Am Married & Having a Crush On Another (Page 6)

Date: 24-04-2012 10:12 am (11 years ago) | Author: uduak Sophia Monday
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- osupia at 24-04-2012 05:51 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: Treasure2 on 24-04-2012 05:38 PM
And ready for anything.
hihihiihihihihihihihihhiihihihihihii........................are u very very sureeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee because i want to update now  Grin Grin Grin Grin
Posted: at 24-04-2012 05:51 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Treasure2 at 24-04-2012 05:55 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: osupia on 24-04-2012 05:51 PM
hihihiihihihihihihihihhiihihihihihii........................are u very very sureeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee because i want to update now  Grin Grin Grin Grin
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin.... you no well oooo.
Posted: at 24-04-2012 05:55 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- osupia at 24-04-2012 05:58 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: Treasure2 on 24-04-2012 05:55 PM
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin.... you no well oooo.
na sapele water i want update to system na my troot don dry finish
Posted: at 24-04-2012 05:58 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- orjiwolo at 24-04-2012 06:09 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: OKOHUGENLO on 24-04-2012 11:15 AM
I read through your story with all the care I could and having discovered the  things highlighted about this guy; none of which could ordinarily make you to gravitate towards him, I came to the painful and unequivocal conclusion that the attraction is not ordinary. I am not particularly blaming you because you know that what you are doing is bad but you can not help yourself. The problem you present is a spiritual one that can be so treated. You may have inadvertently opened yourself up to accommodate the evil signals that are beaming on you now because the bible says he that breaks the hedge, the serpent will bite. The serpent is ready to bite you now because you have broken the hedge unless you act fast. A force is pulling you towards this guy so that you can by yourself destroy yourself. This is the principle in the satanic spiritual realm. So, talk to your husband about it and run to God through your pastor for deliverance because you have been entangled. Do this before Satan comes into your home because when it comes, it will not go until it has achieve his three objectives: to kill, still and destroy. And that time it would have been two late because it will take your marriage which is gradually going, it will take your husband and take your children and eventually you. BE WARNED!  

This is the best answer to this question, TELL YOUR HUSBAND!!! as it will surely bring you back to your senses
Posted: at 24-04-2012 06:09 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- chimexplus at 24-04-2012 06:20 PM (11 years ago)
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You are a post graduate ASHAWOO. What else do you want people to say since you don't want people to advise you to stay away. If you have 10 men like him you will still look for the 11th one. Foolish woman.
Posted: at 24-04-2012 06:20 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- chimexplus at 24-04-2012 06:27 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: enemakwu on 24-04-2012 04:54 PM
u make mention of discipline and controlled person.i didn't see such elements in you at all.get away u lovers of money u just meet a guy and u began to luv him.y cant u tell us say u dont luv ur husband instead of beating around the bush.
My brother thats the truth,she never loved her husband and may be she married the husband because of money. Stupid woman.
Posted: at 24-04-2012 06:27 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- bigdad95 at 24-04-2012 06:29 PM (11 years ago)
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you be ashawo,and beside a very big foooooooooooooooooool go ahead furk him buth tell your hausband about it.he will cut off your head later you will say men are bad.
Posted: at 24-04-2012 06:29 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- chimexplus at 24-04-2012 06:40 PM (11 years ago)
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You don't love your husband and I believe you married your husband because of money. Tell us the truth that you don't love your husband and stop telling us this coco nut head story.
Posted: at 24-04-2012 06:40 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- kajola at 24-04-2012 06:51 PM (11 years ago)
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 If you are a head of a family or assuming your sister is in the same dilemma, is this the advice you will give to her. She honestly ask for a sound and mature advice, if you can not give any why don't you just pass by.
Posted: at 24-04-2012 06:51 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- interpo77 at 24-04-2012 06:58 PM (11 years ago)
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well i think evevry thing is in ur hands, if ur can because of being attracted to so called course mate and  dissapoint ur husband,go on but one thing is clear, u re just lust, ve u ever think the guy knows nothing abt ur marriage, or u take him a fool?some guys do act that way mostly muslims, they rarely open their characters to women when they knew they re married,and if u continues am afraid, he might end up using and dumping u cos u re married,
    make ur husband the envy of every other guy,,,,.... if u re my sister , i will give u a dirty slap
Posted: at 24-04-2012 06:58 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- 1daful at 24-04-2012 07:29 PM (11 years ago)
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Your marriage is just 2-3 years and you are speaking all this grammer......Anyway, this is not the devils work but rather ur fault, you had such a feeling and u choose to nurture it to grow to this point.. All i have to say to u is think abt the shame, guilt if u have conscience, disgrace, betrayer and distrust if u sleep with him and trust me u wuldn't want that to happen to ur marriage... According to you. "Your husband and ur admirer has the same quality" then what on earth are u looking for in him if not lack of self control.

Posted: at 24-04-2012 07:29 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- mediaexcell at 24-04-2012 10:46 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 24-04-2012 10:12 AM
I'm a female, 28 years old. My Husband is a little older than me, 32, and we are married for 3-4 years now;dated for 2 years before that. I don't really have any major complaints with my husband, just the usual marital ups-downs. I started Post graduate school in 2011 and most of my classes involve group work. We are usually assigned to groups by professors and some professors allow us to choose our group members. So I happened to know this guy. There were no feelings in the first semester and we were all getting to know each other. Now, since the beginning of this semester, Jan 2012, I've realized that I'm a little attracted to this guy.

This guy is actually younger to me(27 years old), of a different ethnicity, of a different religion and yet I feel a strong connection. He seems to have a lot of principles, my husband does too, but I've not met too many men with principles. He does not behave his age, he actually acts older like may be a 30 year old or something. I'm so attracted that I've actually started dressing - up for my classes, which I never did in my first semester. I look forward to seeing him, to talking to him and just being with him. We usually only discuss classes/study. He knows i'm married and we both never hang out or something(this is because of lack of time and if he would invite me to hang out, i might end up going!!). I feel so sad to say this but I'm even segxwally attracted to him to a small extent. This guy is not the drop-dead good looking guy, his looks are not even average. I shoudn't say this but I want to mention it to let you all know that my attraction is not just physical. We had a  break 2 weeks ago and not seeing him for 2 weeks is killing me.

I am a very self controlled and disciplined person myself and I'm feeling so silly and small to know that I have this issue. I've never ever found any guy more attractive than my husband.I will be gradauting in december and that thought is scarying me because i won't be able to see this guy. I feel I'm acting like a teenager

What's going on here with me? I don't even want advice like " stay away" etc because I know that's what I should be doing anyway. I am aware that this is totally wrong and immoral of me. I feel guilty but the excitement is also addictive. May be there are issues in my marriage that need to be fixed, but I seriosuly don't even think about my marriage these days. All on my mind is : my classes, exams, this guy, dressing - up, talking to him and being together.

P.S.: I feel so bad admitting to this. .. I need ur advices..

Matured comments please
did u copy it? cos the sophi i know would summarised this in 4 sentences  Shocked Shocked Shocked
Posted: at 24-04-2012 10:46 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- mediaexcell at 24-04-2012 10:59 PM (11 years ago)
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OK ignore all negative comments like u don't love your husband and blah blah, that's not the case, this feeling you are having is a normal feeling. we all encounter in our day to day living. the reason is: the bloke in question is a "reserved", responsible bloke, and naturally a lady would be attracted to such dude, the fact that you have not done anything with him yet is the first step and the way out. its all come down to discipline, self control  etc. trust me theres nothing strange about it except that u did not sumarise it in few sentences.
Posted: at 24-04-2012 10:59 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ajanni at 24-04-2012 11:12 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: Treasure2 on 24-04-2012 04:00 PM
If only the true of the real story can be posted, people will advise very well but bc the stories here is makeup.
Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
Posted: at 24-04-2012 11:12 PM (11 years ago) | Grande Master
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- ILOVEIT at 24-04-2012 11:41 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: kajola on 24-04-2012 05:23 PM
Having gone thru most of the replies to this post, it is expedient that, i added my views to this topic. I will say, it is purely matter of the heart. Such matters can be torturing and makes one very stupid. There are qualities noticed in a person, that can be dangerously attracting, but may not be sustainable, when given the advantages of intimacy. It goes further that, failure to appreciate a jewel at hand often led to throwing it away cheaply, regretting later, to no avail. So, those type of attractions are just mere shadow of the real thing,a mirage. Please, deal with your mindset, think deep and compare the qualities of your present realities, to what you stand to gain if, you allow mere infatuation, to stand you on the head as against your leg. You are an adult, sort out good advice from many that have been offered on this medium and apply it to your problems. I will not advice you to discuss it with your husband because, such will cast doubts on his mind about you. Men are incurably jealous. Once a perception is allowed, a seed of gradual disintegration  had be sown and the end results; always unpleasant. So, deal with yourself psychologically and if you win this battle, then it means, you had perfected the act of life's champions. Wish you all the best.

Quote from: sophiebaby on 24-04-2012 10:36 AM
Cry Cry Cry Cry Cry

aww oya take this tissue clean your tears..well there is no other thing i could say,coz my advice gonna somehow relate to "stay away from him"..actually i don't understand why some people love deceiving themselves?..she claimed to be self controlled and disciplined  person,while she's very far from it....another point is that if someone really need advice,there shouldn't be any condition attached to it... coz if u think u really understand d condition of your problems.then there is no need demanding for an advice...having said that, the above comment from kajola is d best advice u can send to ur anonymous friend...good luck to her.

Posted: at 24-04-2012 11:41 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- johehizogie at 25-04-2012 02:43 AM (11 years ago)
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Enjoy the guy na..so you don't have to regret later..hahah
Posted: at 25-04-2012 02:43 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ozobig at 25-04-2012 03:18 AM (11 years ago)
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TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH NA ASHAWOO DEY WORRY YOU ABI UR  HUS NO SABI phyuk ? IF YES TAKE HIM TO TEACHERS LIKE AJANI  Grin

Posted: at 25-04-2012 03:18 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- toibeli at 25-04-2012 04:00 AM (11 years ago)
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Having some feelings for someone while married is not the problem, but acting on
 your feelings is the actual problem.
Posted: at 25-04-2012 04:00 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- malvin2525 at 25-04-2012 05:42 AM (11 years ago)
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pls when is the part two coming out i cant afford to miss it
Posted: at 25-04-2012 05:42 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Begood2012 at 25-04-2012 06:40 AM (11 years ago)
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u never ready for marriage that's all.
Posted: at 25-04-2012 06:40 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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