I have been bugged by this incessant urge to know why. it's been bothering my mind and has kept me hanging in the air, making me unbalanced and hiding the truth from me...so i resolved to get the answer from my fellow Naijapals....please be sincere and feel free to drop your comment.....
I met her five years ago, though most time we lost our contact due to loss of phone or unforseen circumstances.but we have actually gotten back together and are doing fine as lovers. i love her so much as much as she claims to love me so much, but has not said it yet.
now we happen to be separated by distance in a quest for a greener pasture after our school. for two years now, i have kept my phone busy calling her every day, sending those text message that will reaffirm my undying love for her and have visited her a couple of times. but she has never expressed her love for me, except during the last time i visited her and took her out; she took my right hand and scribbled "I LUV YOU" on it on purpose. apart from it, i have not received a phone call, text message, cards, or any sort of manner, materially or immaterially that says of her love for me. if i don't call her, then i shouldn't expect her calls for she's never calling. each time i try to know why, she'll tell me that she's fine and should trust her. even to her response of I lOVE you which we guys say before we end a phone call with our lover is THANK YOU"....it keeps me wondering if she trully loves me.....guys, babes what do you think?
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Posted: at 27-08-2010 12:29 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
bittersweet at 27-08-2010 12:34 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Hm! Hard to say precisely! Normally, if she would, she should have showed it by now!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 27-08-2010 12:34 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
I think she's keeping U on ice. Perhaps U are the alternative to what she really wants. U messed up by showering her with love she doesn't seem to have been showing a craving for or a healthy appreciation for. U oversupplied, thereby devaluing the commodity U prize so much.
U want my advice? Retreat. Take a break. Pull Ur heart out of its involvement with her totally or as much as U can and then see what happens. U'l either get her the way u want her or loose her and if U do loose her then U'd be sure it was not going to happen anyway.
Girls hardly ever function properly in relationships when there's a distance they can't jump up at will and cover without having to think much about it. There are possibilities in that that she is involved with someone else.
Posted: at 27-08-2010 01:16 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
ogpatric at 27-08-2010 02:37 PM (13 years ago) (m)
I've gathered with much ecstacy the interesting advises and suggestions my fellow Naijapals have got to give...i really appreciate it and hope to use my experience to help a pal that might run into a similar rut as mine.....but to clarify my honourable pals who suggested i should give her a break and know what she's up to....that i had done and it spanned two months, but nothings positive or better still a change of mind didn't seem to come from her.In fear of losing her completely, i started with vigor, much vigor that would take five guys to pull a truck to convince her of what might have caused the silence i established..And this is a girl i've waited on, cherished, trusted, adored,inspired and loved for five fated years....it's hard to leave your first love and leaving her would and could hurt me and alter my perception of women for worse.........more advise is welcomed......
Posted: at 27-08-2010 02:37 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
I think she's keeping U on ice. Perhaps U are the alternative to what she really wants. U messed up by showering her with love she doesn't seem to have been showing a craving for or a healthy appreciation for. U oversupplied, thereby devaluing the commodity U prize so much.
U want my advice? Retreat. Take a break. Pull Ur heart out of its involvement with her totally or as much as U can and then see what happens. U'l either get her the way u want her or loose her and if U do loose her then U'd be sure it was not going to happen anyway.
Girls hardly ever function properly in relationships when there's a distance they can't jump up at will and cover without having to think much about it. There are possibilities in that that she is involved with someone else.
I quite agree with Onchedu, we the ladies can express our feelings or emotions when in love or vice-versa, if she loves u, she wud ve shown or said it to u, so my guess is that she's not into u.
Posted: at 27-08-2010 03:51 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
I have been bugged by this incessant urge to know why. it's been bothering my mind and has kept me hanging in the air, making me unbalanced and hiding the truth from me...so i resolved to get the answer from my fellow Naijapals....please be sincere and feel free to drop your comment.....
I met her five years ago, though most time we lost our contact due to loss of phone or unforseen circumstances.but we have actually gotten back together and are doing fine as lovers. i love her so much as much as she claims to love me so much, but has not said it yet.
now we happen to be separated by distance in a quest for a greener pasture after our school. for two years now, i have kept my phone busy calling her every day, sending those text message that will reaffirm my undying love for her and have visited her a couple of times. but she has never expressed her love for me, except during the last time i visited her and took her out; she took my right hand and scribbled "I LUV YOU" on it on purpose. apart from it, i have not received a phone call, text message, cards, or any sort of manner, materially or immaterially that says of her love for me. if i don't call her, then i shouldn't expect her calls for she's never calling. each time i try to know why, she'll tell me that she's fine and should trust her. even to her response of I lOVE you which we guys say before we end a phone call with our lover is THANK YOU"....it keeps me wondering if she trully loves me.....guys, babes what do you think?
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de ealry u learn to live without her, de better for u..BACK OFF
CHILDREN ARE BORN BUT MEN ARE MADE;THE GOLD THAT WILL BE REFINED MUST PASS THROUGH THE FURNACE.WORDS
Posted: at 27-08-2010 03:58 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
igbonnanna at 27-08-2010 04:13 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Brother,
I am not a regular writer but a reader of most contributions made by reasonable people here. A lot are turn offs, but on this issue, all the commentators here sound reasonable.
Ochendo summarized it for you and more interestingly from the ladies mouths.
Experience had it that this ur girl may have somebody she needs but hold you as spare in case the light dims.
It depends on what you want in your life. Marriage is not dating, but TOGETHERNESS in raw form, day-in-day-out. It is not a limited affair but a limitless commitment. If you love her more than she does and worst of it, not ready to show remorse. For sure, she has her faults and good sides, but young man, open your eyes.
A word is enough for the wise.
Take care and bye for now.
From the Igboman Munich, Germany
Posted: at 27-08-2010 04:13 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Guy, I don't buy into her idea that she loves you even she haven't think about calling you or send you text messages to affirm her love for you... All the same i advice you be more intelligent to know her love languages as she may love you as she often claimed.
Posted: at 27-08-2010 04:44 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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