10:03 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
- uniquesanta at 18-04-2012 10:56 PM (10 years ago)
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that some people re called husband and wife does not mean that God joined them together.. It's better broken than stay in pains all the days of your life
Posted: at 18-04-2012 10:56 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- fextux at 18-04-2012 11:55 PM (10 years ago)
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Bcox man don disobey God too much!!!!

Posted: at 18-04-2012 11:55 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- donspirado88 at 19-04-2012 08:25 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: uniquesanta on 18-04-2012 10:56 PM
that some people re called husband and wife does not mean that God joined them together.. It's better broken than stay in pains all the days of your life
You're completely wrong! To wed with your husband/wife in the church has already nailed it that God has joined both of you together. And becareful bcos after ur vow in the Church "for better, for worst", there's never a going back till death. It's only people like u that divorce xpecially when pain/temptation or suffering arises. If u stay apart for a short while due to some problem, it's quit understandable that to divorce... To divorce your husband/wife is an absurd and unforgivable. I'm not God to judge but it's the biggest SIN of all time. It's all emanated from the western world. Gradually, it's eating up African. Let's be wise and stick to our moral codes. DIVORCE is absolutely immoral and no justification for it. I repeat, No Justification for Divorce.
Posted: at 19-04-2012 08:25 AM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- faithyfancy at 19-04-2012 08:33 AM (10 years ago)
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Everytin don change, nowadays's wedding is not frm God it's frm god.
Posted: at 19-04-2012 08:33 AM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- Treasure2 at 19-04-2012 09:12 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: faithyfancy on 19-04-2012 08:33 AM
Everytin don change, nowadays's wedding is not frm God it's frm god.
Seconded,  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
Posted: at 19-04-2012 09:12 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- Treasure2 at 19-04-2012 09:13 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: uniquesanta on 18-04-2012 10:56 PM
that some people re called husband and wife does not mean that God joined them together.. It's better broken than stay in pains all the days of your life
Thumb up dear.
Posted: at 19-04-2012 09:13 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- Treasure2 at 19-04-2012 09:16 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: donspirado88 on 19-04-2012 08:25 AM
You're completely wrong! To wed with your husband/wife in the church has already nailed it that God has joined both of you together. And becareful bcos after ur vow in the Church "for better, for worst", there's never a going back till death. It's only people like u that divorce xpecially when pain/temptation or suffering arises. If u stay apart for a short while due to some problem, it's quit understandable that to divorce... To divorce your husband/wife is an absurd and unforgivable. I'm not God to judge but it's the biggest SIN of all time. It's all emanated from the western world. Gradually, it's eating up African. Let's be wise and stick to our moral codes. DIVORCE is absolutely immoral and no justification for it. I repeat, No Justification for Divorce.
What you said is right but hmmmm, some marriages don't worth to die any more bc some men/women are beast.
Posted: at 19-04-2012 09:16 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- jossy4reall at 19-04-2012 09:28 AM (10 years ago)
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Let me contact the  court and knw d reason why they do it

Posted: at 19-04-2012 09:28 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- Treasure2 at 19-04-2012 09:33 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: jossy4reall on 19-04-2012 09:28 AM
Let me contact the  court and knw d reason why they do it
Grin Grin Grin Grin, which of the court
Posted: at 19-04-2012 09:33 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- jossy4reall at 19-04-2012 09:54 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: Treasure2 on 19-04-2012 09:33 AM
Grin Grin Grin Grin, which of the court

I go ask d pple wen don divorce make dem tell me d court wia dem do am...but I knw say supreme court no dey among

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- Treasure2 at 19-04-2012 09:58 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: jossy4reall on 19-04-2012 09:54 AM
I go ask d pple wen don divorce make dem tell me d court wia dem do am...but I knw say supreme court no dey among
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin, i no fit laugh biko.  Grin Grin Grin
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- 50scent at 19-04-2012 10:19 AM (10 years ago)
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Since they could not resolve their personal differences, Have u heard the latest
Beyonce's father and Mother got separated after 31years of Marriage  Sad

Posted: at 19-04-2012 10:19 AM (10 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sonarus at 19-04-2012 10:30 AM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: ruthazundah on 18-04-2012 10:03 PM
IT'S SHOCKING NOWADAYS THE RATE AT WHICH MARRIED COUPLES GET DIVORCED.
AND MY QUESTIONS ARE:
1.WHAT DOES THOSE SPOKEN VOWS STANDS FOR?
2. IS IT RIGHT FOR THE COURTS TO RESOLVE WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER?
3. THE VOWS THAT WAS MADE BEFORE GOD AND MEN ON THAT FATEFUL DAY, WHY DO COUPLES THINK IS BROKEN AFTER DIVORCE?
4. FOR BETTER OR WORSE, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, FOR RICHER FOR POORER TILL DEATH DO US PATH.....DO COUPLES REALLY UNDERSTAND THAT IS ONLY DEATH  THAT CAN PART A MARRIAGE?
5. IS THE WORSE OMITTED FROM THE VOWS BEFORE CONSIDERING DIVORCE?

WITH THESE AND MANY MORE QUESTIONS TO BE ASKED I WONDER WHAT MARRIAGE (WEDDING PRECISELY) IS ALL ABOUT.

FEEL FREE TO CONTRIBUTE..............

1. Vows are just vows and nothing more. Look at it like a promise i have made many promises in my life and i have broken some. When i made those promises i didn't know i was going to break them but i broke it anyway because it no longer became convenient for me to keep such a promise. Promises with marriage are very tricky because they involve promises made between two individuals. And as soon as one feels like the other is not holding up his/her end of the bargain it makes it all the more easier and justifiable to end the vow.

2. Well unless God speaks to you in a vision and says "that is the woman/man i want you to marry" then nobody including the partners should try to split up the couple because common sense will tell you not to mess with God's commandment. However the reality is we see someone we like we date them then we marry with little consultation for God. Even when we pray about it, can you say 100% that you are doing it with an open mind? unlikely. When you meet guy or girl after a while you already know if this is the kind of person you want to spend your life with any prayer done after that is more like "please God let this man or woman be good for me" and less like "Is this person the one for me"

3. You don't even need to divorce to break your vows. Love is an emotion that one can't really control if you end up loving someone else or not loving the person you are with anymore is it better to suffer and smile in the relationship? I know ppl will say you should try harder but true love isn't something you should have to TRY for. As soon as love is dead whether divorce or no divorce the vow is broken already so might as well just divorce.

4. well it depends on how you define marriage. If you define marriage as simply a list of commitments then you can make such a claim but it isn't. Marriage is not a business transaction it is not a contract it is merely a commitment that two people enter into willingly. As soon as one person is no longer a willing participant then bone d marriage.

5. Well i believe love can conquer all. The people that are in my life that i love there is probably no state or condition they can be in that will stop me from loving them because that is true love. Anyone abandoning their partner because they are in a worse situation never felt true love to begin with so they shouldn't even have gotten married in the first place. So better late than never end the marriage

Me i am VERY VERY VERY pro divorce and i will debate on the merits of divorce till i die. I see all these babes i know rushing into marriage you see one random guy and 2 days later he is telling you he loves you and then d babe chops then they marry. The reason why divorce rate isn't higher imo is because of the societal stigma divorce still carries especially in naija society. The only way to effectively lower divorce rate is to encourage ppl to choose their partners more carefully but there is no way to mandate that in a free will society.

My advice to you if you are married is to never take your partner for granted and actively work to keep the relationship moving well. If you are not married be very very meticulous as you choose your partner. I believe that when ppl get married they truly intend to only do it once but they just don't fully grasp the implication of committing yourself to this person for the rest of your life. Like me i can't marry someone until we date for at least 2 yrs and thats the minimum because it is only after 2 yrs do ppl show their true colours all the fronting go seize then you can get a true factual glimpse of your partner and decide whether or not you want to stick with them or not
Posted: at 19-04-2012 10:30 AM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- ruthazundah at 20-04-2012 04:42 PM (10 years ago)
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1. Vows are just vows and nothing more. Look at it like a promise i have made many promises in my life and i have broken some. When i made those promises i didn't know i was going to break them but i broke it anyway because it no longer became convenient for me to keep such a promise. Promises with marriage are very tricky because they involve promises made between two individuals. And as soon as one feels like the other is not holding up his/her end of the bargain it makes it all the more easier and justifiable to end the vow..

YOUR NO.1 POINT MARRIAGE VOWS ARE NOT JUST VOWS MADE BETWEEN TWO....BUT VOWS MADE B4 GOD AND MEN IN THE ALTER, N ARE AS SUCH BIDING ....IS MORE LIKE A BLOOD OATH.


YOUR NO.2 POINT....2. Well unless God speaks to you in a vision and says "that is the woman/man i want you to marry" then nobody including the partners should try to split up the couple because common sense will tell you not to mess with God's commandment. However the reality is we see someone we like we date them then we marry with little consultation for God. Even when we pray about it, can you say 100% that you are doing it with an open mind? unlikely. When you meet guy or girl after a while you already know if this is the kind of person you want to spend your life with any prayer done after that is more like "please God let this man or woman be good for me" and less like "Is this person the one for me"

THERE ARE GOD'S WILL 4 OUR LIVES, WEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE MAYB 4 CHRISTAINS AND OUR CHOICES MAKES HIM GIVE US A PERMISSIVE WILL WHICH MAY VE CONSEQUENCES.
MARRIAGE SHOULD B IN ACCORDANCE WITH D WILL OF GOD 4 OUR LIVES....SOME TIMES WE IGNORE GOD'S WILL FOR LIVES N GO AFTER WAT WE WANT.......IN DIS CASE HE PERMITS US.....NOT WAT HE WANTED 4 US, BUT OUR INSISTENCE  ON IT LEAVES HIN WITH  A PERMISSIVE WILL 4 US......WHICH WEN D CONQUENCES COMES U SHOULD BE READY TO BEAR IT....WHICH IS D REASON Y D VOWS WAS MADE B4 HIM ... FOR BETTER OR WORSE..........GOD REALLY REALLY DOSE SPEAKS TO US WEN WE ARE FARVEVT........OUR CHOICES AS HUMAN SOMTYMS DESTROYS US.....


3. You don't even need to divorce to break your vows. Love is an emotion that one can't really control if you end up loving someone else or not loving the person you are with anymore is it better to suffer and smile in the relationship? I know ppl will say you should try harder but true love isn't something you should have to TRY for. As soon as love is dead whether divorce or no divorce the vow is broken already so might as well just divorce.


YOUR NO 3 POINT...LOVE ALONE DOES NOT KIP A RELATIONSHIP..MARRIAGE HAS A LOT OF UPS AND DOWN AND SO ONE NIDS A LOT OF  GOD'S GRACE AND UNDERSTANDING THAT WILL HELP  IN HANDLING DIFFICULT MOMENTS....MARRIED COUPLES DO NOT ALWAYS LOVE EACH ODA.....DAT VOW IS BIDING TILL DEATH............ANY DIVORCEE WHOSE PARTNER IS STILL ALIVE N HE/SHE REMARRIES IS DOIN NOTING BUT ADULTRY......DAT IS Y IT IS D MOST DELICATE DECISION DAT ONE HAS TO BE VERY KIAFUL OF AND ASK 4 GOD'S HELP B4 GOIN INTO IT.....MARRIAGE SHOULD BE BUILT IN THE RIT FOUNDATION.




4. well it depends on how you define marriage. If you define marriage as simply a list of commitments then you can make such a claim but it isn't. Marriage is not a business transaction it is not a contract it is merely a commitment that two people enter into willingly. As soon as one person is no longer a willing participant then bone d marriage.


YOUR NO. 4 POINT....MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION ORDAINED BY GOD HIMSELF.........IT DOES ONLY AFFECT THE PHYSICAL FEATURES BUT D BODY SOUL N MIND OF TWO PPLE WHO IN GOD'S NAME AGREED TO BE ONE.......IS NOT A MATTER OF WILL......U CAN DO DAT IN A RELATIONSHIP ......NT AFTER WEDIN......IN MALACHI 2:14 WE SEE THAT MARRIAGE IS A HOLY COVENANT BEFORE GOD. IN THE JEWISH CUSTOM, GOD'S PEOPLE SIGNED A WRITTEN AGREEMENT AT THE TIME OF THE MARRIAGE TO SEAL THE COVENANT EVEN TILL DATE. THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY, THEREFORE, IS MEANT TO BE A PUBLIC DEMONSTRATION OF A COUPLE'S COMMITMENT TO A COVENANT RELATIONSHIP. IT'S NOT THE "CEREMONY" THAT'S IMPORTANT IN A MARRIAGE, IT'S THE COUPLE'S COVENANT COMMITMENT BEFORE GOD AND MEN. ....IS NOT A WORK OUT AFFAIR


YOUR ODA POINT ARE COVERED FROM THE ABOVE RESPONSE........
Posted: at 20-04-2012 04:42 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- Treasure2 at 20-04-2012 04:44 PM (10 years ago)
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Reading.
Posted: at 20-04-2012 04:44 PM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- ruthazundah at 20-04-2012 04:52 PM (10 years ago)
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ODA POINTS ARE COVERED FROM THE ABOVE .....
Posted: at 20-04-2012 04:52 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- ruthazundah at 20-04-2012 04:58 PM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: uniquesanta on 18-04-2012 10:56 PM
that some people re called husband and wife does not mean that God joined them together.. It's better broken than stay in pains all the days of your life


IMMORALITY AND CIVILIZATION HAS MADE US NOT TO HAVE VALUE OVER THINGS THAT SHOULD BE HIGHLY VALUED........NOT ALL MARRIAGE SHOULD BE TAKEN TO THE  ALTER ESPECIALLY THOSE BUILT ON THE WRONG FOUNDATION..... AND IT IS JOINING TWO  AS ON IN A HOLY MATRIMONY.... 
Posted: at 20-04-2012 04:58 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- Treasure2 at 20-04-2012 05:02 PM (10 years ago)
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The oath should be for better for good living and for worst for divorce no marriage is worth dieing now bc men/women are  Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed
Posted: at 20-04-2012 05:02 PM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- ruthazundah at 20-04-2012 05:03 PM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: faithyfancy on 19-04-2012 08:33 AM
Everytin don change, nowadays's wedding is not frm God it's frm god.

MARRIAGE WAS, IS AND REMAINS A GIFT FROM GOD TO MAN .....IS NT D HAND WORKS OF SOME gods........MOST HUMANS VE A PROBLEM WEN IT COMES TO THIS ISSUE..........GOD MADE EVERYTIN PERFECT.......WE HUMANS R RESPONSIBLE FOR THE IMPERFECTIONS WE FACE TODAY......
Posted: at 20-04-2012 05:03 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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