Don't Call me Mrs! -- Chimamnda Adichie Warns Journalist

Date: 03-03-2014 4:35 pm (10 years ago) | Author: Victor A. Ofoma
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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a multi awarding winning author and in a new interview with TheSunNews, she blasted the journalist for addressing her as Mrs. Chimamanda. Chima insists that her name is Miss Chimamnda Adichie, not Mrs Chimamanda Esega (her husband's surname). It's quite a long interview but it's a must read and sure will make you understand what makes the big writer tick.

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Mrs Chimamanda Adichie, welcome back to Nigeria…
Before we start, please, I just want to say that my name is Chimamanda Adichie. That’s how I want it; that’s how I’m addressed, and it is not Mrs but Miss.  Ms: that’s how I want it. I am saying this, because I just got a mail from my manager this morning. It seems that there are people who attended the church service, and they wrote about it, addressing me as Mrs. Chimamanda (Esega). I didn’t like that at all. So my name is Chimamanda Adichie, full stop!

You mean?

This is because it is also responsible that people be called what they want to be called.

In one of your interview published in the some newspapers, (including an interview in Sunday Sun with Akubuiro in 2007), you said you’re a feminist. Can you throw more light on that?

Oooh! Is that when I said that, because that quote has followed me everywhere in the world. That’s why I don’t like granting interviews, because whatever you say, in 20 years, you’ll still be quoted.

Oh I said I’m a feminist? You know, what I meant was that: you know when people hear feminism, many things come into their head. What I wanted him to understand is that feminism doesn’t mean that you want to be a man. I’m a feminist, I’m a female; a feminist meaning that I want to look like a woman, but I want the equal respect that a man has. I think that human being should be respected based on their achievements and not based on whether you’re a man or woman.

But, since I said that, everywhere I go, people are asking about that. I went to Australia, and they had read that; they knew about that. I was on stage in a hall full of people. They said they had a special present for me, and they brought in purse. I just started laughing. It was hilarious. But this is why you should be careful what you say. It was so funny. All the way in Australia!

You started by telling me that you’re not “Mrs.”…

(cuts in) My name is Chimamada Adichie. If you want to put label for me, put Ms.
But people know that you’re married. As an Igbo girl, you know our culture…

(Cuts in again) What does our culture do? Let me tell you about our culture. This thing that you are calling our culture –that when you marry somebody, you’ll start call-ing her Mrs. Somebody –is not our culture; it is Western culture.

If you want to talk about our culture, you need to go to people in real Igbo land. But it is true. My grandfather’s name is David. His name is also Nwoye. They call him Nwoye Omeni. Omeni was his mother. You know why? It is to help distinguish him, because there are often many wives. So, it was his mother that they used to identify him. They know that all of these people came from the same compound, but whose child is this one. You may go and ask people who is Nwoye Omeni, and they’ll tell you it is my grandfather. So, conversation about culture is a long one. I don’t even want to have it.

But, at what point would you change your name?

Yes; because it’s all fused. You cannot then come and impose something on somebody. Nobody should come and impose something on somebody, because, if you come and tell me it is our culture, I’ll tell you it is not our culture. Where do you want to start counting? Do you want to start counting in 1920, or do you want us to start counting from 1870?

But culture is dynamic…

Exactly my point, which is why this is new. If culture is dynamic, you cannot use it as conservative tool. We can not then say it has to be this because it is our culture.  My point is that it is a new thing. Things are changing. We live in a world now where women have a right to bear the name they want.
So, we cannot say this is how we do it. If some women want to do it that way, that’s fine! God bless them. Some women won’t do it. I am one of those women, and nobody will come to use culture to tell me that I should do what I don’t want to do.

Posted: at 3-03-2014 04:35 PM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
- winace at 3-03-2014 05:26 PM (10 years ago)
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Hmmmmmmm well she has said. So pple respect her wish o.
Posted: at 3-03-2014 05:26 PM (10 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- iamDonc at 3-03-2014 05:37 PM (10 years ago)
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who is she?
Posted: at 3-03-2014 05:37 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- PeacetoU at 3-03-2014 05:41 PM (10 years ago)
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No wahala nah call her what she wants to be called.
Posted: at 3-03-2014 05:41 PM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- dareper at 3-03-2014 05:44 PM (10 years ago)
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Her business
Posted: at 3-03-2014 05:44 PM (10 years ago) | Hero
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- spiridion at 3-03-2014 06:21 PM (10 years ago)
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Quote from: iamDonc on  3-03-2014 05:37 PM
who is she?
Like seriously?If you don't know her i wonder what you know!
Posted: at 3-03-2014 06:21 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- abk01 at 3-03-2014 06:32 PM (10 years ago)
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ISLAM D RELIGION OF PEACE

POSTA  WHAT  DO U WANT ME TO DO FOR HER NOW?Huh?Huh?Huh?Huh?Huh?
WEL, I SHADE TEARS FOR DIS GEJ ADMINISTRATION & HIS USELESS BLOODSUCKING TRANSFORMATION AGENDA



WAT  GOES  AROUND WIL SURELY COMES AROUND
Posted: at 3-03-2014 06:32 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- buchi1975 at 3-03-2014 07:05 PM (10 years ago)
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call her mrs for what ...this one is rebellious o. pls call her chicken or goat if that is what she wants
Posted: at 3-03-2014 07:05 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- buchi1975 at 3-03-2014 07:09 PM (10 years ago)
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lets not forget that if someone is a good and world acclaimed writer does not mean she must have a nice attitude ... sorry mr interviewer u don jam fire
Posted: at 3-03-2014 07:09 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- BlueIxora at 3-03-2014 08:04 PM (10 years ago)
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Her choice.
Posted: at 3-03-2014 08:04 PM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Tripplekay at 3-03-2014 08:25 PM (10 years ago)
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...let us call her what she wanted to be called, she have right to answer anything she want. You can call me mtcheeeeeew!!!
Posted: at 3-03-2014 08:25 PM (10 years ago) | Newbie
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- raylink at 3-03-2014 09:42 PM (10 years ago)
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who is she?
Like seriously?If you don't know her i wonder what you know!
PLS U DAT KNOW HER TELL ME WHO SHE IS.........ABI NA D NEW MINISTER OF AVIATION......NONSENSE
Posted: at 3-03-2014 09:42 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- kennethosita at 3-03-2014 09:53 PM (10 years ago)
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half of a yellow sun
Posted: at 3-03-2014 09:53 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- softhils at 3-03-2014 10:00 PM (10 years ago)
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dis lady is kinda rude
Posted: at 3-03-2014 10:00 PM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- oursenator at 3-03-2014 11:06 PM (10 years ago)
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once you are married you bear ur husy name o girl thats the culture not only the western culture thats our real culture pp should be mature before geting married this one is mature in the body physical but she is still a baby inwardly i wonder what kind of a home this one is building
Posted: at 3-03-2014 11:06 PM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- okilo101 at 3-03-2014 11:59 PM (10 years ago)
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Everybody has d right 2 change dia names n be called wat d wish 2 b called fullstop.
Posted: at 3-03-2014 11:59 PM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Asksmeagain at 4-03-2014 12:14 AM (10 years ago)
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OMG!  Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked  I love reading your books but i think that you are too rude and proud for
my liking  Huh? Huh? Huh? just tell the whole world that you are no longer married to that
handsome husband of yours and stop going around in cycle. Drunk in fame thing... call me miss not mrs  Huh? Huh? hissssssssssssssssssssss

Posted: at 4-03-2014 12:14 AM (10 years ago) | Upcoming
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- gbojac at 4-03-2014 12:49 AM (10 years ago)
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Whaaat ??
Posted: at 4-03-2014 12:49 AM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- SugarBB at 4-03-2014 12:51 AM (10 years ago)
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I just dnt understand why some stupid ppl in this gistmania always like to carry other ppl's matter on their heads, the last time i checked, her hubby isn't complaining so why the F should u?

Posted: at 4-03-2014 12:51 AM (10 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Wysetots at 4-03-2014 05:57 AM (10 years ago)
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Did she really say all these???

The responses has a bitter undertone.
Posted: at 4-03-2014 05:57 AM (10 years ago) | Hero
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