My Husband Lied To Me That He Has Never Married Before, Now Confused

Date: 15-07-2014 10:50 am (6 years ago) | Author: elenuose
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- at 15-07-2014 10:50 AM (6 years ago)
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Dear brothers and sisters

I think I am going crazy with everything. I have known my husband now for 5yrs. We planned to have a baby, but he was still living in Germany then, so after I got preggy he moved to the UK.

When my daughter was 3mths old, a friend of mine came to see my Daughter and met my husband. She told me she recognised him from somewhere bt was not sure. Anyway, after a week she called me and said she recognised him from a picture she saw at her friends house. She then told me he has been married b4.

When I asked him he denied it and my elder bro also called him and asked him he also denied it, then I asked his elder sister in Cameroon who also denied it. She said he has never been married before and I believed her and insulted my friend and we have not spoken since. His sister is a big married woman so I didn’t see why she would lie to me.

After 2 months of that, a girl sent me a message on Facebook that the pic I uploaded was her daddy. I asked her name she mentioned it and mentioned my husbands full name. She told me she is his daughter. I then asked him who she was and he said she is his daughter.

The girl also told me that he was married to her mum. I took her number and spoke to her mum who told me that they were married and he left her. Her mum also said he saw them few months ago and that is true because he went to Germany the same time she claims to have seen him.

His daughter is 15 years old. A big girl.

I can’t believe that, after five years and a child this is happening. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Many thanks in advance..


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Posted: at 15-07-2014 10:50 AM (6 years ago) | Newbie
- trader at 15-07-2014 11:38 AM (6 years ago)
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There is nothing wrong in that, just accept him and move forward
Posted: at 15-07-2014 11:38 AM (6 years ago) | Newbie
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- Majfvy at 15-07-2014 12:21 PM (6 years ago)
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Just 4giv him, mayb it wz nva a hapi marriage. Sins he hz accepted dat he hav a child no big deal, just enjoy ur marriage nobody is threatenin u 2 live her husband alone
Posted: at 15-07-2014 12:21 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Majfvy at 15-07-2014 12:21 PM (6 years ago)
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Just 4giv him, mayb it wz nva a hapi marriage. Sins he hz accepted dat he hav a child no big deal, just enjoy ur marriage nobody is threatenin u 2 live her husband alone
Posted: at 15-07-2014 12:21 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- sweetestchy at 15-07-2014 12:26 PM (6 years ago)
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Pls leave him,cos u re marrying other person hubby,it s a sin
Posted: at 15-07-2014 12:26 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- HOPEA23 at 15-07-2014 12:31 PM (6 years ago)
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What are u above saying ..just forgive him and move on ..do u think is easy to just forgive someone....after he lied to her...is not easy hell no..
He should have let yoy know from the start..and when u even asked him he should have tell u about it...gush what kind of a man is he...
I wish u both were not married I would have advice u to kick his ass out of your life but since u have a child with him and married well...I still think u should give him the punishment that he deserves....don't just accept his apology yet..he may not mean it......make he smell pepper so next time when someone ask him a simple question he will give answer and say the truth...

Posted: at 15-07-2014 12:31 PM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- donpet at 15-07-2014 12:38 PM (6 years ago)
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Don't listen to those people Move on with your guy so long he told u dat he is not marry believe him and the family
Posted: at 15-07-2014 12:38 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- mary11 at 15-07-2014 12:52 PM (6 years ago)
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my sister just follow ur mind

Posted: at 15-07-2014 12:52 PM (6 years ago) | Hero
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- Freshlycrazy at 15-07-2014 12:59 PM (6 years ago)
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use ur head to think not ur heart & u'll get a solution...
Posted: at 15-07-2014 12:59 PM (6 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- eddiemike19 at 15-07-2014 01:36 PM (6 years ago)
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Quote from: HOPEA23 on 15-07-2014 12:31 PM
What are u above saying ..just forgive him and move on ..do u think is easy to just forgive someone....after he lied to her...is not easy hell no..
He should have let yoy know from the start..and when u even asked him he should have tell u about it...gush what kind of a man is he...
I wish u both were not married I would have advice u to kick his ass out of your life but since u have a child with him and married well...I still think u should give him the punishment that he deserves....don't just accept his apology yet..he may not mean it......make he smell pepper so next time when someone ask him a simple question he will give answer and say the truth...
listen to yourself , you sounded like a broken record, we know your type; never happy for fellow woman, I wonder what world u came from, kick his ass out.,, anyway u re only a 23 year old child so you knows nothing about the real world and real life, when u attained that stage in marriage wait if ur husband is going to be a 100% faithful and not one single lies popped up bt of it does, kick his butt out ... Fool !!!
Posted: at 15-07-2014 01:36 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- x-avier at 15-07-2014 01:42 PM (6 years ago)
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If he lied to you about that for over 5 years and still refused to admit even after you caught him, what else could he be lying abut?
I would say, your forgiving him or not depends on why you married him in the first place.
If you married for love, then there's no more trust in it so I'd advise you to move on.
But if you married him for his passport or because he travels out at will (as a lot of our Naija babes do), then he still hasn't disappointed you. His passport is still intact and you can still travel out with him or get to act the part of Mrs. Americana in front of your friends.
You don't know what a lot of our guys do to get a permit or green card or whatever. Sometimes it involves marrying an oyinbo and living with her for years either as houseboy or service engineer (also a glorified houseboy).
If that is the case, he has paid his dues. It's time for you to pay yours.
Posted: at 15-07-2014 01:42 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- HOPEA23 at 15-07-2014 01:51 PM (6 years ago)
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Quote from: eddiemike19 on 15-07-2014 01:36 PM
listen to yourself , you sounded like a broken record, we know your type; never happy for fellow woman, I wonder what world u came from, kick his ass out.,, anyway u re only a 23 year old child so you knows nothing about the real world and real life, when u attained that stage in marriage wait if ur husband is going to be a 100% faithful and not one single lies popped up bt of it does, kick his butt out ... Fool !!!
u are the one that's stupid here...if it were u  that this happened to..will u still trust her..will u not break up with her...u most be crazy for calling me a fool...nonsense what do know about real life..u know nothing idiot..I know more than u thinks....like I said..is like u did not understand that sentence very well...I wrote if they weren't married or have a child together I would have advise her to kick his ass out of her life...mumu..no smart woman will still stay with a lair..who she is not married to or have a child for...mumu..yeah I'm married and I'm not expecting prefection from my husband...because I know he's human like me and can make mistake ..but if it does happen is better he tell me the truth than denying it ..the truth will surly come out one day..so why lie about it....re read the story again...and go kiss an ass..I could careless about what u think about me..phyuk off son of a bitch

Posted: at 15-07-2014 01:51 PM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- HOPEA23 at 15-07-2014 01:56 PM (6 years ago)
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Girl follow your heart but go with your brain

Posted: at 15-07-2014 01:56 PM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- cocoeni at 15-07-2014 02:43 PM (6 years ago)
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Nobody is perfect gives him and move on with ur marriage
Posted: at 15-07-2014 02:43 PM (6 years ago) | Hero
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- queenbabe at 15-07-2014 02:49 PM (6 years ago)
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My dear follow ur heart
Posted: at 15-07-2014 02:49 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- queenbabe at 15-07-2014 02:50 PM (6 years ago)
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My dear follow ur heart
Posted: at 15-07-2014 02:50 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- doubleclick at 15-07-2014 02:54 PM (6 years ago)
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Conffe,  i think forgiveness is a choice because you have the choice not to forgive and we should respect the choice of he who did not forgive. If you choose to forgive your husband for the alleged  lie this is good for you . It's not by accident that the grate religions of the world advocates forgiveness as part of their doctrine because he who forgive may have more big relieve than the person he forgives. I will advice you to listen less to those who advice you to kick his ass out of your life or make his life difficult for him, because my people say a baby who  says him mum will not sleep  he too will never close his eyes. After all this is your your legally married  husband and nobody is pushing you out of your matrimonial house. Forgiveness brings relieve and love and you need love to enjoy your marriage. So you can now choose. i wish you a happy married life.
Posted: at 15-07-2014 02:54 PM (6 years ago) | Newbie
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- beneno at 15-07-2014 03:49 PM (6 years ago)
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 warever Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes
Posted: at 15-07-2014 03:49 PM (6 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- bishop5 at 15-07-2014 04:03 PM (6 years ago)
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Most of dis cases happens in EU world, maybe he had d first marriage in a strug to get  permit of stay in Eu or casual sex;meanwhile he first denied it  cos of his love 2 u nd wil nt like to his union wit u ended.then i add u shld 4give him nd move on wit ur marriage .no man or woman is perfect, mostly people in western world.
Posted: at 15-07-2014 04:03 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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- eddiemike19 at 15-07-2014 04:10 PM (6 years ago)
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Quote from: HOPEA23 on 15-07-2014 01:51 PM
u are the one that's stupid here...if it were u  that this happened to..will u still trust her..will u not break up with her...u most be crazy for calling me a fool...nonsense what do know about real life..u know nothing idiot..I know more than u thinks....like I said..is like u did not understand that sentence very well...I wrote if they weren't married or have a child together I would have advise her to kick his ass out of her life...mumu..no smart woman will still stay with a lair..who she is not married to or have a child for...mumu..yeah I'm married and I'm not expecting prefection from my husband...because I know he's human like me and can make mistake ..but if it does happen is better he tell me the truth than denying it ..the truth will surly come out one day..so why lie about it....re read the story again...and go kiss an ass..I could careless about what u think about me..phyuk off son of a bitch
go and die !!!
Posted: at 15-07-2014 04:10 PM (6 years ago) | Upcoming
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