African-American Lady Dating A Nigerian Igbo Man Worried He’s Hiding Her From His Family
I have been dating my Igbo guy for 11 months and he has been everything that I wanted in a guy. He communicates with me daily via text/call, we see each other at least 2-3 times a week depending on our work schedule. Last what I love the most is whatever he says he’s going to do he does it. If I need anything he’s there. He does not say I love you often, but he greets me with a kiss every time I see him and he does show affection so I am ok with that.
However my issue is in the 11 months I have known him I have not been to his house, or met any of his family. I know that he works and what he does, but I don’t know where it is located. His mother lives with him right now and he has shared with me that his mother wants him to marry and African woman because his brother married a Jamaican woman and since his parents were in Nigeria at that time they had no say on it.
But now since she lives in the states I assume she wants her opinion to be known. He has shared that he has been getting a lot of backlash from his family about dating an African American woman.
He’s told me that he’s wanted to invite me a couple of times and he would have his mom to cook, but he always changes his mind. His family has impacted at least 50% of his reasons for me not meeting them or visiting his home. I am seeking advice from other African men/women and African American women who have experienced this or know why they are like this.
P.S. He is a citizen now, he obtained his citizenship in 2007 on his own not through marriage. Majority of his family is in the US besides 1 brother and 1 sister. So I am sure he is not trying to scam me, because he has never asked me for a dime.
Posted: at 10-09-2014 04:58 AM (9 years ago) | Newbie
peacemaker1 at 10-09-2014 07:37 AM (9 years ago) (f)
Bebe u may feel loved by ur Igbo guy but he still have doubt abt ur side of true love. I believe he is a mamas pet and he don't want to hurt his parents with ur attitude which u are still keep behind. Well I will advice that you keep been the good girl maybe some day you will introduce to the family . Eleven months is too much at most 2yrs by then he might have seen all u got and he believe u are wife material. He might have suffer from some fake bebe in the past so he wants to take his time.
Posted: at 10-09-2014 07:37 AM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
factfinding at 10-09-2014 08:01 AM (9 years ago) (m)
Bebe u may feel loved by ur Igbo guy but he still have doubt abt ur side of true love. I believe he is a mamas pet and he don't want to hurt his parents with ur attitude which u are still keep behind. Well I will advice that you keep been the good girl maybe some day you will introduce to the family . Eleven months is too much at most 2yrs by then he might have seen all u got and he believe u are wife material. He might have suffer from some fake bebe in the past so he wants to take his time. =============================================================================== You've said it all dear, let her continue to wait and pray with God's approval it will come to pass.
Posted: at 10-09-2014 08:01 AM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
daveobahon at 10-09-2014 08:22 AM (9 years ago) (m)
Bebe u may feel loved by ur Igbo guy but he still have doubt abt ur side of true love. I believe he is a mamas pet and he don't want to hurt his parents with ur attitude which u are still keep behind. Well I will advice that you keep been the good girl maybe some day you will introduce to the family . Eleven months is too much at most 2yrs by then he might have seen all u got and he believe u are wife material. He might have suffer from some fake bebe in the past so he wants to take his time. NOTHING MORE 2 SAY U VE SAID IT ALL
Posted: at 10-09-2014 08:22 AM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
what you said have disqualify you already...you said that he is not going to scam you...........that have already make you an irresponsible woman,if i knows the guy,i will advice him to be very careful..because women like you have evil mind...guys,be very careful on a woman,what you see outside them is not what they have inside of them...
Posted: at 10-09-2014 09:57 AM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
The truth is that igbo men respects their parents so much that it is not so easy for them to bring any woman into their homes and introduce as girl friend. Unless when you are matured enough and wants to get married. My advise is that you bear with him and keep on praying. Be of good character so that whenever he will introduce you to his parents, they will find you to be of good behaviour. Good luck.
Posted: at 10-09-2014 10:14 AM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
"Has he propose to you?" If he has then be patient as he will definitely take you to his people and if not-be steadfast in your prayers if you really love the Guy.It is well with you.
Posted: at 10-09-2014 12:28 PM (9 years ago) | Newbie
leave this child that is still stuck in the tribalistic mentality of the past. I say child because a real man will not trade their happiness for their mother's. Leave this man alone and let him marry his mother. I sense that the way its going to play out is that this man his going to drag you on for some years before he eventually does his mother's wish.By that time, you will have wasted significant time with him and you will be starting from square one. As a woman,you have to realized that time is not on your side if you know what I mean..
Posted: at 10-09-2014 03:31 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
una don start again to criticize igbo people if una want war we will give to u. ur useless boko haram country u can't talk about but here talking ibo people all the time
Posted: at 10-09-2014 04:01 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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