my love

Date: 28-10-2010 8:23 am (11 years ago) | Author: [email protected]
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- at 28-10-2010 08:23 AM (11 years ago)
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i fall in love with this lady we dated for 7yrs b4 i desides to get married to her though have not done white wedding,on january i told her that i'm travelling to china on business trip that i wil spend only 1month but i intended to stay 2yrs. after some mnths she started persuading me to come back and i told her i'm coming back next year and she told  me she can'nt wait anymore for me,rigth now she is not in my house though she said she is with her sister in ph,plz advice me what to do,my reason of overstaying is to beefup the family's financial startute.again she is a woman i want to spend my whole life with,i love her very much.

Posted: at 28-10-2010 08:23 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
- oyindabty at 28-10-2010 08:37 AM (11 years ago)
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WHY NOT COM BACK AND BEEF-UP THE FAMILY FINANCIAL STATUS HERE IN NAIJA ABI DEM TELL YOU SAY MONEY NO DEY OUR COUNTRY? YOU BETTER DO THAT FAST IF NOT SHE WILL LEAVE YOU BIG TIME
Posted: at 28-10-2010 08:37 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- justceetah at 28-10-2010 08:47 AM (11 years ago)
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Go on with ur business until u're free to come to town.If she loves u she'll wait 4 u but if she don't she'll leave.U can't abandon ur job 4 her cos if u lose ur job,u'll lose her as well

Posted: at 28-10-2010 08:47 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- qunodinga at 28-10-2010 08:49 AM (11 years ago)
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i pass
Posted: at 28-10-2010 08:49 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- oyindabty at 28-10-2010 08:54 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: justceetah on 28-10-2010 08:47 AM
Go on with ur business until u're free to come to town.If she loves u she'll wait 4 u but if she don't she'll leave.U can't abandon ur job 4 her cos if u lose ur job,u'll lose her as well


I GUESS YOU DID NOT READ THE PASSAGE VER WELL. HE LIED TO HER IN THE FIRST PLACE CAN'T YOU SEE THAT? " i told her that i'm travelling to china on business trip that i wil spend only 1month but i intended to stay 2yrs. after some mnths she started persuading me to come back and i told her i'm coming back next year".
Posted: at 28-10-2010 08:54 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- qunodinga at 28-10-2010 08:58 AM (11 years ago)
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ok.....till next year now!
Posted: at 28-10-2010 08:58 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Ballsy at 28-10-2010 08:59 AM (11 years ago)
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i'm a realist and i bliv justceetah has said it all. if she cares, she'll stay cos if u'vntgot d money...she wont stay. however, much as i wouldnt want her 2 suffer unnecessarily by marrying her and going back but kip callin her 2 remain close 2 her.however, if she wants more, she shud look elsewhere...
Posted: at 28-10-2010 08:59 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- justceetah at 28-10-2010 09:01 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: qunodinga on 28-10-2010 08:58 AM
ok.....till next year now!
ok,i copy u
@oyind, u're right
@poster,take some time off and come to town to sort things out

Posted: at 28-10-2010 09:01 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sixtyhoneyy at 28-10-2010 09:06 AM (11 years ago)
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no comment
Posted: at 28-10-2010 09:06 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- jukkiebukwes at 28-10-2010 09:06 AM (11 years ago)
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y did u lie to her in the first place? if u actually want to settle down with her, u should have told her your plans...y d deceit? leaving her in the dark has changed her mind abt u, and trust me, a million and one things will be going tru her mind. what if she waits and at d end of d day u disappoint her? i dont blame her if she decides to move on. U cant eat ur cake and have it.
Posted: at 28-10-2010 09:06 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- justceetah at 28-10-2010 09:20 AM (11 years ago)
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Ok lets be real here.Poster ur intentions 4 her/her family r good and i understand dat u're trying to impress/surprise her but sometimes things doesn't work d way we planned them.I think it would've been better if u tell her ur intentions alone and keep her family out of it.Let d surprise b 4 d family n not 4 her cos if u keep hiding things 4rm her,then u myt lose d trust she have 4 u

Posted: at 28-10-2010 09:20 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- jukkiebukwes at 28-10-2010 09:27 AM (11 years ago)
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now u are talking
Posted: at 28-10-2010 09:27 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Emmandazie at 28-10-2010 10:05 AM (11 years ago)
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@poster. "A stitch in time saves nine" U deliberately failed to inform her of ur duration to prepare her physiologically for the long wait. There are jobs in Nigeria & doubt if she was complaining of low income at home. Since U greatly love & need her, make ur choice btn work over there without her or work here with her. If not, why not sacrifice to take her along?
Posted: at 28-10-2010 10:05 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ade_su_wa at 28-10-2010 10:30 AM (11 years ago)
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they've   said   it   all.....No   comment
Posted: at 28-10-2010 10:30 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Pepesy at 28-10-2010 10:55 AM (11 years ago)
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Poster,,, u re very very wicked by lieing 2 her. U did nt remember 2 go 2 china within 7yrs of courtship only 4 u 2 deceive her after involving her family yet u claim u luv her so much,,,is it fair??? What is d possbility dat u re gonna comback after 2yrs since u first lied 4 1month??? What guarantee dat she is nt gonna loose u 2 another woman 4 green card over there???

Put urself in her shoes... If a woman lies 2 u like dat,,,, will u 4giv her???
Posted: at 28-10-2010 10:55 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- galaxi at 28-10-2010 01:41 PM (11 years ago)
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most girls always feel unconfortable one's their spouse is nt around bcos d dont trust them self enough to talk of trustin som1,if am in ur shoes i wil finish wat am doin there b4 comin back home,if she really love u she wil wait 4u.
Posted: at 28-10-2010 01:41 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- juleshotluv at 28-10-2010 01:54 PM (11 years ago)
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You have done the traditional wedding already? Seriously, I dont know what her problem is. She knew the kind of man you were before deciding to marry you so i dont see why all of a sudden it has because an issue. She knew that you were not always going to be home. She has to know what she really wants, knowing fully well the kind of person you are. she has to be willing to stay and know that you are not going to be there at all times. But if she starts this early then what message is she trying to pass across? its where business takes you that you will go, and most at times you are not even sure how long you are going to be gone for. I think you have to really explain to her what your business involves and what it requires of you. If she can be there for you and support you or if she wont.

Posted: at 28-10-2010 01:54 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- patienceudosen at 28-10-2010 01:58 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: promzyobiora on 28-10-2010 08:23 AM
i fall in love with this lady we dated for 7yrs b4 i desides to get married to her though have not done white wedding,on january i told her that i'm travelling to china on business trip that i wil spend only 1month but i intended to stay 2yrs. after some mnths she started persuading me to come back and i told her i'm coming back next year and she told  me she can'nt wait anymore for me,rigth now she is not in my house though she said she is with her sister in ph,plz advice me what to do,my reason of overstaying is to beefup the family's financial startute.again she is a woman i want to spend my whole life with,i love her very much.

Why lie to her in the first place. It shows how unserious you are
You dnt see her as important, dont blame her actions
Posted: at 28-10-2010 01:58 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- teeco at 28-10-2010 02:02 PM (11 years ago)
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sorry sir

Posted: at 28-10-2010 02:02 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- blessedme at 28-10-2010 02:10 PM (11 years ago)
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y did u lie to her in d first place
Posted: at 28-10-2010 02:10 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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