Love is so simple yet complex in many ways. We young people talk about love and going into a relationship based on our feelings, but I find that older people talk about love as mostly a choice. My question is, when we fall in love, do we decide to, or do we just fall in love based on how we feel? Or is it a mixture of both? And if so, which precedes the other?
For those who argue that love is more of a decision, you consciously decide to express it to someone, and they cite 1 Corinthians 13 as an example. If Love is based purely on feelings, then one could easily ‘fall in’ and ‘fall out’ of love, leading to high divorce rates ;and as humans, we can’t easily control our feelings, but we can decide to continue to love regardless of our feelings.
For those who say love is more of a feeling, you don’t decide to love sb. You just do. It comes naturally. And what happens when you stop deciding? If we could decide who we loved, it would be much simpler but less magical.
My opinion. It’s a mix of both, but I think it is more of a feeling than a decision, and the feeling precedes the decision. Sometimes you love sb you don’t even want to love. The decision merely sustains the love. So if you’ve loved, or have been loved, or even if u haven’t, and u’re mature enough to understand the concept of love, share your views, experiences, delusions etc.
Posted: at 10-01-2010 10:36 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
For those who argue that love is more of a decision, you consciously decide to express it to someone, and they cite 1 Corinthians 13 as an example. If Love is based purely on feelings, then one could easily ‘fall in’ and ‘fall out’ of love, leading to high divorce rates ;and as humans, we can’t easily control our feelings, but we can decide to continue to love regardless of our feelings.
For those who say love is more of a feeling, you don’t decide to love sb. You just do. It comes naturally. And what happens when you stop deciding? If we could decide who we loved, it would be much simpler but less magical.
My opinion. It’s a mix of both, but I think it is more of a feeling than a decision, and the feeling precedes the decision. Sometimes you love sb you don’t even want to love. The decision merely sustains the love. So if you’ve loved, or have been loved, or even if u haven’t, and u’re mature enough to understand the concept of love, share your views, experiences, delusions etc.
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Posted: at 10-01-2010 10:38 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
diplomatik at 11-01-2010 05:56 AM (14 years ago) (f)
i can't express or explain the concept..its vastly too wide for my knowledge..if i say i understood it..it will be a lie..i just work with what i gathered
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Posted: at 11-01-2010 05:56 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
this is a wide topic that if we start on it we will talk about it for eternity and neva come up with decision as to a precise definition or explanation. love is a feeling that leads to a decision which can be good for a while or a long time and turn sour later for there is no life long love cos love can turn u to suegbe. it is a feeling that make u do silly things that is not accepted as normal in d real world. no one can practice the biblical definition of love in this day and age - the biblical definition of love encompasses behaviours that human beings been what we are cannot follow
Posted: at 11-01-2010 10:17 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
i thinking feelings comes before decision though love is a feeling at d same time u can decide to love someone or hate.so in other words love comprises of both.
Posted: at 12-01-2010 12:19 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
kevin2010 at 13-01-2010 04:17 PM (14 years ago) (m)
It is when the feeling comes that u start thinking or take decision to fall in love.There4, feeling, decision & love can not be separated. The three forces comes together to work as one.
Posted: at 13-01-2010 04:17 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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