Unhappy with your current relationship? Here are some ideas for ending it on good terms.
Steps
1. However kind you may be, there is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person. All you can do is try to minimize the pain.
2. Do not break up with the person by phone, instant message, or e-mail; this is disrespectful. Have the decency to do it privately and in person.
3. Try to avoid placing blame on the other person for the break up. Be as minimalist as possible in your explanation, especially if the reason for the break up is some fault you find with your partner. Don't be afraid to tell a little white lie to spare their feelings. It's much better to say something like "I need some space to grow as a person" than to say "You really annoy me".
4. Afterwards, tell the person that you hope to stay in touch and that you still care about them.
5. And if you don't really want to be friends with her, don't say,"Oh, but we can still be friends." It hurts more if you avoid her.
Tips
* Following these rules will make the process much more painless for both of you and may get you a positive reference in the future.
* NEVER EVER EVER EVER say any of the classic break-up lines like "It's not you, it's me."
* Wait some time before getting another girlfriend, especially if your former girlfriend will run into you often.
Warnings
* Let the break up be final. Don't keep going back and hooking up with the person over and over again.
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Posted: at 16-02-2008 09:09 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac |
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