I have a boyfriend and we are already talking about marriage,infact, we are started talking marriage a year after we met. The problem i have with him is the constant appearance of his ex-girlfriend in our relationship. He keeps telling me they are just good friends and nothing more,yet anytime we meet each other, she feels like killing me, i see it in her eyes and reactions. Am worried bcos my boyfriend may still be sleeping with her, he has sworn several times that he doesn't sleep with her,but yet she keeps coming to him. Is it possible that he is not actually sleeping with her?
Posted: at 12-07-2007 01:54 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
twisted perhaps. If you've reach marriage stage with a guy, i believe you must have know the person intimately enough to trust his words...if ure in doubt, u'd better recollect yourself and think it over....if everything is worth it...
please do not distract and keep discussions along line of topic - make proper use of capit
Posted: at 12-07-2007 02:23 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
In a relationship, the basic ingredient needed to make it last a life time is TRUST, if there is no trust forget it and if your convictions are strong that there is still a relationship between your guy and his ex then you better decide, it is not a do or die affair as such dont kill yourself before you are even married to the guy. Personnally, i see no reason why an ex girlfreind will linger on a relationship that would not lead her anywhere. THINK and decide soon.
Posted: at 12-07-2007 08:47 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
One more thing, i think its ok if the guy gets around with ladies ( i mean no harm ), but if it gets to his ex. its better u tell him anything that bites you. If u see changes, then u know hes real, if not....then....??
please do not distract and keep discussions along line of topic - make proper use of capit
Posted: at 12-07-2007 11:56 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
olapeter at 15-07-2007 04:34 PM (16 years ago) (m)
TRUST is d name if u really want 2 marry him.......but also let him know that u dont like his EX and u dont like to see her around ............. if he really wants u.. he should stop seeing her....there can be temptations u know wit all EX. Tak kia.
Posted: at 15-07-2007 04:34 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
teejay02 at 22-07-2007 08:52 PM (16 years ago) (m)
you av to be very careful, i av the impression that guy is lying let him know that he can't eat his cake and av it you should know your stand now b4 it is too late.
Posted: at 22-07-2007 08:52 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
i totally agree wit beautious......he might not be sleeping wit her now but believe me he will, cause he can clearly see that it bothers you and she doesnt like you...so why is he hanging onto her so dearly? girl those are clear warning signs
Posted: at 23-07-2007 02:40 AM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
It's quite simple. Explain to your guy how you feel about the whole situation. If he really loves you and want you to be his future wife, he would stop all those nonsense and face you alone. Being around his Ex will surely bring temptation, so don't sleep with your eyes close. It's either he let his past go or he shouldn't be in a serious relationship like this.
MY DEAR LADIES HAVE INTUITION ONCE YOU'VE STARTED FEELING SOMEHOW RUN! VERY SIMPLE
WHAT KIND OF GUY HANGS AROUND HIS EX ANYWAY IF NOT THE UNSERIOUS TYPE.
THIS IS NOT ABOUT JEALOUSY OK.
I KNOW OF THREE SIMILAR EXPERIENCES IN WHICH THE GUYS BCLAIM THAT NOTHING WAS BETWEEN THEM AND THEIR EX BUT ONE POOR SOUL LOST HER HUSBAND (YEA THEY MARRIED) TO AN EX AFTER 3 MONTHS OF MARRIAGE. THIS IS NOT STORY ITS A FACT.
DONT WAIT TILL HE BECOMES YOUR OLOWO ORI (OWNER OF YOUR HAED) BEFORE YOU STATR SEEING THE TRUTH ABOUT HIM.
IN RELATIONSHIPS TRUST IS VERY IMPORTANT SO IF THERE IS ANYTHING IN THE PATH OF THAT TRUST THEN I DOUBT IF ANYTHING CAN COME OUT OF IT.
TAKE YOUR TIME DONT RUSH MARRIAGE NA LIFE TIME COMMITMENT SO PRAY ABOUT IT YOU DO WANNA MAKE A MISTAKE.
GOD WILL HELP US ALL. TAKE KIA DEAR.
GOD BLESS
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NOTHING IS GOTTEN EXCEPT ITS GIVEN FROM ABOVE
Posted: at 27-07-2007 08:41 AM (16 years ago) | Upcoming
well i think you all should get together and talk to each other. your boyfriend should let his ex know that he is planing on marrying you. and he should tell her that wile you are there. and you really need to trust him. because if you don't he will cheat on you. if you always acuse him he will give you the reason too. I hope it all works out for you. God bless you.
Posted: at 31-07-2007 10:54 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie
myt dear let me tell u somtin,if love ur guy go ahead and make him wat u want but dont 4get TRUST cos that is the ultimate in relationship. I WISH THE BEST BUT DONT 4GET TO SEND MY IVooooooooo.
Posted: at 5-08-2007 02:12 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
your name is rare gem and you shouldnt be selling yourself short or settling for anything less than what you deserve. your name is so correct. You are precious but you may not realise it. You've been with him for a reasonable amount of time and so i understand yoour being cautious in any drastic decisions. It's no-one place to decide if he is sleeping with her based on the little amount of evidence you have, even if your suspicions are strong. But i will echo many others when i say TRUST is the key to a successful relationship. CALLING ALL LADIES: if it ever gets to the point that you begin checking your mans fone messages, texts, pockets or begin suspecting him deeply STOP YOURSELF and decide whether or not its worth it. If you cant trust your man completely, you dont need to prove he's cheating because the relationship is ALREADY OVER!!! i understand where your coming from and may God's grace be with you in what ever decision you make. xxx
Posted: at 30-10-2007 10:33 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
I have a boyfriend and we are already talking about marriage,infact, we are started talking marriage a year after we met. The problem i have with him is the constant appearance of his ex-girlfriend in our relationship. He keeps telling me they are just good friends and nothing more,yet anytime we meet each other, she feels like killing me, i see it in her eyes and reactions. Am worried bcos my boyfriend may still be sleeping with her, he has sworn several times that he doesn't sleep with her,but yet she keeps coming to him. Is it possible that he is not actually sleeping with her?
just let him know how uncomfortable seeing her around him TOO OFTEN makes you feel. an open channel of communication is the best way to resolve most relationship issues
Posted: at 10-04-2008 11:08 PM (16 years ago) | Upcoming
myragonza at 11-04-2008 09:45 AM (16 years ago) (f)
Quote from: RareGem on 12-07-2007 01:54 PM
I have a boyfriend and we are already talking about marriage,infact, we are started talking marriage a year after we met. The problem i have with him is the constant appearance of his ex-girlfriend in our relationship. He keeps telling me they are just good friends and nothing more,yet anytime we meet each other, she feels like killing me, i see it in her eyes and reactions. Am worried bcos my boyfriend may still be sleeping with her, he has sworn several times that he doesn't sleep with her,but yet she keeps coming to him. Is it possible that he is not actually sleeping with her?
Trust is a very important aspect in a relationship...that i must tell u.....its not exactly a hazard for ur boyfriend to be still in touch with his ex but constant appearances by her is bad.....u need to tell ur guy that u trust him but its just that u don't trust his ex....and tell him that u don't feel comfortable with his ex and u just don't like the feeling...u and ur boyfriend needs to compromise that he should stop communicating and contacting his ex so that u and him can work things out between both of u...
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twisted perhaps. If you've reach marriage stage with a guy, i believe you must have know the person intimately enough to trust his words...if ure in doubt, u'd better recollect yourself and think it over....if everything is worth it... 
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