1. Get off the pity train. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Let go of the self-defeating thoughts holding you back. How fun is it to hang out with someone who only puts themselves down? If men aren't interested in you, it probably isn't because you aren't a supermodel, it is probably because they can see how you feel about yourself. Think about how people are drawn to someone with confidence. A person with confidence seems to love life. They don't complain about themselves. It is a much more pleasant experience! If you don't feel confident, fake it until you do. You will probably see a difference in how people interact with you.
2. Never cry about a guy. I mean it. Never cry about a boy! they ain't always worth it. Sure, there are some jerks out there. Don't give them your power by allowing yourself to feel bad. My advice? Get mad. Start standing up for yourself. Don't allow yourself to be treated badly. I believe that we train people how to treat us. If you can work on your assertiveness and confidence, you will find a relationship with someone who respects you. Until then, it will just be the same guy with a different name. Did i just say "Get Mad"?....Yes but getting mad shouldn't lead you to the gun, knife or acid please...lol
3. Keep an air of mystery. This is a big one. Every Lady has a baggage. Over the course of a relationship, your significant other will learn more about you. Until that point, don't over share. This is a common mistake women make. Especially when they feel insecure, they tell people way too much about themselves. Because you share so much about your thoughts and emotions with each other, you tend to do this too much with men in the beginning. I am all for being open and honest in a relationship, but give the relationship a chance to progress before you open up too much. This especially applies to telling a man how you feel about him. If you have been dating for two weeks and think he might be the one, for the love, don't tell him. Although, if after two weeks you do start fantasizing about marriage and children, we need to talk. Slow yourself down and find a distraction. There is no way you know enough about him that quickly to make a lifelong commitment. If that is where your mind is, you are missing some key data.
4. Only put in a 30% effort. This sounds harsh, but it is true. Many guys/babes are definitely going to hate me on this one, but I think "I still remain a WOMAN, hear me roar". Think about it in mathematical terms, if you put in 100% effort, how much is left for him to give? Honestly, when it comes to dating, less is more. The less effort you put in, the more he has to come forward. This becomes diagnostic of how invested he is in you. If he doesn't come forward, run, do not walk. If he is putting so little effort into your dating relationship, what will happen once he gets comfortable?
5. Make him come to you. This is especially true for the first few dates. If you go to his house on the first date instead of him coming to pick you up, I have two words for you: booty call. If he isn't willing to invest the energy to at least come pick you up and have something planned for the evening, just say no. If he asks you to come to him and has no game plan, he is just looking to hook up. A man who genuinely wants to spend time getting to know you will put in the effort. If you are struggling with this concept, go back to rule four. Now, I have some single friends who live at home and don't want a date to pick them up and "meet the parents". I can understand this, but going back to rule one, own it. Your life circumstances are nothing to be ashamed of. If you have had to move back in with mom and dad for financial reasons or after a break-up, so be it, but don't let that drain your confidence. If it bothers you because your parents are embarrassing, meet somewhere, but never pick him up.
6. Never see him with less than a seven days notice. Ok, this doesn't have to be hard and fast, but the point is that you should not accept a date on Wednesday or Thursday for that weekend. You are a busy woman. He needs to plan ahead if he wants your time. Men seem to be excited by the thrill of the chase. they want a woman who is a bit of a challenge. they as men, of course, won't readily admit to this. Just like with children who will tell you they don't want rules, but they function much better and are happier with them. A woman who has nothing going on and is always at the beck and call of a man is not desirable for a relationship. She is desirable for hooking up. So let me ask you, do you want to be an afterthought or do you want to be respected? Men want to be with a woman who has a life of her own, not someone who is just waiting around on them. This extends into a long-term relationship as well. You need to have interests outside of him. If you don't, I can guarantee you that at some point, you will be miserable.
7. Never Turn Your Mobile Phone to A Pay Phone: Don't be clingy. I can't emphasize this enough. Men will easily get turned off by a woman who calls or texts too much. It is overwhelming and can end a relationship before it starts. Again, like in rule six, you are a busy woman. You have so many people and activities competing for your time and attention, you don't have time to call him. Let him call you at least for the first couple of months,that doesn't stop you from calling him too though but there should be limitation. Again, this becomes diagnostic of how much energy he wants to invest. After your relationship is more established, call him but still limit how much you do call. He is not a girlfriend with whom you should spend hours on the phone. If he has hours to spend on the phone, he can use the effort to see you.
8. Never return a call or text immediately. Remember, you are busy, busy, busy. Don't sit by the phone waiting for a call or text. If this is anxiety provoking, find some other way to spend your time. You can bet he isn't sitting by the phone waiting for you to call. Meanwhile, your life is passing you by. Get out there and live it. Don't return a call or text immediately except its urgent!
9. Do not get physical. Hopefully, by this point, this goes without saying. For the first couple of months, you should limit your physical intimacy. As a lady, you get far too emotionally attached when sex is involved in a relationship, but they as men don't view this the same way. When you are intimate too soon in the relationship, you are investing too much too soon. He will not respect you if you give it up too soon except in some rare cases though or better still a Nigerian factor where sex is a priority, lol.
10. Let go of the outcome. Let's face it, all relationships end at some point. Some relationships are very short-lived because they are not meant to be. This is no indication of your worth as a person. So many women are devastated when a first date does not become a relationship. They think it is because they are not pretty enough, smart enough, successful enough or fun enough. They don't even stop to consider whether or not they even like the guy.
P.S -- MEN = Date like a man. Show up, have fun and if it works out, great, if not, on to the next one.
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