"How Our African Parents Destroyed Our Lives" - Toke Makinwa Shames Parents

Date: 12-01-2020 11:13 pm (4 years ago) | Author: Daniel Bosai
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Toke Makinwa has criticized “all” African parents, dubbing them the “worst in the world” for “ruining lives” with unorthodox child-raising values.

The 35-year-old OAP took to a recent episode of her vlog where she vented her grievances about the parenting values among many African families which she said are “screwing up” lives.

Makinwa also spoke on issues spanning parents’ intolerance for opposite-sex friendship, their dictative stance on career choices, as well as their “penchant” for instilling fear in children.

“Thanks to African parents for ruining our lives. Growing up in an African home, there are certain things we never had the balls to say. Even now, I’m 35. I still can’t stand up to my parents,” she said.

“African parents are the worst set of parents in the whole wide world. You never have an option on things that are coming in an African home. As a child, you’re told what to read in school.

“They don’t tell you what you’re good at but what they think you should be doing. It’s like, ‘I want to have a doctor, so my child must read medicine.’ Even if you do shit in maths, you’ll be an accountant.

“African parents don’t apologize. They’re never wrong. Doesn’t that bother you? How dare you say they are wrong? You almost become less confident because of the scoldings of an African mother.”

While addressing her relationship with her parents, Makinwa said she still looks away when sex scenes play out on TV in the presence of her mother — even at the age of 35.

She added that the failure of African parents to discuss matters regarding sex and their prohibitory stance on having boyfriends has caused many to have relationship problems in adulthood.

“Our parents have sex. But we can’t envision it. Things happened to me: If a boy calls you on the phone or writes a love letter, you’re finished! Going to church? We did it because they wanted us to,” she added.

“They told us to stay away from boys. We did for so long that we don’t have boyfriends. But when you’re older and are yet to marry, they call all sorts of pastors to pray for you. Something is wrong!”

Although she decried the harsh terms to which many African parents subject their wards, Toke agreed that many would have gone astray if such reservedness and deprivations weren’t in place.


Posted: at 12-01-2020 11:13 PM (4 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- dopygenius at 12-01-2020 11:40 PM (4 years ago)
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Now that you are grown up and exposed,is time you teach ur own parents your own kind of way
Posted: at 12-01-2020 11:40 PM (4 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- DrSoba at 13-01-2020 05:06 AM (4 years ago)
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"Toke agreed that many would have gone astray if such reservedness and deprivations weren’t in place"
This woman or girl is confuse.
Posted: at 13-01-2020 05:06 AM (4 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Noah147 at 13-01-2020 08:55 AM (4 years ago)
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Mine did a fabulous job,speak for your self .your parent might be useless and the worst but mine did just fine. Thank you
Posted: at 13-01-2020 08:55 AM (4 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- jahlovesme at 13-01-2020 10:20 AM (4 years ago)
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have got a good parent maybe yours are problematic
Posted: at 13-01-2020 10:20 AM (4 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Abadiba at 13-01-2020 10:56 AM (4 years ago)
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The lazy one who is infected with inferiority complex will always condemn his or her own when his or her eyes is on another man's own. It is a world wild know thing that African parents and parenting ways are the best. Did u actually graduate or are u a road side actress. U cn never see anything good on ur own even when the world applauds it. There is difference from beaurocratic tenets of parenting and natural parenting. Natural parenting is even what Trump the USA president is currently advocating for. Talking abt Parents, sex, and offsprings, the resultant effect is future family, when u consider that, the western world hv more divorce problems, single mothers more than we do in Africa. I really don't know why u say this. Mandela, Chinua Achebe, Omotala, Jenevive Nnaji, and a whole lot of other stars and shakers of the whole world are products of African parents.
That u all never value ur own is ur personal problem. PLS do nth generalize it.
Posted: at 13-01-2020 10:56 AM (4 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Kormeijama at 13-01-2020 11:37 AM (4 years ago)
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This little girl is a curse to mankind.  she is one of those fake wanna bees, useless and poverty of the mind. She's a fake in every aspect of her life. Our parents are  the best in the world , hopefully yours did theirs. For  you the European culture is the best regard34elss, and your dress codes  and social behaviors are loud testimonies of that. You're a joke and crooked brainless  being. May you be always  shamed for  trying to denigrate our  priceless parents. You sheepish nincompoop
Posted: at 13-01-2020 11:37 AM (4 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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