I have been married for a little over a year now. In the earlier years of our relationship, it seemed as though we shared similar values (still does sometimes) but must importantly, even though I loved him desperately, I knew he loved me even more.
Barely a couple of months into our marriage, I fell pregnant. Though it was a fairly easy pregnancy compared to most other horrible experiences I've come across, I was left with zero sex drive. I'd always be quite fit and beautiful but the pregnancy made me feel permanently ill and unattractive and this affected my desire for sex. Despite this, I kept at it knowing fully well that there was another person with needs and desires to be met. Sex stopped being as frequent as before - but it was there.
Between then and now, my husband has become a serial cheat. Keeping late nights everyday with all sorts of women calling even when he finally gets home by 2am.
He is being mentally and emotionally abusive (never physically because he is too manipulative for that) . The worst part of it is that as a woman you know when your husband is cheating. I see the proofs - phone conversations, captured unclad screen shots of other women etc... And he keeps trying to make me feel like I'm crazy and paranoid. It has gotten to the stage where I feel so rubbed and cheated. I cringe when he touches me now and try to force a reaction when we are having sex. I simply can't shake the feeling of hurt and betrayal. And I now feel as though I'm being held prisoner because in my heart I know I deserve better.
I've got 2 degrees from some of the best universities in the world. I have a job that most people could only dream of. I earn at least 3 times more than what he earns. And in the few months after the birth of my baby, I have returned to a size 6. Yet I still try to be the wife our mothers teach us to be. I know better hence I feel deeply cheated. Try as I may, this feeling has taken over my mind to the point where even the thought of being intimate with him feels like a betrayal to myself and fills me with disgust! At this point, I'm at the end of my ropes and I don't know what to do... Kindly advice... Thank you.
Posted: at 11-03-2013 02:37 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
chicco77 at 11-03-2013 03:25 PM (11 years ago) (f)
Posted: at 11-03-2013 03:25 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
trulyval at 11-03-2013 04:31 PM (11 years ago) (m)
Pls pray and turn urself and ur family to God, there's nothing he can not do. Hard though it be, hv a heart to heart with ur husband. Empty ur heart & feelings to him. Wait on God and trust fully on him. If u really do, D sweetness in ur marriage shall be restored IJN. Pls see a counselor & talk to a pastor filled with God's spirit & vast in marrige counselling. It's well with you, stay blessed.
Posted: at 11-03-2013 04:31 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
tanglefree at 11-03-2013 05:05 PM (11 years ago) (f)
I really feel your pains dear.
You have take it to the Lord in prayer. And try to forgive and get this thinking off ur head.I will also suggest that both of you take time off for a short vacation.Do does things you have been doing during courtship.wear sexy outfits for him and pretend to be very nice to him.even though it still hurts.
Your marriage is still very early,please don't let it fall apart. Goodluck!
Posted: at 11-03-2013 05:05 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
You felt he is cheating on u & u re feeling betrayed by him. Dat's normal. Bt, what do u do, fold u hands & watch d other woman take him away frm u? Fight back 4 what belong 2 u if u truly love him by calling his attention & communicate ur thought & hw u feel to him. You 'll be surprised he might nt knw u 'v being going thru all dat. U having 2 degree & getting more pay than him is nt d issue. U knw dat b4 u decided 2 marry him so, drop dat. I 'd advised u talk things over wit him. Who knws, he might come back 2 his senses.
Posted: at 11-03-2013 05:08 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
Chericoco at 11-03-2013 06:07 PM (11 years ago) (f)
First of all if you don't watch out he is going to bring AIDS. I in particular can't keep living with a cheating husband. I can take any nonsense from a husband but not cheating. Women have contracted AIDS from their husband. If the shoe fit you wear it, if it,s too tide you take it off.
Posted: at 11-03-2013 06:07 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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