Why are we having increasing rate of Marital failures? This is a tropical question that usually bothers people mind and thinking today and it even makes people to shy away from marriage and the responsibilities associated with marriage .This is largely because of the increasing divorce rates , separation , trouble relationship , break up that we are all experiencing in our modern society today.
More than 50% of marriages in the United States end up in break up, separation and divorce today after 5-10 years of marriage and up to one million children in the US every year suffer the psychological and emotional trauma of breakup and broken relationship. The rate of failure in marriage is always seriously affecting here in Nigeria and Africa as a whole This statistics makes mostly young people growing up to dare marriage thinking whether it will work for them since it did not work for their parents. I just want to let you know that not withstanding the available statistics and experience that we have in our society today, you can still build up strong lasting relationship and marriage only if you are willing to give it the commitment, trust and faith that going into a marriage relationship demands of you with all your heart and faith belief that your marriage will certainly work e d for you and your spouse to be. The reason why you are scare about marriage today is because of the ugly experiences that marriage has presented to us in our present generation and most of the ugly experiences today , we see it right from our homes with our parents and you have been thinking whether you should get married because you do not want to end up with a relationship filled with great pain, worry and disappointment that could make you to become an emotional rake even though like the idea of marriage and the marriage institution comes with respect and regards for people that are in it .You also want to have someone that could love share your love with , spare time together to build a home and a family and the current challenges ,experiences is making you to be scar. You can certainly over all that and be able to build a great relationship that stand the test of time. The Bible says that if you are willing and obedience, you will eat the good of the land , so one of the good of the land that God has destine for us is the marriage institution that he created right from the beginning of the world from the time of Adam and Eve, He knew that it is not good to be able alone hence , he gave Eve to Adam. God is the creator of marriage and he will certainly help you to build a long lasting relationship and marriage if you are willing to follow the right principles and steps to building great relationship notwithstanding the ugly situation that we might have seen today in our family and society at large.
More than 50% of marriages in the United States end up in break up, separation and divorce today after 5-10 years of marriage and up to one million children in the US every year suffer the psychological and emotional trauma of breakup and broken relationship.
What is the percentage in Nigeria?
Posted: at 16-08-2012 01:45 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 16-08-2012 03:19 PM (11 years ago) (f)
Poster --- to me --- i've come to understand that 1. Marriage requires compatibility not just at the point of saying ‘I do,’ but across the entire life span. 2. Many couples do not know how to fight fairly 3. A ring or a marriage certificate doesn’t improve an individual’s insecurities 4. People settle for less than what they want. 5. Couples believe that hard work isn’t part of the deal. They think that love, sex, children or some combination thereof will be enough. 6. There is far too much emphasis on ‘weddings’ as opposed to ‘marriages 7. The reality is it’s unethical to try to force a square peg into a round hole. If people are miserable together, the shrink’s position is to help them seperate and live happier lives apart.
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 16-08-2012 03:19 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
black_samurai at 17-08-2012 12:05 AM (11 years ago) (m)
1. Church 2. Greed 3. Nollywood 4. Uhmmm crossing religion with social ethics and culture. 5. Abuse of communication means..smartphone..social sites....
Speach is silver, silence is Gold!
Posted: at 17-08-2012 12:05 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Poster --- to me --- i've come to understand that 1. Marriage requires compatibility not just at the point of saying ‘I do,’ but across the entire life span. 2. Many couples do not know how to fight fairly 3. A ring or a marriage certificate doesn’t improve an individual’s insecurities 4. People settle for less than what they want. 5. Couples believe that hard work isn’t part of the deal. They think that love, sex, children or some combination thereof will be enough. 6. There is far too much emphasis on ‘weddings’ as opposed to ‘marriages 7. The reality is it’s unethical to try to force a square peg into a round hole. If people are miserable together, the shrink’s position is to help them seperate and live happier lives apart.
As always Sophie, you hit the nail right at the top.
Posted: at 17-08-2012 12:33 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
marriage is 4 batter 4 worse but today people have change it to the betterment of their own interest and selfishness not minding how it will aft their kids is 2 bad
Posted: at 17-08-2012 12:59 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
adorablemi at 17-08-2012 01:41 AM (11 years ago) (m)
While agreeing with most of the things @sophiebaby posted, I want to say that over the years,in the pursuit of "good life" and material acquisition, the human tolerance level has grossly reduced.And the greatest virtues that one needs in marital journey is patience, persevarance and longsuffering. If you like you can have every other thing but if you are lacking in these three, you'll find things very difficult in marriage.But really, these are all signs of the time. It will take only the wise and the graceful to sustain marital life to the very end, in our present world situation- pls read 2Timothy 3 verse 1-8.
Posted: at 17-08-2012 01:41 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
Wysetots at 17-08-2012 06:32 AM (11 years ago) (m)
Our society seeks the easiest way out. Fast way to make money and fast way to solve problems.
I some other contributing factors are: 1. Marrying for wrong reasons (security,sex etc) 2. Mental immaturity. 3. Stickability.
Our generation is "Microwave-ish". We want fast everything. Fast money, fast cars....fast food. We often forget that the successful things often go through series of test before holding together.
May God help us make better choices and give us grace to leave better examples for the next generation.
Posted: at 17-08-2012 06:32 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
1. Church how ? 2. Greed 3. Nollywood 4. Uhmmm crossing religion with social ethics and culture. 5. Abuse of communication means..smartphone..social sites....
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Posted: at 17-08-2012 07:14 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
Solidstonez at 17-08-2012 07:50 AM (11 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Wysetots on 17-08-2012 06:32 AM
Our society seeks the easiest way out. Fast way to make money and fast way to solve problems.
I some other contributing factors are: 1. Marrying for wrong reasons (security,sex etc) 2. Mental immaturity. 3. Stickability.
Our generation is "Microwave-ish". We want fast everything. Fast money, fast cars....fast food. We often forget that the successful things often go through series of test before holding together.
May God help us make better choices and give us grace to leave better examples for the next generation.
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Posted: at 17-08-2012 07:50 AM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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