My estranged wife is back with AIDS

In 2003, I divorced my wife after 20 years of wedlock with seven children. She went ahead to marry someone else and divorced again.

Now, she is back to me but the problem is that she tested positive to HIV/AIDS and till now, we have not had sex together. Though she is receiving treatment for typhoid fever, we have not told her because the test was secretly carried out. She used to be a very fat woman but she is getting slimmer daily. What do I do?

A.S, Kaduna.

Then contact a well-respected member of her family immediately. Why? If anything goes wrong with her health, everyone points fingers at you, even if it is obvious that she is HIV positive.

On the other hand, I believe she came back to you for help, which she knows you can render. To have had seven kids from a marriage means a lot and I believe you have to help her for the children’s sakes. That you accepted her back is highly commendable and I am sure the children would appreciate you for this.

Why not go steps further by allowing the doctor disclose her HIV status to her, so that she can access proper treatment and get medications? Treating her for typhoid fever when it is known to be HIV/AIDS related is criminal and dangerous. There is nothing new under the sun and I am sure with enough care and love from you and the children, she could get better