What will u do if a guy tells u, his parents are first in his heart

hmmmm, he likes his parents more than you, abi. Then, no big deal

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Posted: at 14-04-2010 03:52 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

b4 ukor...no b ur family first b4 any persin

Posted: at 14-04-2010 04:25 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

na who b dat?

Posted: at 14-04-2010 09:06 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

just need a sincere reply

Posted: at 14-04-2010 09:23 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

please for all the ladies, dont get pregnant till you are married if not the guy will think you are trying to trap him and then he will start letting you know of all his responsibilities that come before you.

Posted: at 14-04-2010 11:16 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

naaaaaaaaaahhh
by all the possible drops of blood christ nd all matyrs shed i ain't putting my toes in those shoes.
it's two ways only though: stick it through or take a walk.

Posted: at 14-04-2010 11:30 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

I'm just going to tell you what I think. If the husband here tells the wife his family -mother, father, etc. come first in his heart even if the mother in law is a nagger, and irritates you give of yourself....accept what he said if you want to make it work. If you are generous of yourself and do the best that you can to keep the mother in law happy, your husband will be happy. Also keep in mind, any small little thing you do for the family is like giving charity and will benefit yourself in the long run. You will be blessed for all you do...Your husband is the head of the house, and his feelings should be respected...but at same time, marriage is also a compromise and a wise husband if he sees how hard you are trying will learn to bend....and no matter how difficult it is do it with a smile and from your heart....

I was thinking tonight on my way home from hospital how best to make my future husband's mother happy as I really do want her to be comfortable and happy because if she is, then I know my husband will be happy which in turn will make me happy as well and our family will reap the benefits of his joy...

Posted: at 16-04-2010 05:33 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie

To be honest understanding comes first, but if he really says his parent comes first you should understand the fact that those are the people hes being with for so many years, not forgetting them easily reflects that hes a responsible type that does not easy forgo his foundations and background. On the flip side, if hes just all 'about you' and forgets his family e.t.c - you should be scared.... really scared incase something goes wrong someday..... if he could relegate his family easily then it might be easier to delete you.

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Posted: at 16-04-2010 08:01 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

The husband is not the head of the house Jesus Christ is. If this husband know that he is second in command then he would tell his wife this stupidity. No one is telling him not to love his parents or sibling but putting them before his wife is wrong. If he know his obligation then those words wouldn't come from his mouth.

What this lady has to do is read and apply Proverbs 31 in her life. Jesus Christ will give her all the strength she need to have a peaceful, loving and healthy married life. She allow cannot do what she wanted to do.

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Posted: at 16-04-2010 10:36 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Correction He wouldn't tell his wife. She alone (allow) cannot.

The bible says that a man should leave his parents home and cling to his wife. This doesn't mean that he should desert his family members but in the same breathe the man shouldn't abandon his wife because of his family members either. There has to be a balance. What this wife need to do is understand her role in the household and this is where Proverbs 31 comes in.

None of us can run our lives without Christ help and it is time we come to acknowledge this. Whatever relationship her husband has with his family she should not get involved in it. Whether it be a love/hate one that isn't her business. Her role is to run her husband household there he should be happy. Putting herself in between is wrong.

Some mother-in-law does it. I remember my ex Mother asking him if both of us were drowning who he would save. He told her me from that day she hated me. I still played my role has a daughter in law to her. I don't care why he said that but he has his reasons that is where both of them should trash it out. Daughters and son in laws must know that their role is not to be equal with the parents or sibling. Their roles is to love the individual in their lives and care for them.

My advice to this young lady is to support and care for her husband and forget this distraction that come across as being unhealthy for her. Read Proverbs 31.

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Posted: at 16-04-2010 10:50 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac