I got married in 2006. A year later in 2007, my husband relocated to the US. The plan was for him to settle there and then bring me and our only son to join him. It's been six long years and he has been giving us excuses upon excuses. He confessed that he married a white woman there but only to get his papers but I later found out he was living with this woman. When I called him a few months ago I heard a child crying at the background, so I'm suspecting they also have a child together though he says the child is the lady's child and not his. I don't believe him. I have no way of finding out the truth because I have no one in the US to help me investigate. He has only returned home once since he traveled and this was in 2010. I feel like I'm wasting my life waiting for him especially now that I met someone else who wants to marry me. I'm not divorced from my husband so marrying another man would be illegal. When I suggested divorce to my husband he flipped and told me to give him more time that he will come home as soon as he's stable there. I'm tired of waiting. I need a man in my life. Can I remarry because I think my husband is also married?
As far as am concern, you don't have evidence to show that he is married, if you marry another man without a proper divorce, he may sue u for bigamy even-though I know that body no be fire wood.
It may be true that he has a child if not more with this white woman, all these could be for your sake, just to get the papers and take you and the son down there, but be that as it may, you have been waiting all these years, could you pls give him till the end of this year? Give him that option that after this year, you will sort urself out as u cant afford to wait any longer and wont wont to be roped into this adultery whatever. Pray for him, nothing prayers cannot do.
Goodluck
Posted: at 25-04-2013 01:06 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
My dear is not easy o, body no be wood.just give him more time ok then if he still did not show up then get married. but remember that he still loves u. who knows maybe he will come back to u. pls give him more time ok. i no it is not easy but try more ok.
Posted: at 25-04-2013 01:36 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
richiestone at 25-04-2013 02:11 PM (11 years ago) (m)
Honey, wait for ur' dear husband, usa is not Easy it mite také good ten yaer before he get through with marrage and green card drammer, so six year is not enough. Wait and be honest good things come to those who wait.
Posted: at 25-04-2013 02:11 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
dlimelite at 25-04-2013 03:13 PM (11 years ago) (f)
Wow, serious issue. Free yourself and get married to the man that's asking you. Your husband left to go to US, left you & your child in Nigeria for 6+ years, cheated on you with another woman, even married the woman knowing he was still married to you, and then had a child. Free yourself, No one should hold you back from enjoying life for life is short. The man married another woman when not divorced and has been with her for years and you're still waiting in Nigeria. Its clear that you guys are divorced just that there's no papers. If he really loved you, he wont have done all that, and he would've brought you to US by now. Before you know it, you'll be waiting for 20 yrs. Move on for he's ditched you. Get married to the man asking you and enjoy your life Good luck!
Posted: at 25-04-2013 03:13 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
Wow, serious issue. Free yourself and get married to the man that's asking you. Your husband left to go to US, left you & your child in Nigeria for 6+ years, cheated on you with another woman, even married the woman knowing he was still married to you, and then had a child. Free yourself, No one should hold you back from enjoying life for life is short. The man married another woman when not divorced and has been with her for years and you're still waiting in Nigeria. Its clear that you guys are divorced just that there's no papers. If he really loved you, he wont have done all that, and he would've brought you to US by now. Before you know it, you'll be waiting for 20 yrs. Move on for he's ditched you. Get married to the man asking you and enjoy your life Good luck!
Sis but she mentioned that the man came in 2010. Beside there is no prove that he is married. At times like dis all temptations should be avoided, she might marry 2day and the husband return 2moro. Life out there is not very easy especially with a man. I still wish she could give him a little more time. (My submission though). She still has the final decision to take sha
Posted: at 25-04-2013 03:26 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
thomzolar at 25-04-2013 03:59 PM (11 years ago) (m)
See his family and explain to them, all u need is assurance. As he been sending money? if he as been taking care of you from there, that shows he loves you. Let him knw what u ar feeling. he will come home.
Posted: at 25-04-2013 03:59 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
tell him u cant wait forever, if the US thing is not working out he should come back home to his wife and son if he actually loves u, must he stay in US for christ sake lets be real, aint there couples both living in 9ja here and making it, tell him if he doesnt come back by this year end u will move on with ur life, six years gone already, aint u gonna have other kids? a woman has biological clock that actually ticks, a man doesn't he can have more kids even at 60 or 70 but u cant, more over he has more than one kid now and u have only 1, think and use ur head, u know whats best for u anyway.
Posted: at 25-04-2013 07:10 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
Matters of ds nature r so so fragile dat 1 has 2 b careful on hw 2 approach it. Marriage is an institution which thrive on patience, tolerance n perseverance frm 2 adults involved. Ur side of d story might sound pitiful but my folks tot me well enuf not 2 base my judgements on 1-sided story... Bottom line is dis, d both of u suggested n consented 2 his adventurous quest 4 greener pastures overseas knowing fully well dat it wasn't gonna b easy. Plz don't base ur decisions on insinuations.... Its wrong! Do u knw wht i think? I sense u have already succumbed 2 d numerous advance of over-zealous "p*ssy tasters". My advice, he who d gods wanna kill, he 1st made deaf".... God's favour is trying 2 locate u. Revoke Satan n he ll flee. Wait my dear, wait 4 d love of ur life, ur delay won't b a waste n try take it 2 d lord in prayers...... Merci.
A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.
Posted: at 25-04-2013 08:47 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Matters of ds nature r so so fragile dat 1 has 2 b careful on hw 2 approach it. Marriage is an institution which thrive on patience, tolerance n perseverance frm 2 adults involved. Ur side of d story might sound pitiful but my folks tot me well enuf not 2 base my judgements on 1-sided story... Bottom line is dis, d both of u suggested n consented 2 his adventurous quest 4 greener pastures overseas knowing fully well dat it wasn't gonna b easy. Plz don't base ur decisions on insinuations.... Its wrong! Do u knw wht i think? I sense u have already succumbed 2 d numerous advance of over-zealous "p*ssy tasters". My advice, he who d gods wanna kill, he 1st made deaf".... God's favour is trying 2 locate u. Revoke Satan n he ll flee. Wait my dear, wait 4 d love of ur life, ur delay won't b a waste n try take it 2 d lord in prayers...... Merci.
you dis nzewyte, u no go kill me ooo
Posted: at 26-04-2013 10:21 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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