Actress, Chika Ike Opens Up On Why She Left Her Marriage: “I Was A Victim Of Dom

6 years ago by: Direct
(m) at 10-08-2013 08:39AM (6 years ago)

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Recently, Nigerian actress, Chika Ike posted on her Facebook wall that she was now a single woman living happy. To which her fans gave her a bashing, asking whether it was an achievement worth celebrating. The pretty actress is finally telling her story which throw more light on her reason for seeking a divorce. Please read…

The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve   that there’s really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence.  I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.

Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.  Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it.  I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost  a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story,I guess that’s why they are ignorant.  I was 20yrs old and  very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe..  So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever.  For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass  jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying  this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.

winace (f) at 10-08-2013 09:00AM
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Chika its enough already. Do u enjoy bringing ur private life to d public?
Toks-E (m) at 10-08-2013 10:15AM
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Queen1994 (f) at 3-02-2014 08:56PM
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I don't believe anything this ugly fat nosed witch has to say. One big reason being that victims of abuse are never this forthcoming about what they experienced at the hands of their assailant. At least not after a long time away from the person. She is a fake attention seeking bumpy nosed kike and I along with the rest of Nigeria am so sick of hearing about her. This mgbeke girl needs 2 see her a$$ back 2 the village with her skinny Kleg self.