Help! I Caught My Wife Cheating On Me With A Vibrator On Our Matrimonial Bed

Published On: June 21, 2014, 11:36 am (6 years ago)
Author: Daniel Bosai
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I have a very serious problem which has started affecting me psychologically and even my performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it has not yielded any positive result as I am not convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed to discuss the problem with my pastor and even worse with my mother because I know that will only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am afraid they might turn around to use it against us and make me the butt of their jokes
My problem started last December, over the festive period to be precise. I caught my wife on our matrimonial bed having sex with a vibrator. I almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond what words can describe. I found myself shaking from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid vomiting.
She must have been so engrossed in what she was doing that she did not even know when I entered our apartment and walked into the room to find her in that position. It was my movement that brought her back to reality.
What I found most disturbing at that moment was why she could not wait for me if she was so in need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I was on my way home. And though she got up immediately and started pleading with me that it was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her until very early in the morning of the next day.
She told me a friend in her office had given it to her to try out and it was her first time of using it. And that she would have told me about it but wanted to try it out first. She mentioned somebody’s name which she said I have never met and pleaded that she would return it and never use it again. She managed to convince me that it was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not need to bother myself about and I accepted.
But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing the picture of her in that position in my head and wondering if it was right for a married, Christian woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is something made by the Satan for his children.

Later that week, she told me she had returned it and things went back to normal between us but I was surprised to find the instrument again in her underwear drawer by accident. She was not at home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees again and began to beg me.
She said she did not know how to return the thing since it was a gift and would not want to upset her colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She insisted she was not using it and was also scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw that evening was worse than the previous one and still haunts me till today.
I’d never seen my wife look that way before even when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to hide quietly behind the door way to allow her finish before I opened the door. Immediately my wife went on her knees, begging that it was the devil again.
I refused to talk to her and walked out of the apartment. I just walked round and round the neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex toy.
I could only manage to keep my anger for two days as she kept crying and asking for forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I could not bear to see her that way too, so, I insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no longer a secret, it was better she confessed everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers and she had been using it even before she became a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a way to show that they did not need male company? Were they Lesbians?'

She insisted they were not. When she became “born again” in the university, she stopped, she said. This was where we met and started first as friends, then I got the message that she was my wife and we eventually got married two years after our service year. She said she was forced to go and buy another vibrator after a discussion with some ladies in her office about how much they enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she used to have. She also told me that she does not get satisfaction from what we do together but did not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and begged me to allow her to continue using the thing and that it will not affect what we have together, after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught her again in almost two months, I am still not happy because I know she is doing it and its disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect us, it is already affecting me because anytime I want to have sex with her, that picture comes to my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just force myself because I have nowhere else to relieve myself.

My work schedule is very tight as I work in the bank and have to leave home very early in the morning and most times, don’t return home until around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some professional courses, so, that also takes away most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so she has more than enough time on her hands to do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love life better, I have tried to do everything she tells me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I am not convinced. I do not see that look on her face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a husband. We have been married for three years and we are yet to conceive a child and I sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know what I am facing with my mother and family on that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am powerless to do anything about it. Please Aunty Yetunde, help me. I want Nigerians to advise me on what next to do. I don’t want anyone to know my identity please.


Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 11:36 AM | Hero
Wahala way tie hair tie
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 11:51 AM | Newbie
u for join them na ..why u dey make noise...
maybe u no dey do your home work well...that's why she ask for help from someone ..
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 11:52 AM | Addicted Hero
make vibrator do your work for u ...
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 11:53 AM | Addicted Hero
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:08 PM | Gistmaniac
 Roll Eyes
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:12 PM | Hero
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:20 PM | Gistmaniac

Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:21 PM | Hero
sorry sir....what stops u from giving her good sex everymorning and a good head by 11pm ?omo ur own better so what kind of advise do u need?nawao,a banker with all ur book brain no get brain to handle ur family matter Roll Eyes
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:27 PM | Gistmaniac
She is a good house wife,,
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:41 PM | Upcoming
Sorry but your wife needs delivers that all that can stop it
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:41 PM | Upcoming
This torry too long oh...
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 12:43 PM | Newbie
Makeup stories 
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 01:13 PM | Gistmaniac
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 01:22 PM | Hero

Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 01:34 PM | Addicted Hero
So sorry for you young man. But my opinion is that the whole mistakes started from you. From what I know, the essence of courtship in a relationship is to know about 95% of each other's lifestyle , temperament s and the like. Now my question is DID SHE NOT TELL YOU THIS DURING YOUR COURSHIp?. Because I strongly believe you wouldn't have fall into this trap. If you probably suspected anything during that time, why didn't you terminate this relationship. Of course, don't even think of divorce now, it's late ( only if you are a genuine Christian). So, my advice?, P R A Y  H A R D E R. God can change things for you.
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 02:01 PM | Newbie
Money cannot equate to family.
If she prefers a 20k tool to you.....your marriage is already declining.
It's only a time before another man replaces the tool.

Christianity does not negate sexuality.
Fix your marriage.
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 02:21 PM | Hero
i think you can help her

you should try to give her more satisfaction than the toy, that way she will get addicted to you rather than the toy. Afterall, it means your wife enjoys sexual satisfaction a lot. so think of what satisfaction the toy gives and you provide it and she will naturally stop using it.

It is not really a big problem as you claim.

Remember, she may not be a lesbian in fact
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 02:40 PM | Upcoming
zoe61 zoe61 (f)
lazy man u better wake up and do ur work well
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 02:45 PM | Hero
you said you got a message that she is your wife??? you want us to put hand in what GOD has joined together ,,if that you got a message that she is your wife manage it,, but let me tell you no amount of sex you can give such a woman each day that can stop her from using vibrator ,,if you stop her from using it at home she will do it in her friend's house, it is more powerful that death,to stop someone from using it is like raising the dead
Posted: (6 years ago) on 21-06-2014 02:50 PM | Upcoming
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