How do I handle this problem?

There is this gal I met few months ago and I was asking her out but she keeps telling me to hold on and give her a chance. She loves me but cant tell me that. Now I met another gal who is also cute and lovely and I fell in Love with her. Now the first gal is saying she is ready for me but I can leave the other one cos we just started I love her. I also dont know how to tell the first I have gotten another gal. The only thing in mind now is to double date. Pls advice

Posted: at 12-05-2010 10:54 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

What makes U feel she loves U but can't tell U?

"The only thing now is to double date?"

Hmmm...
Anyway, the first girl probably had another guy she fancied more than U asking her out as at the time U were doing so. That could have been the reason she was keeping U on ice. U myt have been a second option; the one she would fall back on if what she wanted didnt come trough.

Maybe the other guy was sleek and made a fast break for something she gave and went cold turkey on her afterwards?

Maybe the guy didnt want her like she wanted him to?

Maybe the guy hasnt spoken up yet and she's just not comfy with letting go of her alternative if disappointed by the real desire?

Maybe she's just a confused girl and ther is no other guy; or she just doesnt feel u on the dating level and isnt sure she's ready for that scene?

Why would U want to double date? Would that be fair on the person Ur with who saw U and wasnt uncertain when she said yes to U? U want to eat ur cake and have it?

Posted: at 12-05-2010 11:24 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

If U were me a closed chapter would be a closed chapter. It's dangerous to "force" a girl into a relationship with U. Sadly that's the way most of us guys do it, and when she wakes up one morning and tells u she never realy loved U and doesn't want to be with U you anymore U feel like U've wasted too much on her to let go then U start struggling to keep her and things get worse until she cheats or smth and Ur world feels like sh*t u have to get out of.

One girl willingly wants to be with U and the other has been uncertain bout being with U ever since U started pursuing her. U no know say e get places for jungle wey hunter no dey follow animal enter no matter how hungry him and him family dey?

The way i see it, by the time u decide to make it a triangle of confusion and the second girl (if she has any sense of worth) finds out and leaves U, the 1st would return to her confusion then you'd be left with none.

Maybe U sef never ready to date. Don't be silly ok?

Posted: at 12-05-2010 11:31 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Posted: at 12-05-2010 11:35 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

lol date both of dem!! peace out

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Posted: at 12-05-2010 05:37 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

Speak to ur pastor.lol

Posted: at 12-05-2010 06:53 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

broz! take ur time becos e be like say u wan be 2face.

Posted: at 12-05-2010 08:18 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

you dont love either of them. if you wish to double date this is your chance (even though i dont support that). you cannot suffer heart break only embarrassment.

Posted: at 12-05-2010 09:03 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

double dating? hmmm, double trouble

Posted: at 12-05-2010 11:56 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I dey come

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Posted: at 13-05-2010 01:32 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac