He Does Not Want A Court Wedding (Page 3)

Have u ever seen anywhere in any of the Holy Books, (Bible, Koran e.t.c) where court wedding is stated?? d law recognizes three marriages Religious marriage, Customary marriage (traditional marriage), and marriage by the Act or Ordinance (Court Marriage), But because of ignorance, Show off, flamboyancy  or I dont know wot 2 call it esp d ladies they want all three marriages.

Posted: at 5-06-2013 09:37 AM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I cannot categorically tell u 2 marry him, because I may say marry him and #MyOgaAtTheTop may say another thing, so ww.Its ur choice dats all

Posted: at 5-06-2013 09:44 AM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac

they are many fishes in the river,u better hold on to want u have,and do a church wedding,ur reasons are not strong enough

Posted: at 5-06-2013 10:28 AM (10 years ago) | Upcoming

as much as i dont support court wedding in any way,i will advice you to let the guy go and wait for a better guy who would appreciate you for who you are.he reason for not wanting a court wedding has made it obvious he doesnt have you at heart.so be wise and call it quit with him.

Posted: at 5-06-2013 11:40 AM (10 years ago) | Newbie

follow ur heart.

Posted: at 5-06-2013 01:42 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie

It hard to believe you are waiting for angelic voice to hear what this man is saying. He is not even hiding it so what are you waiting for. He has his program which obviously you are not a part of. He can't be giving such conditions if he is not afraid of the consequences of what he has on grounds already or he has mapped out for himself for the future. He also envisages you might not have children. If you are being asked why court marriage, the same question should also go to him why not court marriage. You belong to a society where the main issue is not the extra marital affairs and their unpleasant results, but the greed of in-laws and their passion for grabbing inheritance of their brothers before and after the loss of husbands. They don't even wait for the dead to be interred, They never care or even want to think of the children and their welfare, they never are bothered if the inheritance they are scrambling for is the sweat of both husband and wife and in some cases a direct product of the wife. I do not know how desperate you are but be ready to hear speeches like " You knew me to be like this when you agreed to marry me", " I told you in plain language what I wanted and you accepted it", " You cant change me nor change your mind now when you gave me your word that there won't be any problems". His statement has revealed his heart and all you need to know. Do not trivialize any decision at this stage. I do not see you in his plans that is born out of fear. Save yourself the heart ache. The pains and sorrows you will experience latter if you make a foolish decision is far more that what you will have now if you stop the process but the decision is yours. Remember none of us commentators will live with him and the outcome, only you will. Be wise

Posted: at 5-06-2013 04:23 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie

If I knew him, I will stand by him not to go to court with you. You do not love him, that is why you want to take him to court. The court and the church, which is better? God created marriage but not the court. If you can't stand only the church to wed him, kindly leave the poor guy alone and go look for another guy that will run with you to court. Motular!

Posted: at 5-06-2013 05:22 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie

You should not insist on court marriage as a precondition for church wedding. You should count yourself loved that the guy is willing to marry you. Another fact is that most men never depend on their parent in-laws wealth rather they end up spending more for the same rich parent in-laws, so mentioning your parents' wealth is a non starter. Will they waive the bride price or traditional marriage expenses for your fiancee? It is selfishness to insist on court marriage as a pre-condition to church wedding.. Mind you church wedding is the more secure as it is divine and more binding. I suggest that you go along with the church wedding and subtly discuss with him thereafter for the court marriage, hopefully you may be able to convince him about the importance of court marriage in the long run. Many men will feel threatened when you start with pre-conditions.

Posted: at 6-06-2013 03:37 AM (10 years ago) | Newbie

For you to request for a court marriage means you have couple aces up your own sleeves. Are you sure you're not planning on killing him once you bear a male child? So you can bring in another man to live happily ever after? That guy really loves you, a real Nigerian will chase you back to your parents house with a cutlass

Posted: at 6-06-2013 03:27 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie

I won't say refusal of court wedding is a good reason to totally call off the wedding but I'd advice you fully consider his reasons for refusal. You both are not yet married and he is already giving room and making considerations for inheritance of kids outside wedlock. Dats something to ponder on!

Posted: at 7-06-2013 11:52 AM (10 years ago) | Newbie