Does your husband know how much you have?

Left for Helen, she would have loved to be open and plain to her husband who happens to be the second man in her life. But following the treachery that turned her against her first husband and father of her only three children, she decided to keep sealed lips on anything private about her.


Doherty

Helen was thrown out of her first matrimonial home after she opened an account in favor of her husband. Before long, her husband started flirting around with strange girls. To cut the story short, he impregnated one of them and brought her in. He then started maltreating Helen.

Since she has lost confidence in him she decided to go on with life and re-married. Having wealthy parents, things bounced back for her and she lives fine again determined never to trust any man. She now runs her business alone and manages her bank accounts without her husband knowing how much she is worth.

Can you tell your husband know how much you’re worth?

BIMPE DOHERTY

Yes, but this depends on the kind of husband I have. In other words, if he doesn’t use what I have against me. Some husbands, immediately after they discover you are richer than them, will stop performing their responsibilities in the home.

They would not want to drop money to take care of anything anymore thinking “after all she has got so much money than I, her husband. Let her shoulder part of my responsibilities, after all we are helpers of each other.

MRS. TOYIN AKINGBESOTE

Yes he knows how much I have. He knows my worth and the assets I have. Though we don’t share the same account, he knows my ATM account number . So far we love each other and there is no cause for alarm. Nothing would happen whether I declare my assets to him or not. The only thing I know quite well is that I cannot share the same account with him but there is nothing bad if he knows how much I’m worth.

MRS. JOSEPH

Yes, he knows everything about me and how much I’m worth.

Most men today are not considerate and sincere with their wives. They are not interested in true love. They are gold diggers.

Many men, after discovering the worth of their wives, look for means to eliminate them, or dupe them.

But for me, nothing stops me from telling my husband how much I have … both in cash and fixed assets. It also depends on my observations.

There are some couples who have been married for four or five years but have not really discovered each other so well. The husband cannot vouch for his wife on certain things and vise-versa. They still nurse fear inside of them.

Some men on the other hand, married their wives because of their parents’ wealth.

Not all women would declare how much they are worth to their husbands. It is just like making your will and even exposing it to the beneficiary before it is read. We all know that such a thing could lead to a murder attempt on the owner of the will . We have heard true stories of this, and so I believe nothing is impossible especially when it comes to money and other material things.

MRS. O. WILLIAMS

I will say yes, but it also depends on the kind of man he is. Without being sentimental, I’ll say not all men are the same. But if he is the type that opens up to me concerning his wealth, business and investments, I will surely do like-wise. If he is not, I’d rather keep sealed lips.

AYEESHAT

Well, let me say to an extent it is good to be open with one’s spouse.

I will rather say yes, because what ever belongs to me belongs to him and vise-versa.

If we cannot be open to each other, it means we are living a dangerous life.

If a woman is reluctant to declare her assets to her husband it means she really can’t confide in him and she feels unsafe with him or his relatives. It may also be that she is afraid something terrible might happen in the long run…so don’t blame her.

MRS. AFOLABI

No. I don’t think it is necessary I disclose my assets to him especially when I can’t understand some things happening in the home or I fear something might happen. As long as we all are human beings, anything could happen which may make the man maltreat you and knowing what you are worth, he may use it against you. What would you do to such a man? Nothing of course can be done, because he is believed to be the head of the family, and he is never seen as accountable in whatsoever he does.

So, I would rather advise that you know the kind of husband you have before going ahead to put your entire trust in him. You won’t regret this at the end of the day.

MRS. SOLESI

Authoritatively I can say yes.

I do not see reasons why women should hide things from their husbands.

No matter what, you have been pronounced husband and wife, although things may not remain smooth all through in marriage, but I think love should be able to make the difference here.

There is nothing I do without my husband’s knowledge. We understand each other quite well and you would discover that a secret is best kept by husbands and wives.

MRS. RUTH EZE

No. For security reasons I would like to keep that aspect to myself.

We might think it is easy to put our total trust in a man, but I am telling you that it is risky. Everything we do is risky, only God knows the future. If only God could reveal to us what is far ahead of us, many people I think would not have embarked on many things they have done. Likewise in this situation, we only know of what a man has done, what he is doing, but we are not aware of what he could do. We are totally strangers living with each other. Only God and the belief that love conquers all reassures us that all will be well.

I can only tell him part of what I have, not everything. An adage says only the foolish tells all he has inside of him. The wise will on a good day have reservations for another day.