May I refer those who cares to know to read my advice to Rose Gabriel underneath her complaint - 1st page.
Underexposure and myopic is a disease. What this lady did is very normal and natural all over the world. Who is not interested to have a successful person as partner? This guy is a German diplomat. Many Kenyans and other African ladies had married this way.
Those who love money of a person, just get some tips and not the bulk. Who tries luck and wins, wins the bulk, and that could happen through marriage or strong and honest relationship, unless you are a dirty crook.
I would never like to date a girl twice who I notice is after my money. No matter how she plays the game, a sceptical person like me would fairly find out, at least often times.
I am disappointed with some Nigerians here who accuse this lady of wrong doing. More surprisingly from fellow women, who blame her, advise her why not go for the money, and bla bla bla. Anyway, this is what is obtainable in a country like Nigeria where rule of law is non-existent. May be, these people judge the world from that their environment they live.
She only needs information, facts and figures to work with, and present it correctly and at the appropriate quarters, and she will get redressed. She must not marry the man to have a baby, but she can one hundred per cent get a child support which is not a small money until the child is 18 years.
This is a law that is OPERATIONAL AND NORMAL in Germany, not in our Nigeria. She can stay in Nigeria and still get the law to her favour.
Her approach now, first making it open through the press, second the use of "well-informed and if possible Overseas educated lawyers practicing in Nigeria", third the use of the information available, presenting the complaints at the appropriate offices, and follow it up. It may take long time, but it MUST work at the end of the tunnel.
What is important here is not the right of the lady, but the right of the child, which we ignore in Africa in general.
I am sure that those who does not understand the workable "rule of law" will definitely misunderstand my writing.
Lady Rose, you are the correct babe. I like your wits and guts. Fight on!
For us in Nigeria to develop and survive:
WE NEED CRITICAL THINKING NOT DOGMA.
WE NEED TO HAVE OPEN-MINDEDNESS IN COMMUNICATION NOT DISTRUST AND DECEITS.
WE NEED INFORMATION AND JOB NOT BLIND FAITH.
WE NEED REASON AND DEEPER REASONING, NOT REVELATIONS AND RELIGION ONLY
WE NEED EDUCATION, INDUSTRY AND TECHNOLOGY TO WORK NOT PRAYER ONLY.
WE NEED TOLERANCE, LOVE AND PASSION FOR OUR CITIZENS NOT HATRED AND SELF CRITICISM.
WE NEED SUITABLE DEMOCRACY AND STRONG INSTITUTIONS NOT AUTOCRACY AND BIG MAN SYNDROME
WE NEED SCEPTISM NOT PENTECOSTALISM.
So the blending of information, education, science, socio-economic, cultural, religions and technological disciplines is necessary
Thank you and bye once again.
From
Chris,
a Nigerian resident in Germany.
Posted: at 27-09-2010 08:21 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac |
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