Is marriage a necessity to co-habitate and have kids?

Date: 03-05-2008 11:18 pm (15 years ago) | Author: exec 007
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- at 3-05-2008 11:18 PM (15 years ago)
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I am guessing I am not in tune with the dating tone of naija these days so wanted to throw out this question. I ask because I am surprised at many women i met in naija hold on to the concept of marriage like some cult doctrine. Mind you, I have nothing against marriage, it's good for a stable society and community but must it be a requirement? Am I just ranting to myself?

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- osituga at 3-05-2008 11:27 PM (15 years ago)
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Hey to me Marriage is not necessary.... cos i have never think of getting married!!!!!! i think it reduces a Man's concentration,you wont be able to focus much on your self cos your think will now be for 2-3 pple(you,wife and probable pregnancy).

I think the best thing is just signing contracty with ladies and once thier contract expires find another one or renew the agreement with the recent one,try get children out of that and when you are coming to your old-age,just be alone with kids i mean make sure your wives are no more with you.

Just live your life with your kids.

Its superb.

I think that's the way i gonna live.

Let see
Posted: at 3-05-2008 11:27 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- myragonza at 4-05-2008 04:44 AM (15 years ago)
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Is marriage a necessity to co-habitate and have kids?


its not a must that u need to get married....bur somehow,having a family of ur own is a necessity in life....something to look forward to....and in our culture,we do that thru marriage unlike the oyinbos or akatas who have families with no strings attached....i guess its all individual's opinion...

Posted: at 4-05-2008 04:44 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- osituga at 4-05-2008 09:21 AM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: myragonza on  4-05-2008 04:44 AM
Is marriage a necessity to co-habitate and have kids?


its not a must that u need to get married....bur somehow,having a family of ur own is a necessity in life....something to look forward to....and in our culture,we do that thru marriage unlike the oyinbos or akatas who have families with no strings attached....i guess its all individual's opinion...

Tell us your own mind....are you getting married or not or are you even married with kids.....lets know
Posted: at 4-05-2008 09:21 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- exec at 4-05-2008 01:08 PM (15 years ago)
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There is not need to personally assail or inquisit the lady imho. It's a public forum, people should feel free to write generally or personally. thanks both for your answers thus far...

Quote from: osituga on  4-05-2008 09:21 AM
Quote from: myragonza on  4-05-2008 04:44 AM
Is marriage a necessity to co-habitate and have kids?


its not a must that u need to get married....bur somehow,having a family of ur own is a necessity in life....something to look forward to....and in our culture,we do that thru marriage unlike the oyinbos or akatas who have families with no strings attached....i guess its all individual's opinion...

Tell us your own mind....are you getting married or not or are you even married with kids.....lets know
Posted: at 4-05-2008 01:08 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- olumine at 4-05-2008 01:32 PM (15 years ago)
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I think Marriage is necessary, but doesn't necessarily means you must marry if you don't want to.
Posted: at 4-05-2008 01:32 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- welli at 4-05-2008 01:36 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: osituga on  3-05-2008 11:27 PM
Hey to me Marriage is not necessary.... cos i have never think of getting married!!!!!! i think it reduces a Man's concentration,you wont be able to focus much on your self cos your think will now be for 2-3 pple(you,wife and probable pregnancy).

I think the best thing is just signing contracty with ladies and once thier contract expires find another one or renew the agreement with the recent one,try get children out of that and when you are coming to your old-age,just be alone with kids i mean make sure your wives are no more with you.

Just live your life with your kids.

Its superb.

I think that's the way i gonna live.

Let see
i kinda want to mk u see marriage frm a different view.u said marriage isn't necessary....dnt agree wit dat.its necessary bt not compulsory.plus it does not reduce a man's concentration it only gives more task to face.cum to think of it.marriage is tiresome nd boring wen u are married to d wrong person plus if she is a liability to u.but wen u are married to someone who understands how to make marriage work nd knows its value,its fun nd lovely.

Posted: at 4-05-2008 01:36 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- osituga at 4-05-2008 05:25 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: welli on  4-05-2008 01:36 PM
Quote from: osituga on  3-05-2008 11:27 PM
Hey to me Marriage is not necessary.... cos i have never think of getting married!!!!!! i think it reduces a Man's concentration,you wont be able to focus much on your self cos your think will now be for 2-3 pple(you,wife and probable pregnancy).

I think the best thing is just signing contracty with ladies and once thier contract expires find another one or renew the agreement with the recent one,try get children out of that and when you are coming to your old-age,just be alone with kids i mean make sure your wives are no more with you.

Just live your life with your kids.

Its superb.

I think that's the way i gonna live.

Let see
i kinda want to mk u see marriage frm a different view.u said marriage isn't necessary....dnt agree wit dat.its necessary bt not compulsory.plus it does not reduce a man's concentration it only gives more task to face.cum to think of it.marriage is tiresome nd boring wen u are married to d wrong person plus if she is a liability to u.but wen u are married to someone who understands how to make marriage work nd knows its value,its fun nd lovely.


Thanks i love that.....tht's the kinda woman i need.....oh you're sweet......ummmmm i have something more to say....should i?Huh?Huh?Huh??
Posted: at 4-05-2008 05:25 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- welli at 4-05-2008 05:33 PM (15 years ago)
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go ahead as long as it wont hurt

Posted: at 4-05-2008 05:33 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- osituga at 4-05-2008 05:38 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: welli on  4-05-2008 05:33 PM
go ahead as long as it wont hurt

Good!!!!!!!!!! since you are the kinda woman i want.....let's be on a kinda contract..........are you in Usa or Uk....tell me where you are....
Posted: at 4-05-2008 05:38 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- osituga at 4-05-2008 05:53 PM (15 years ago)
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you're not talking.........What's up......
Posted: at 4-05-2008 05:53 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- welli at 4-05-2008 06:25 PM (15 years ago)
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i'm in italy.well no contract can be done by u and i.......cum to tink of it...hmmm....cum out wit it first lemme hear it

Posted: at 4-05-2008 06:25 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Vixenx at 4-05-2008 06:51 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: exec on  3-05-2008 11:18 PM
I am guessing I am not in tune with the dating tone of naija these days so wanted to throw out this question. I ask because I am surprised at many women i met in naija hold on to the concept of marriage like some cult doctrine. Mind you, I have nothing against marriage, it's good for a stable society and community but must it be a requirement? Am I just ranting to myself?

 Undecided Undecided Undecided Undecided
Posted: at 4-05-2008 06:51 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- osituga at 4-05-2008 06:54 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: welli on  4-05-2008 06:25 PM
i'm in italy.well no contract can be done by u and i.......cum to tink of it...hmmm....cum out wit it first lemme hear it


hahaha...........before i open up....tell me what's on your mind............be truthfull
Posted: at 4-05-2008 06:54 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- Vixenx at 4-05-2008 06:55 PM (15 years ago)
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~~~just passing by~~~
Posted: at 4-05-2008 06:55 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- osituga at 4-05-2008 07:05 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: nigerianvixen26 on  4-05-2008 06:55 PM
~~~just passing by~~~


stop...wait...and say something....even hi.....
Posted: at 4-05-2008 07:05 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- welli at 4-05-2008 08:43 PM (15 years ago)
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sincerly,nuttin is on ma mind.so speak if u wanna Cool

Posted: at 4-05-2008 08:43 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- osituga at 4-05-2008 08:58 PM (15 years ago)
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@Welli lets hook up
Posted: at 4-05-2008 08:58 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- welli at 4-05-2008 10:32 PM (15 years ago)
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 Shocked u mean we should look sorry hook up? hmm... Undecided

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- myragonza at 5-05-2008 05:08 AM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: osituga on  4-05-2008 09:21 AM
Quote from: myragonza on  4-05-2008 04:44 AM
Is marriage a necessity to co-habitate and have kids?


its not a must that u need to get married....bur somehow,having a family of ur own is a necessity in life....something to look forward to....and in our culture,we do that thru marriage unlike the oyinbos or akatas who have families with no strings attached....i guess its all individual's opinion...

Tell us your own mind....are you getting married or not or are you even married with kids.....lets know

i am not married but i have grandchildren...... Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes

Posted: at 5-05-2008 05:08 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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