comes to picking up women online,
regardless of how much coffee you drank.
1- When Conversing Through E-mail, Don't
Write Your Life Story
Nothing turns off a woman more than a man
who can't shut up. If you don't believe me, the
next time you're corresponding with a woman
you've met online, write a one-page e-mail about
what you like to do on weekends, and see what
kind of response you get.
Nine times out of 10, a woman won't even reply
to you. She'll simply delete your e-mail and
move on to the next guy.
Why is that?
First, women usually perceive a long-winded man
as needy. And most women want a challenge.
Needy men aren't challenging.
Second, quite frankly, women want to do all of
the talking. And they want you to listen.
What to do: Keep all your e-mail replies short
(i.e. no longer than three sentences). The first
two sentences should be used for answering a
question (or questions) she may have asked, and
the last sentence should be reserved for asking
her a question.
Remember: Questions keep the "dialogue"
moving, and give her the sense that you are
thoughtful and interested.
2- Don't Initiate segxwal Talk
Many women think men have nothing but sex on
brain. Though there is some truth to this
statement, you'll get further in the game by not
hinting at or talking about sex.
Besides, in this politically correct world, who
wants to take the chance of offending women
with sex talk, especially if you don't know them
well?
What to do: Just don't do it.
In fact, you'd be surprised by how many women
will actually initiate a conversation about sex.
When a woman initiates talk about sex, consider
that a green light, though I suggest that your
comments be very well thought out.
Besides, if you're looking for aggressive segxwal
dialogue with a woman, there are plenty of
"adult" oriented personal sites that cater to that.
3- Don't Lie
It's a known fact that a significant percentage of
men and women lie about themselves, whether
it's about marital status, income, education level,
or occupation, when it comes to creating an
online profile of themselves.
I'm a true believer that the lies will catch up with
you -- sooner rather than later. And if you find a
woman who is really interested in you, and
you've lied to her, it's just a matter of time
before she finds out the truth.
What to do: If you think your income is too
low, or if your occupation isn't exactly exciting,
simply "up-sell" other qualities about yourself.
Focus on the good instead.
Never lie to impress a woman. Ever.
4- Don't Send Too Many E-mail Or IM
Messages
Again, you don't want to appear needy.
One way to appear needy is by sending a woman
three or four e-mail or IM messages a day.
Of course, if the e-mail or IM conversation is
moving along at breakneck speed and is
interesting and stimulating, then by all means,
have a full-fledged dialogue with her. In other
words, don't hold back. You may even try to
close the deal right there and ask her out on a
date.
But if you're in the early stages where you're still
in the process of getting to know each other,
then I suggest keeping your interactions to a
minimum.
What to do: I know it's difficult, especially if the
woman is hot, but you have to be disciplined.
Limit yourself to two e-mails per day, and keep
streaming IM conversations to no longer than 15
minutes. If the dialogue exceeds this time, then
excuse yourself and end the conversation, saying
that you have some things to take care of -- and
don't go into detail about it.
By doing this, you'll remain mysterious,
something that turns most women on.
5- Don't Spread Yourself Too Thin
One of the better problems to have with
Internet dating is corresponding with too
many women.
Yeah, I know exactly what you're thinking:
What man doesn't want to be chased by
dozens of beautiful women? But truth be
told, having an effective personal ad that
generates a lot of responses can backfire
on you if you're not careful.
For instance, in the past month, I've received 56
responses to my personal ad. That's a ton of
women to e-mail. In fact, it's too many. Way too
many.
If you try to reply to every single woman who
responds to your ad, you'll soon find yourself
spending your days writing e-mail. More
importantly, you'll start forgetting what you've
said and to whom.
I can't tell you how many times I've been
embarrassed because I asked a woman the same
question four or five times.
What to do: Though I encourage you to be
polite, you may find yourself physically unable to
reply to every woman who has responded to
your ad. In fact, I recommend that you don't
reply to every woman who responds to your
personal ad.
Instead, if you're getting dozens of responses
each week, only reply to the women you wish to
pursue further. Furthermore, if these leads don't
work out for you, then you can always go back
to the other women you didn't reply to originally.
6- Don't Appear Too Eager To Go On A Date
Unless a woman immediately asks to meet you
(and some will), a rule of thumb about asking a
woman for a date is to wait at least a week after
the initial contact before asking her out.
If you ask her out too soon, when she's not
ready and comfortable, she'll disappear.
If you wait, one of the things that will go
through her mind is, why isn't this guy asking
me out?
When that happens, you'll instantly become
more attractive to her.
What to do: Let her make the first move.
If she's the kind of woman who wants to be
pursued, she might be a high maintenance
princess, and that's the last thing you want to
deal with.
Play It Cool, Play It Safe
I know we're all a bunch of macho men, but you
can never be too safe. The last thing you want is
to be involved in a real-life fatal attraction.
So in addition to these six "don'ts," I also advise
against handing out your telephone number or
your address. Take your time to get to know the
woman before revealing your personal
information.
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