I'm dying here! Dis post is not for little minded children who throw tantrums... If U r stil a 'boy or girl' with panties, dnt say anythn; I need matured minds who knows dat sex n relationships r not jst exercise 2b carried out, but serious business to comment... I'm 32 n married wit 4 boys(got pregnant in Sec. Sch at 17).I attended one of d best Secondary Schools n everyone in my family had high hopes on me. So when I got pregnant, it was a devastating blow to my parents n my siblings. Dis made my hubby swore dat he was going 2send me 2school. My hubby loves me very much n shows me off every where. Tho' he is way older than me by 15yrs but I still love him. He made sure I went back to school bcos he knows I'm very intelligent...even when his friends advised him not to. Tho' he feared for me, bcos I dnt look like I have even one child how much more four, but he kept telling me that I shd not allow myself to be deceived by anyone(never made love with any1 else b4). I have never fancied any man in my life bcos my hubby told me that they r liars n would do anythn to have sex with me n then turn around to discuss it with their friends...so I steered clear, but men didn't! Each time any man approached me, I told my hubby abt it, even from among his friends! But somthing happened! I went for training somwhere n one of d facilitators fell for me, n I did 2! He was gud looking n 3yrs older dan me, n married too. Bcos I felt somthing for dis guy I couldn't tell my hubby abt him. We pinged each oda every time. We eventually met kissed n stuff but NO SEX! D pings increased. I was liking dis guy more n @d same time being plagued by a feeling of guilt. So I had to tell my hubby what I did. He was mad! He couldn't bliv his ears, he beat me. He asked me what I lacked n I told him I couldn't understand it at all n I couldn't stop what I felt as d whole thing was new n d feeling was intense. I couldn't understand d psychology myself bcos I am not one 2b wooed easily, I have ego n lots of it I mean! I tot my hubby was going 2hate me but ironically surprisingly, he's turned out more loving...he now kisses me anytime n everywhere, makes love to me everyday. He takes me out every time. I can't understand it! But my fear now is, each time I wake up @night I find him staring in2 space n not sleeping. I'm really really afraid. I don't want him sick. I told him d truth bcos I wanted a free conscience to live with d man who loves me with everything in him. I don't know what pushed me in d first place, mayb naivety, adventure, experiment, I don't know! But I'm truly n deeply sorry! I would never do dat again! Pls people, if there's anythn I can do to help my hubby, tell me! I want him alive n well. Tell me now, did I do d right thing by telling him, or mayb I should have just kept quiet since there was no sex btw d guy n me?! Again, my hubby wants me to show him d guy so he would set him up n have him thrown out of his job. But I don't want that, I feel for him n I don't want him to loose his job. It was an attraction we both couldn't control; but its over now. Friends, do U think he should b arrested n thrown out of his job? Isn't that evil? Don't 4get he didn't force me n there was no sex. I have learnt my lesson! No man out there is better than the one you already have... SexLife pls post dis immediately as I'm with my fone waiting for advice not insults! No 'boy' or man should insult me bcos I'm a good person I only made a mistake which I can't explain why...n as for d girls n ladies I know U won't insult me bcos there's this general knowledge that one woman's problem is every other woman's problem... I'm waiting for ur advice. N don't 4get, I'm repentant!!!
Posted: at 27-09-2012 05:23 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
well madam the mistake has been made, so since u luv ur husband somuch just be bold to ask him what is bodering him, promise him u integrity, ur sincererity, and ur luv for him dat moment have sex with with tears to tell him how gulty u are about the whole. Thanks from ik mbadima ABUJA.
Posted: at 27-09-2012 05:54 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
well madam the mistake has been made, so since u luv ur husband somuch just be bold to ask him what is bodering him, promise him u integrity, ur sincererity, and ur luv for him dat moment have sex with with tears to tell him how gulty u are about the whole. Thanks from ik mbadima ABUJA.
Posted: at 27-09-2012 05:57 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
Well Madam I salute your courage because your kind are few.Most women in your shoes would rather keep sealed lips and go to the grave with the guilt if at all there is any such feeling.Your hubby's reaction was not unexpected because he was hurt and may have felt betrayed also.You talked about the love being showered on you by your hubby but haven't said a thing on how you have reciprocated his love.Having sex with him everyday is not in anyway a show of love.You have to show this man that you truly care and want to be with him for the rest of your life.He needs re-assurance,convinced that he is your only man;he wants to sure that you are content with him and that he is all you desire for a man.You need to win his trust all over again.
For the sake of God,please don't make the mistake of showing the other man to him.That would be bad news as the multiplier effect might be too complicated to resolve.Let it die just the way it started and ended.Finally,just be prayerful;ask God to take control of your home and situation because as human,there is limitation to what we can do whether we believe it or not.Whatever burden it is,God is abundantly able to take it off our shoulders.It was a good thing you told your hubby when you did and the pains you go through now is part of the healing process.The truth hurts but it is the only thing that is capable of setting us free.I admire your gut.God will see you through,just be strong. O. Eze,Abuja.
Posted: at 27-09-2012 06:04 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Nicebloke at 27-09-2012 06:05 PM (11 years ago) (m)
exhales!!!...im deeply sorry 4 wat happened 2 u. u didnt do bad by telling ur hubby. i feel u are very sincere by doing dat. it takes a great sense of maturity 2 unleash such stuff 2 ur hubby. i want 2 sincerely commend u 4 dat. the deed has been done, we shuld be luking 4 the way 4ward 2 solve this problm. wat u need do is 2 show more sincere luv 2 ur hubby. mk him knw that u have changed.mk him restore the trust he had on u b4. show him luv, care nd respect. with this i knw he will stop luking @ the space @ night. gud luck dear!
Posted: at 27-09-2012 06:05 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
u re n't a bad woman u re a good person wit sense of humor, d problem ur h/b hv now is lack of trust, 2 restore bck his trust start 4rm staying @ home 24hrs 4 a few months, buy him a gift and letting him knw ur were abt 24/7.
Posted: at 27-09-2012 07:51 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
omomarty at 27-09-2012 08:19 PM (11 years ago) (f)
madam i really loved what you did that is to show you are very good woman that loves her husband. well my personal advice to you is to be more closer to him and try very hard to make him trust you again and i'm sure that he will trust again afterall not all women will say those words to their husband and also invite God to this situation i beleive everything will be all right. God bless you
Posted: at 27-09-2012 08:19 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Sorry 4 dat u hv a gud hat pls dnt let it disturb u jst try nd make hm understand dat all dat hapen is a mistake nd it wl never repit it self again also try nd know wats bodering hm nd make to regain d trust nd confidence he has on u above u kip praying nd b closet to GOD He wl take control of evrytin.[color=][/color]
Posted: at 27-09-2012 08:26 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
kool mistake have been made but it is going to be hard for him to regain that trust he once had for you,..but there was nothing like sex sha...your hubby should try and regain himself back and you two should live in peace... lemme him know about what you have posted here...about telling him how you felt and how you would not want him to fall sick.....do something for him to trust you again.
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 27-09-2012 08:34 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
tesqueen at 28-09-2012 02:55 PM (11 years ago) (f)
My dear Ȋ̝̊̅ am a woman and Ȋ̝̊̅ kw wat u r talking abt wanting to try someone else other dan wat u 've had for yrs hmmmm no need ur husband is more dan who ever he has been everything stick to him he is more dan a million man. And for u,u r a very honest woman restore ur trust with ur man love him like never b4 and am sure he will 4give n 4get.and as for u telling or showing him d man pls don't tell him is past dat he should 4get abt d man wish u all d best
Posted: at 28-09-2012 02:55 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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