“Domestic Violence Isn’t A Result Of Provocation,” Writer And Ex-victim, Mercy Makinde

Published 10 months ago by: kaygee
at 12:45 PM, 27/11/2018 (10 months ago)

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Writer and Ex-victim of domestic violence as lend a voice to the assumption that provocation is what led to domestic abuse most time, she explained that an abuser is wicked and should not use provocation as an excuse for committing the act, this is what she wrote on Instagram

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The picture on the left is me 12 years ago! Then a Victim now a Victor! .
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I am one of the few fortunate to be alive. Some left in a body bag and while many still suffer Domestic violence because it remains widespread and is often considered "socially acceptable” in Nigeria. .
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This is the reason family, friends and even some religious bodies do not see domestic violence as such a big deal. They believe it’s the outcome of provocation and admonish victims never to annoy their abusers . But these abusers don’t hit their bosses or colleagues who provoke them at work . They exercise restraints! .

Domestic Violence IS NOT A RESULT OF PROVOCATION. I’m writing this in capital letters and I hope it sinks in! Violence and Abuse is a tool used to enforce control, power and fear in a relationship or marriage and not a momentary expression of anger.
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So stop judging victims by saying they were battered because of an imagined, perceived or rumored wrong or asking them annoying questions like “what did you do that made him beat you”. Questions like these are unintelligent and insensitive.
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Violence against women isn't cultural, its criminal. Real men don't use violence! We must all join hands to eliminate violence against women and girls. Our women must feel and know that they are not alone! .

There is NO EXCUSE for Violence Against Women. And yes, no excuse for violence against men either.
Don't justify it....don't judge them!
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I am a Victim turned Victor ready to help other victims. Join in , let's make a difference! .

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Knowman at 01:56 PM, 27/11/2018 (10 months ago)
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It's a stupid thing for a man to put his hands on a woman ,no reason should he . But all these ladies that claim domestic violence, I have dated most of them in USA.  They will tell me how innocent they are before the man touched them. Few weeks in relationship,  they will start manifesting their color . The last one will create fight where there is no fight , yell ,broke the TVs like for nothing . She told me how broken and depressed she was one day and said she will destroy the house, I made a video of that and sent her away. Most of them not all are crazy. Dont touch ladies please
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DatSamii at 02:52 AM, 28/11/2018 (10 months ago)
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