Don't Marry A Man With Potentials – Stella Damasus Advises Ladies

Nollywood actress, Stella Damasus has called on ladies to be careful when choosing a life partner. She complained about the increasing rate of marriage breakups in the society today.

She warned women to strive to keep their homes and advised them against feeling too relaxed in any relationship because it could be dangerous.
The actress further advised that before a lady should profess her love for a guy, she should first investigate the man’s goals in life and weigh them against hers.
Stella noted that it is not a must for a lady to get married to the wealthiest man. According to her, a lady should date a guy who has something meaningful doing for himself.
In her words, “The one thing that I find that is the most reoccurring thing with women is, o he has potential. The truth is, we think that we just meet a man, we fall in love and we want to marry potential. We cannot marry potentials that is why we fall into the issues that we face everyday in marriages.
“Now one thing that I have learnt through experience to people around me is that when you meet a guy, you start to date, you start to fall in love even before you get to that point where he decides to pop the question way before then, your dating period should be a time where you get to know each other. Not what he likes or who his friends are but who he is as a man in terms of his goals in life. If his goals in life do not work with your own, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.”
“First of all, there are some questions that I know are very important to ask when it comes to you being with a guy. You want to know what his goals are, who he wants to be but that is not enough. You must make sure that he must be doing something to achieve those goals.
“Another point is, what does he do? If you want to marry a man, he must not be all wealthy or big or must be perfect because there is perfect person, but he must be doing something, he must have focus, something should wake him up in the morning and get him excited to want to do something.
“He doesn’t need to have all the money in the world, he doesn’t even need to have started the business he is doing, but at least see that he is putting plans together, he is meeting people, he is going out there. How does he address himself, how does he represent himself?
“A man without a brand is no man to marry o, I am being very serious. Everyman is a brand in his own right even a man that wants to be a shoe maker. Not people who sit in their house everyday with their huge dreams,” she added.
She further disclosed that she once dated a man who wanted to be a celebrity but never stepped out of the house except at night where he goes to club and parties with the expectation of meeting of meeting people without branding himself and having what to sell to his potential helpers.

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Posted: at 19-02-2015 11:13 AM (9 years ago) | Hero

“The one thing that I find that is the most reoccurring thing with women is, o he has potential. The truth is, we think that we just meet a man, we fall in love and we want to marry potential. We cannot marry potentials that is why we fall into the issues that we face everyday in marriages.
“Now one thing that I have learnt through experience to people around me is that when you meet a guy, you start to date, you start to fall in love even before you get to that point where he decides to pop the question way before then, your dating period should be a time where you get to know each other. Not what he likes or who his friends are but who he is as a man in terms of his goals in life. If his goals in life do not work with your own, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.”
“First of all, there are some questions that I know are very important to ask when it comes to you being with a guy. You want to know what his goals are, who he wants to be but that is not enough. You must make sure that he must be doing something to achieve those goals.
“Another point is, what does he do? If you want to marry a man, he must not be all wealthy or big or must be perfect because there is perfect person, but he must be doing something, he must have focus, something should wake him up in the morning and get him excited to want to do something.
“He doesn’t need to have all the money in the world, he doesn’t even need to have started the business he is doing, but at least see that he is putting plans together, he is meeting people, he is going out there. How does he address himself, how does he represent himself?
“A man without a brand is no man to marry o, I am being very serious. Everyman is a brand in his own right even a man that wants to be a shoe maker. Not people who sit in their house everyday with their huge dreams,”


Is that the reason why you go after other woman's man?

Posted: at 19-02-2015 12:14 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming

Stella stella stella .how many times did i call u?hmmm anyway i dnt wonna judge u,who r my to judge u self.a sinner like me.

Posted: at 19-02-2015 12:32 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Whatever

Posted: at 19-02-2015 01:53 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Nice one

Posted: at 19-02-2015 03:05 PM (9 years ago) | Hero

stella, stella, stella. How many times did i call you, DON'T SAY THIS AGAIN Ooo... Nigerian men will be very angry with you Oo.. All they do is sleep and wake up and talk about Politics wey them no fet gain anything from. And most of them are the ones who shout out to you as a fan, So by saying this you may be loosing some of them Oo..
Nigerian Men knows all things, but they can't even do a minor of it. They are the biggest dreamer with no actual thing doing, At the end of the day they come out and blame government. May God have us.
This your post makes me remember one of my friend back then WHO IS A GOOD DREAMER. He is the only one who knows everything and put everything in place, But he is doing all this in his so called vision because he never make any attempt on all the very wonderful vision he so much talk about.
And i fear this is the case with most men in Nigeria, Most are wise enough to make things happen, But talking of govt. and the situation in the country had surpress all they can do for themselves... I pray God take us out of the slavery we are in Nigeria and take us higher...

Posted: at 19-02-2015 07:50 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming

Hmmm

Posted: at 19-02-2015 08:17 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming

Ok

Posted: at 19-02-2015 10:49 PM (9 years ago) | Hero

Posted: at 20-02-2015 09:10 AM (9 years ago) | Newbie

ok i heard.

Posted: at 20-02-2015 09:32 AM (9 years ago) | Upcoming