Should I give my baby up for adoption?

Date: 18-06-2012 2:59 pm (11 years ago) | Author: Olufowose Temitope
- at 18-06-2012 02:59 PM (11 years ago)
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    My parents are Nigerians, so  I am a Nigerian by nationality. However, I was born and grew up in the United States. I am presently in Australia though, because I school here. I have a very big problem and I need advice, but I will try to make is as short as possible. I have a boyfriend and we have been together since my high school. I am a christian and I don't believe in premarital sex. Also my parents are pastors. I had kept to this rule for the 20 years of my life. Unfortunately, sometime earlier this year, some unforeseen things happened and my boyfriend and I slept together.

My parents always use me as an example to our family friends and they always talk about how they are so proud of the fact that I am keeping myself for marriage. Anyways, the unfortunate thing wasn't just that we had sex, but I also got pregnant. Abortion is not an option for me because I am strongly against it, but my friend here has a suggestion for me. She says I should keep the baby, give birth to it and take it to an orphanage home here in Australia before I go back home. This sounds like a perfect plan because I don't plan on going home anytime soon. So by the time I go home, nobody will know what happened. Do you think I should do what she advises and go back home pretending like nothing happened? Or should I tell my parents and carry the baby back home? Facing the embarrassment, ridicule and scorn from family friends, church members and people who look up to my parents?

On the other hand, my boyfriend thinks I should keep the baby but that whatever happens, I shouldn't say he is responsible. Please advise me because I am seriously considering dropping the baby in the orphanage.
Thank you so much. Please publish this, I really want to have the opinion of a lot of people .

Posted: at 18-06-2012 02:59 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
- Mindcare at 18-06-2012 04:13 PM (11 years ago)
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I'm giving my suggestion concerning the story; DON'T EVER try to give your baby to orphanage hence your man wants the baby. Again, in order to take away shame from your family; you can plan for wedding with your boyfriend before delivering the baby and it doesn't matter whether your parents are pastors because pastors of nowadays are not like pastors in the old time religion. If you drop that baby to the orphanage, you'll be having a reproach of mind all the time and you'll regret it at last and it might too late that time. Because i believe, there MUST be true confession NOW or LATER.
Posted: at 18-06-2012 04:13 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- babytejiri at 10-08-2012 11:09 PM (11 years ago)
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I came across this good topic on the point.
http://www.nigerianewstoday.com.ng/families-obstacle-adoption-nigeria/
Posted: at 10-08-2012 11:09 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- dlimelite at 11-08-2012 12:10 AM (11 years ago)
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Correction: Your Nigerian by "Ethnicity" family background. American is your "Nationality" which refers to where you were born
Posted: at 11-08-2012 12:10 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- dlimelite at 11-08-2012 12:18 AM (11 years ago)
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You should keep the baby. An innocent child shouldn't be dumped in an orphanage becuz of the foolishness and regrets you and your bf are facing. You should just face your parents. Life will eventually go on. Even if you send it to adoption Most mothers who give their child away to adoption later want their child back desperately. Good luck
Posted: at 11-08-2012 12:18 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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